Lynda486 784 Posted December 13, 2020 I haven't been here for a bit, since my son committed suicide on Oct. 9th. I wonder if there is anyone here that can relate to a loss like this? Thanks, Lynda 1 2 3 Creekimp13, Suzi_the_Q, Hop_Scotch and 3 others reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Deb9386 110 Posted December 13, 2020 14 minutes ago, Lynda486 said: I haven't been here for a bit, since my son committed suicide on Oct. 9th. I wonder if there is anyone here that can relate to a loss like this? Thanks, Lynda Hi Lynda - I'm so sorry to hear this. You must be hurting so much. My son died unexpectedly 2 years ago and I understand just how devastating a loss it is. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Debbie 1 WishMeSmaller reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Lynda486 784 Posted December 13, 2020 Thank-you and my prayers for you as well. My guilt has been unbelievable and I have been put on two medications. I am getting to the point where I can sometimes talk about him without crying. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Deb9386 110 Posted December 13, 2020 Thank you for your prayers 💗 I understand about you feeling guilt. I feel guilty still about my son's death and think that somehow I should have prevented it. He hadn't been well, but went to Asia for an extended trip and died while there - I "knew" if you see what I mean that he wasn't really well enough to go but didn't talk him out of going. I could have persuaded him not to go I think and he wouldn't have died - so I blame myself for not listening to my "inner voice". As a parent it's hard not to feel guilty if your child dies. It's such an unnatural thing that a child dies before their parent. It's very hard because our sons & husbands so often don't talk about their pain - mental or physical; they hide it from us. Do you have other children? 1 1 1 Kris77, Lynda486 and WishMeSmaller reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
GradyCat 3,695 Posted December 13, 2020 Oh I'm so sorry for your devastating loss. Keep taking the medication and give it time. I can't tell you it gets better, but it does get tolerable. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
RTL1234 99 Posted December 13, 2020 I’m so sorry for your loss. I lost my infant son, and while it is a different loss, I feel your pain and sorrow. It’s a horrible and awful feeling that you carry forever. It’s been 9 years, and time has helped soothe the rawness but the pain never leaves. Lots of prayers and hugs. ❤️ Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Mr Alley Gator 263 Posted December 13, 2020 I have not experienced your loss but with two college sons My heart goes out to you. Try and grieve remember the good times and the wonderful times you had, That is what i had to do when my best buddy went down 20 min after i left his house. For years I wonder if I should have pushed him harder to go to the ER or was there anything I could have done. Years later it still bothers me. Sorry for you loss Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
GreenTealael 25,430 Posted December 13, 2020 1 hour ago, Lynda486 said: I haven't been here for a bit, since my son committed suicide on Oct. 9th. I wonder if there is anyone here that can relate to a loss like this? Thanks, Lynda My Sincerest Condolences Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ChubRub 1,709 Posted December 13, 2020 I am so very sorry for the loss of your son!!! Thinking of you and sending lots of HUGS!!! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
cyberdiva 47 Posted December 13, 2020 My condolences to you. I am so glad that others have taken the time to offer you support. Let's keep doing that, but honestly, Lynda, please consider getting into counseling. Grief is complicated and more so when you add our current pandemic and bariatric life all combined; a strong, effective grief counselor could offer you some much-needed support at this time. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bufbills 316 Posted December 13, 2020 There are no words. So sorry. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ksgypsy 52 Posted December 13, 2020 So very sad for the loss of your precious Son. May he gently rest in the arms of the Angels. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
gonzalezel 0 Posted January 30, 2021 Sorry for your loss. Sending love and strength your way. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Lynda486 784 Posted January 30, 2021 Thank-you so much for thinking of me! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Numbheart 108 Posted March 17, 2021 I am so sorry for your loss, I have not lost a son but I have lost a loved one and I know how you feel. Be strong, I'll pray for you. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites