Feeling frustrated and sad

[Horseshowmom 45]

I had my surgery on 11/9. It was supposed to be a bypass but a lower hernia and scar tissue in my abdomen caused it to become a sleeve. Which is fine, but it wasn’t what I expected. I also had another hernia, hiatal, that he repaired. My doctor is hoping with that repair my horrible indigestion will be long gone and the sleeve will be a good fit, but if not he has already said he would revise it If I got the other hernia repaired first. My doctor is great, I’m not upset with him, but somehow having the plan changed makes me feel like I’m behind.

I lost 20 pounds over 2 weeks on the pre-op diet, but when I finally weighed myself today, well I’m at the same weight I was when I went I for surgery on Monday. I’m sure things will get moving along, I’m following the diet, Protein, and Fluid recommendations religiously, but I just feel a little deflated and defeated this evening. I know those feelings will pass, but I just needed to put into words that I’m just not feeling on point yet.

[Jaelzion 1,127]

If I'm reading this right, you're just 5 days post-surgery? The number you see on the scale doesn't mean much right now. It's way too soon for you to be able to assess what kind of results you are getting. You're just starting to heal - you still have internal swelling (which means Water retention). Stay with your eating plan, give your body time to recover and R.E.L.A.X. This is more like a marathon than a sprint. I lost my weight over 18 months (and I'm still slowly losing). It won't happen overnight, but if you're diligent about following your plan, it WILL happen. Feel better. 🤗

[kellym1220 473]

Agree with the above! Your body is recovering and if you had IV's you are probably carrying some Water weight! Stay the course! HUGS!

[Hop_Scotch 1,632]

You lost a lot of weight in the couple of weeks before the surgery, that coupled with the IV fluids and inflammation will make for a fairly low or no weight loss in the first week or so.

Just keep following your post op guidelines and keep up the fluids and it won't be too long before your efforts are reflected on the scales. Bearing in mind that at this point, scale weight is not as important as getting your fluids, Protein and developing new habits that will help you achieve your goal.

[Elidh 240]

I agree with those comments above. After I had my sleeve surgery, I didn’t weigh myself for 2 weeks. Now, just once a week.

[ksgypsy 52]

It would be disappointing to think you're heading toward one destination and end up in a different 'town'. I hope you are feeling better and obviously your Surgeon made the best choice for your situation. I had my surgery 11-4 and gained weight. I didn't see a net loss until yesterday morning. And it was a couple of lbs. Please try not to feel disheartened. You're doing all you can on your side- the weight Will come off! 🤗

[Mr Alley Gator 263]

Well welcome to the journey ...... So it did not go as expected, who the F@#ck cares you now have made the decision to get healthy! THAT REALLY IS ALL THAT MATTERS! So reach out and get your life in order!

Sorry to be so blunt but we all have been there and now it is your time, you have been given a tool and use that tool to get your life back in order. We all are here so reach out and ask. You are new and this is a journey, but you got this and do not let the head games mess you up

[Hollow star 6]

Try staying off the scale and work on NSV Non scale victories, it helps, little things like remembering your Vitamins, or taking a relaxing nap or Walking outside for five minutes. What works for you the first few weeks are exhausting physically and mentally. It was three weeks be fore I could return to work for no more then 2 hours, it pissed me off I love my job, so have patience with you the weight will come offf, your body has been through something very traumatic, and you have a lot of adjusting to do. Just keep asking question and if in doubt talk to your surgical team. Good luck.

[Horseshowmom 45]

Thanks everyone, I know it is very early days!! I am a perfectionist in everything I choose to take on, this journey is no different, and changing gears unexpectedly definitely felt like a hiccup in a well laid plan. On top of being a perfectionist I am also a control freak, I love to control all variables that are within my ability to control and mold to generate the result that I want; so I now just have to redefine my plan, which may seem silly to so many, but it is just me. Thank you all for taking the time to respond to me. I feel much more ready to tackle everything today after a good sleep and some new planning:)

[catwoman7 11,217]

a lot of people gain weight from the IV fluids they get in the hospital. I've read posts of people gaining 10 or more lbs from it, to be honest. It does take a few days - or even a week - for it to work it's way out of your system. If you're following your clinic's food plan, the weight WILL start to drop off.

[SoulGardener 101]

Horseshowmom, agree with other posters.... this sounds like weight retention. The IV fluids contain lots of sodium. Also your body is in shock. Encouraging you to stick with the plan; this will change eventually!

[stangsally94 1]

I'm struggling to lose with my sleeve and I'm three weeks in. However, measure yourself instead of weighing yourself for a few weeks. You'll see the difference that way. You're doing great! Keep your head up.

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[danahall5885 21]

Oh that does sound very frustrating!! How much have you lost? Logically, you must be losing weight because you’re on a very calorie restrictive diet. I hope you just keep on doing the right things. Those pounds are probably dropping but Water weight is holding on snd covering the loss.

[Grace55 16]

You are doing great. You just had surgery. The member that responded is precise in what she stated. Your Fluid retention is hard at work, swelling will take weeks to return to baseline. Your body has been traumatized, surgically, but trauma all the same. Your physiology needs time to calm down. Your weight will not be accurate, do not be concerned about the scale. Your body needs to heal and recover, this takes time. Success will follow you...no worries. Be patient with yourself & your body. Each person’s anatomy/ physiology is different. How quickly you heal is also different. Try not to make comparisons, something we all do. You will heal, recover and be amazed just how proficient the human body can be. Soon you will see the results of the surgery and see the rewards of your hard efforts. Congratulations! I wish you well - Grace