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On 11/5/2021 at 7:25 AM, txredbird said:

Wasn't sure how to set profile pics lol .pending-1636719916-Screenshot_20211105-072226_Facebook~2.jpg

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Beautiful pic!

That guy sounds like someone not worth your time. There are plenty of compassionate people out there looking for kindness too.

I'm just 5 weeks post op and dating in general is an unkind world. If I was on a date with someone who made a comment like that, I'd reply by asking how they overcame one of their life's biggest battles and if it was easy for them? If I felt uncomfortable enough, I may just tell them this wouldn't work out and excuse myself. You're not there to please and bend to them. You're your own person and trying to find your significant other who cares about you. Maybe they apologize, maybe they don't.

I hope this helps. It's easier giving advice than listening to my own so I totally understand how you feel and you're not alone. I'm trying to remind myself I'm not in a hurry. Good luck!

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I know your post is from 2020, I was sleeved 8-31 met up with my sister and a friend she brought along last night and he made fun of me about not being able to eat much. Kinda hurt my feeling, kinda blew it off and kept making conversation with others to avoid the comments. NOT sure what I would have done if on an actual date and comments were made, so now I skeptical about dating.

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I say this for myself and for you. That guy was an a$$. What you do or don't eat is nobody's business. Don't let an immature jerk keep you from getting out there. It is important to set boundaries about your eating in a social situation. Good luck!


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It has been 12 years since my husband passed. I am scheduled for surgery August 24. I have not dated at all since his passing But I feel this may change after my bypass. I am 60 years old. Have two wonderful grown responsible children. And three grandchildren that are the loves of my life

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That ended very abruptly!! See you can tell I’m 60 because I am technically challenged… Lol… Just wanted to end on a positive note that good things are coming our way!! This is a start of a brand new world! Best wishes to all that are taking this journey.

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