Feeling down lately

[ResaRoo 77]

I’ve been feeling a bit down lately. I’m almost 8 months post op and so close to 100 lbs down. This past week I gained 4 lbs and it’s really getting to me. Despite losing so much, I still have 100 to go, and I don’t really see where the 100 lbs has come from. I feel so much better physically, but I feel like I look so weird. I’ve gone down only 3 pant sizes and only lost 1 inch around my calves, which seems crazy for a 100 (almost) lb loss. And I have huge calves to start with. (24 inches!!) I don’t know if it’s hormones, stress from work, or if this is a typical feeling at this point in the journey. Any advice or suggestions?

[Lily66 425]

Congratulations on 100 lbs. down!!! Woo-Hoo! Celebrate that every single moment! YOU ARE DOING AMAZING! I can understand your feelings, and it could be partly what you mention, hormones, stress, etc. BUT, it remains, you’ve worked very hard and are being VERY SUCCESSFUL!

You’re not alone in feeling down some days...add in Covid restrictions and concerns along with everything else and it feels normal that we have a bit of that. What isn’t okay, is that last week I was feeling down and ate 5 of hubby’s Hershey nuggets when not even hungry😳! Old behavior that reared it’s ugly head and I caved. I made a list of healthier options for those moments...brush my teeth to change the taste, walk around, wait at least 20 minutes to decide if it’s worth it, put on a fave TV program or music, reach out to a friend, log into Baripal, ANYTHING except cave. The key for us is to FOCUS ON OUR SUCCESS and not the down moments. WHERE THOUGHTS GO, ENERGY FLOWS.

I asked my surgeon why I have not lost more “visible” weight, as you describe. I sure don’t look like I’ve lost 55 lbs., some friends don’t even notice. He explained that we lose from the inside of our bodies out. So the weight you have lost is the most dangerous to your health—- the fat we have wrapped around our internal organs, the deep more lethal fat. In my case, it was the deep belly fat. This is exactly what we want to lose first, in getting to a healthier place. I am only now beginning to see the more surface changes. Keep on keepin’ on and don’t lose the faith. IT IS HAPPENING FOR YOU!!!

Again, CONGRATULATIONS!!🏆👑💖

Edited October 4, 2020 by Lily66

[Danny Paul 761]

Eight months post op, 100 lbs down so far, you're doing well. I've been told the so called honeymoon period is somewhere between 12-18 months. You still have time to make your goal. That being said look at your numbers. How has your A1c, cholesterol, etc been? Are they on the way to a healthier you? If so, you're a winner. I've found through family and friends who have had WLS that you might not get as much weight off as you wanted but your health will improve to be the "normal' range. Remember your health is your wealth and getting healthier is the goal. Work on your success, don't despair and congratulations on your new found health.

[It's time. 145]

Funny about weight loss. I've lost 53 pounds but it seems like I've lost it everywhere but my belly. So frustrating. I was I had taken measurements before I started.

We all have bad days, even before surgery.

[Double_Me 133]

I feel you. I’m about 50 lbs down and still in the same clothing as I started with. I take pictures every 10 lbs I’ve lost, and in the first couple pictures it doesn’t look like I’ve lost that much. But as I’ve lost more weight each lb lost is a greater ratio of your current weight, and the sizes should start dropping quickly. Especially once you get into straight sizes, which seem to be much closer together than say a 3x vs 2x.

[chunkarella 59]

I agree with @It's time. -- we all have good and bad days. 100 lbs isn't anything to balk at. 1 year ago, you might have been stoked to lose 100 lbs. It's so much harder to look at where you want to be, in comparison to where you were. I see myself as losing almost 50lbs since surgery.. and i think "holy crap, I still have 100 more lbs to go!" but honestly, being down 50 lbs in 2 months is huge.

Do you talk to a therapist or anyone about how you feel? Maybe someone outside of your situation can give you some perspective. I vouch for therapy for everyone.. it has saved my life.