Feeling Depressed Due to Complications

[Sara_Lee 8]

Hi everyone,

I really need some advice from people with similar situations. I had my surgery on Nov. 17. At first I was doing well, and I went home. Then I could barely keep anything down, not even Water. I went back to ER for dehydration and then was again sent home. I still was feeling extreme nausea. Then a few days later I went right back. The doctors kept telling me I was not tolerating the VSG surgery and that I should consider a Bypass. I do not want a bypass and that got me depressed. They told me not everyone can tolerate a VSG. Which makes no sense because there are complications with the Bypass as well. Anyways then ended up doing a endoscopy and found a stricture. I was operated on again and this was resolved. Afterwards I still wasn't tolerating food, so they put me on picc line because I was malnourished. Then they told me if I don't start eating they would have to put a food tube in. I finally began eating (poorly, but I am managing). I was sent home.

The problem now is that I can't tolerate Protein Shakes or any medication. I am going to ask my family doctor for Patches. I am eating and its staying down but I feel like crap. I am so nauseous in the morning that I gag when I take my ppi. I also sleeep 12 hours a day. I love sleeping because its my only escape.

I don't know what to do, should I go back to the ER? They told me if I feel nausea that I can go back. I have had nausea for the last 3 days in the morning.

Please help. Does it get better?

Edited January 17, 2021 by Sara_Lee

[Suzi_the_Q 257]

If you’ve been nauseated for 3 days, I’d go back. What does your surgeon say? I’m sorry you’re suffering so much.

[Sara_Lee 8]

10 minutes ago, Suzi_the_Q said:

If you’ve been nauseated for 3 days, I’d go back. What does your surgeon say? I’m sorry you’re suffering so much.

Thank you. I haven't spoken to him. I feel nauseous in the morning when I take the ppi. I just gag, not really vomit because its on a empty stomach.

I am going to wait until Monday and speak to him and my family doctor. I am keeping food down.

Is this abnormal? I thought nausea was normal the first weeks after the surgery. The ER are overrun with covid where I live.

[urbo 1]

I am almost 6weeks out and still have nausea daily, sometimes all day. I am now on 8mg of anti nausea medication. I also dry heave mostly in the morning, and am eatimg a very minimal amount of food as it makes me feel over full. I have found liquid yogurt,, and cottage cheese are my best options.. and Water I don't really feel like drinking or it makes me gag.Just know you aren't alone in this, some of us are just unfortunate with the side affects. I do hope you get relief soon.

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[Sara_Lee 8]

19 hours ago, urbo said:

I am almost 6weeks out and still have nausea daily, sometimes all day. I am now on 8mg of anti nausea medication. I also dry heave mostly in the morning, and am eatimg a very minimal amount of food as it makes me feel over full. I have found liquid yogurt,, and cottage cheese are my best options.. and Water I don't really feel like drinking or it makes me gag.Just know you aren't alone in this, some of us are just unfortunate with the side affects. I do hope you get relief soon.

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I'm sorry to hear that. I drank a tall glass of Water yesterday and woke up feeling okay. I was terrified I would vomit. I think getting liquids in is more important than even food at this stage. What are you drinking?

I need to up my nausea meds because they are useless right now.

I really hope this is not the new normal. Did your surgeon tell you that a bypass is better?

[urbo 1]

I am drinking liquid iv and Gatorade zero. My surgeon said this was the best surgery for me. Just got stuck with some not so good side affects. I'm sure it will pass, or I'm hopimg.

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[GreenTealael 25,353]

On 1/16/2021 at 7:13 PM, Sara_Lee said:

The doctors kept telling me I was not tolerating the VSG surgery and that I should consider a Bypass. I do not want a bypass and that got me depressed. They told me not everyone can tolerate a VSG.

Was this your surgeon?

[Sara_Lee 8]

8 hours ago, GreenTealael said:

Was this your surgeon?

Yes, he wanted to switch me to gastric bypass. He made my stomach too small. I also have H pylori, which I don't understand was overlooked.

He is a kind man and his aftercare was great, but I still have depression from the whole thing.

[Gabriatric2020 2]

I really am sorry that you are going through this. Your feelings are definitely validated and it was such a traumatic experience for you, for us. You most definitely are not alone, I ended up going through a similar experience last month, ended up being hospitalized after being given 3 surgeries (within 72 hours) and than was told I too may need to have the bypass. It was just a horrible experience and I felt/feel so shamed and guilty to even share it with anyone.
fast forward to 6week post op got my crying down to about 3x a week...it was almost everyday. I still think about the risk I went through, and the tears rolling down my husbands face as he drove me to the ER and had to leave me there alone due to covid. It almost feels like grief, and I know this too shall pass. The surgery place I went to has no aftercare post op support other than a FB page, I have been very blessed to be able to follow up with my primary doctor, attend weekly support groups, and access to bariatric medical staff all through my provider. I would encourage you to try to get into a self care regime (things you did before) to help the “good feelings”.

[Sara_Lee 8]

On 1/27/2021 at 12:11 AM, Gabriatric2020 said:

I really am sorry that you are going through this. Your feelings are definitely validated and it was such a traumatic experience for you, for us. You most definitely are not alone, I ended up going through a similar experience last month, ended up being hospitalized after being given 3 surgeries (within 72 hours) and than was told I too may need to have the bypass. It was just a horrible experience and I felt/feel so shamed and guilty to even share it with anyone.
fast forward to 6week post op got my crying down to about 3x a week...it was almost everyday. I still think about the risk I went through, and the tears rolling down my husbands face as he drove me to the ER and had to leave me there alone due to covid. It almost feels like grief, and I know this too shall pass. The surgery place I went to has no aftercare post op support other than a FB page, I have been very blessed to be able to follow up with my primary doctor, attend weekly support groups, and access to bariatric medical staff all through my provider. I would encourage you to try to get into a self care regime (things you did before) to help the “good feelings”.

I feel sorry for you as I know what you are dealing with. Having three surgeries back to back is so hard, I can only imagine. I had to do a endoscopy and had a 2 days rest and then went in for surgery.

I think you can get PTSD from all of this, and it hurts to know that this is a elective surgery. We all went into this with high hopes and dreams of changing our life for the better and instead we dealt with more trauma. I had a spinal surgery in 2019 and I developed a drop foot, which was a complication from the surgery, which I still deal with. I have struggled with depression prior to this and it just hurts.

I have went back to the ER and I get good support there but where I live it is overrun with covid patients, so it isn't the best place to go. My surgeon is very kind and I have his number. He comes to see me in the hospital every morning.

I am doing a bit better but I still stay in bed most of the days. Your advice is great and I agree that I need to get back to a routine. I am less emotional now, I also think the meds they us on make us more emotional.

I wish you a speedy recovery!