grief and food

[ivyrose325 0]

My favorite uncle just died this past Tuesday, he was in very good health and it was sudden. I was completely shocked to hear this news.

I've lost 3 lbs in 2 days and I don't feel like I can eat anything I think I have had some Soup. This is a complete shock to me when my father died 15 years ago when I was just 10 yo I gained a 70 LBS in 4 months because I just ate constantly.

Is it normal not to be hungry? I understand that this must be part of the "head work " that goes along with the band.

:think

[tonya66 13]

First of all, I'm so sorry about your loss. Death is such a tragic experience for the ones left behind. I recently experience losing my dear grandmother and I miss her everyday.

People deal with emotions in different way, a common one is not eating, your depressed and just don't feel like eating. Sometimes I think deep inside, you feel that if you eat that your "getting over it" so maybe there is some type of guilt assoiciated with it. Just my opinion.

Others turn to food, Its comforting. I seem to be one that turns to food, chocolate, or something of that sort. I tend to drown my sorrows in food. I've learned it only makes me feel worse, not only am I sad, but even more depressed because I eat even more.

[coolcrystal 1]

I don't eat when I'm depressed, and eat when I'm happy and being social eating out all the time with my friends. So, not eating is probably a pretty normal thing when something tragic happens.

Sorry about your Uncle passing... :cry

[gwhite 0]

I want to say how sorry I am that you lost someone so dear too you. It is not unusual to not want to eat and it is not unusual to grab a giant tub of chocolate and want to drown in it...we all deal with greif differently. For me I'm a "not eater" kind of person. When my grandmother and my 3 children passed I didn't eat for about a week after each of the funerals. It took all the energy that I had to just breath. I had to be reminded to eat and even when I did it wasn't that much.

I honestly don't think the band has anything to do with you not being about to eat...honey your still in shock..and that affects your entire body. Be kind to yourself..eat what you can whether its a Protein shake or a bowl of Soup. If you're not getting enough you're body will let you know. In the mean time I'm sending you a gentle :hug: