Jealous Spouse

[LaoDaBeirut 158]

Keep in mind some men don't really understand women's clothing. He may be thinking halter top and shorts as the kind of thing a stripper wears whereas you might be thinking of what they actually look like.

It sounds like you need to have an open honest conversation together.

[catwoman7 11,212]

halter tops? He must be a child of the 1970s! I didn't think people wore those anymore.

Yea - he just sounds worried that other men will find you attractive or something. Which they might. But that doesn't mean you're going to dump him for them! I'd just keep reassuring him of that.

halter tops - those are like miniskirts, short shorts, and bikinis. Those days are long gone for me (I'm in my 60s). Just because I COULD wear them, doesn't mean I WOULD. Or not outside of my house, anyway!

Edited February 19, 2021 by catwoman7

[ms.sss 15,588]

6 minutes ago, catwoman7 said:

halter tops? He must be a child of the 1970s! I didn't think people wore those anymore.

Ummmm....I do. 😂😂😂😂😂

And yep, I'm a child of the 70's.

[catwoman7 11,212]

8 minutes ago, ms.sss said:

Ummmm....I do. 😂😂😂😂😂

And yep, I'm a child of the 70's.

did you buy them recently? I don't think I've seen any in stores in ages. although I haven't been looking for them, so maybe I just haven't noticed.

[ms.sss 15,588]

Just now, catwoman7 said:

did you buy them recently? I don't think I've seen any in stores in ages. although I haven't been looking for them, so maybe I just haven't noticed.

LOL. I bought one just last summer:

[catwoman7 11,212]

4 minutes ago, ms.sss said:

LOL. I bought one just last summer:

oh yea - I've seen tops like that around. These are the types I remember (and was thinking of)

[bufbills 316]

1 hour ago, LaoDaBeirut said:

Keep in mind some men don't really understand women's clothing. He may be thinking halter top and shorts as the kind of thing a stripper wears whereas you might be thinking of what they actually look like.

It sounds like you need to have an open honest conversation together.

I was thinking the stripper thing.

[minimamaz00m 61]

1 hour ago, ms.sss said:

LOL. I bought one just last summer:

Wow that is an awesome outfit. I might be able to wear that this summer! Where did you get that? I haven't seen halter tops in ages. (another child of the 70's here LOL)

[ms.sss 15,588]

4 minutes ago, minimamaz00m said:

Wow that is an awesome outfit. I might be able to wear that this summer! Where did you get that? I haven't seen halter tops in ages. (another child of the 70's here LOL)

The top is from Shein.com ($11 CAD!!)

https://ca.shein.com/Scalloped-Hem-Self-Tie-Crocheted-Halter-Top-p-467624-cat-2291.html

...but the pants I got from side of the road market while on vacation, lol.

P.S. @catwoman7, I DO have a top like that orange print one (but mine is white and gauzy). I went looking for it to take a pic of, but I suspect my Kid stole it and is now lost in her sea of closet clothes. 😂 We'll see if she can turn it up.

[catwoman7 11,212]

1 minute ago, ms.sss said:

The top is from Shein.com ($11 CAD!!)

https://ca.shein.com/Scalloped-Hem-Self-Tie-Crocheted-Halter-Top-p-467624-cat-2291.html

...but the pants I got from side of the road market while on vacation, lol.

P.S. @catwoman7, I DO have a top like that orange print one (but mine is white and gauzy). I went looking for it to take a pic of, but I suspect my Kid stole it and is now lost in her sea of closet clothes. 😂 We'll see if she can turn it up.

I had this one that I bought in 1974 and LOVED. I don't know what happened to it. My mother hated it so she might have thrown it out (wouldn't be the first time - she was famous for throwing out things she didn't like when we were at school), but it could be in a box in my house somewhere, too. This gives me an incentive to start going through boxes - we have a few we haven't unpacked since we moved here 22 years ago!

[catwoman7 11,212]

4 minutes ago, ms.sss said:

The top is from Shein.com ($11 CAD!!)

https://ca.shein.com/Scalloped-Hem-Self-Tie-Crocheted-Halter-Top-p-467624-cat-2291.html

...but the pants I got from side of the road market while on vacation, lol.

P.S. @catwoman7, I DO have a top like that orange print one (but mine is white and gauzy). I went looking for it to take a pic of, but I suspect my Kid stole it and is now lost in her sea of closet clothes. 😂 We'll see if she can turn it up.

those pants look very retro, too. I also wore those c. 1974. We called them "plazzo pants" (not sure about the spelling)

I guess this conversation goes to show you - if you keep things long enough, they'll come back into style!]

P.s. just googled the name of the pants - it's actually "palazzo"

Edited February 19, 2021 by catwoman7

[ms.sss 15,588]

15 hours ago, catwoman7 said:

I guess this conversation goes to show you - if you keep things long enough, they'll come back into style!]

I certainly hope so...i have a rack of blazers and jackets with line-backer-esque 80's shoulder pads that are itchin' to see the light of day. 🤣

[HealthyLifeStyle 351]

18 hours ago, SummerTimeGirl said:

Awww, poor thing. I've often wondered, in doing my research before deciding to take the plunge myself, if maybe our spouses wouldn't benefit from seeing the psychologist too when we go through this procedure. I think it would be a good thing. Maybe a class for them alone and then one for both spouses together so that our fears and expectations can be addressed.

I agree with you on that. There should be some kind of support for the spouses.

[HealthyLifeStyle 351]

17 hours ago, LaoDaBeirut said:

Keep in mind some men don't really understand women's clothing. He may be thinking halter top and shorts as the kind of thing a stripper wears whereas you might be thinking of what they actually look like.

It sounds like you need to have an open honest conversation together.

We had a little bit of a convo last night, but he seemed like he didn't really want to talk about it. I just let it go.

[HealthyLifeStyle 351]

17 hours ago, catwoman7 said:

halter tops? He must be a child of the 1970s! I didn't think people wore those anymore.

Yea - he just sounds worried that other men will find you attractive or something. Which they might. But that doesn't mean you're going to dump him for them! I'd just keep reassuring him of that.

halter tops - those are like miniskirts, short shorts, and bikinis. Those days are long gone for me (I'm in my 60s). Just because I COULD wear them, doesn't mean I WOULD. Or not outside of my house, anyway!

LOL yes he is a child of the 70's! He has not mentioned a bathing suit yet.