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losing everything .. so lost now... job gone ... saved retirement gone,.... surgery cancelled ... not much now ... cant pay bills or see a way to catch up ... just want to fall asleep and never wake up ... what will become of us

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losing everything .. so lost now... job gone ... saved retirement gone,.... surgery cancelled ... not much now ... cant pay bills or see a way to catch up ... just want to fall asleep and never wake up ... what will become of us

I am so sorry for you. I know it sounds lame but there are so many people struggling. You are not alone. Eventually life will return to normal and you'll be back on track with your surgery. It's hard to see a light at the end of this but I'm certain there is one. Hang in there. You can do it. We're all stronger than we know.

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Oh no! So sorry to hear of This terrible time you’re having. I hope those checks for the government to help are coming soon! Sending positive vibes to you.

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((hugs)) The 401K will come back if we aren't forced to liquidate! :( Amazon & grocery stores are hiring. There will be relief checks and extended unemployment benes. Please hang on to hope as much as you can!!! Saying prayers for you!

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45 minutes ago, themonk4u said:

just want to fall asleep and never wake up

Nope, you can't sleep, you have some work to do...

I watched a documentary earlier this week on Netflix about virus outbreaks and what can be done for prevention. There was a segment on what is being done with migrants as they enter the US. Don’t want to open a can of worms on this topic either for or against. The fact is if there are services for migrants, there are “services” available for US citizens who are in need. The problem is one must do a lot of research and fill out what seems to be a mountain of paperwork versus what gets simply handed out to those who are not even legal citizens.

Yes, life has thrown you a bad set of cards now, but all IS NOT lost. From your profile you’re in PA, get on a computer, do a Google search on “Support services and programs in Pennsylvania” and start researching your options. There are plenty, apply for anything and everything, state and federal level! Got turned down, apply again!

Assuming you have a roof over your head but can’t pay your mortgage or rent due to the job loss, that’s the least thing to worry about. Rent/Mortgage is the last thing you would be paying in a situation of extreme limited financial resources, the necessities come first. It takes months for a formal eviction to be legal and with the court systems in turmoil from CORVID-19 closings and most likely the Federal Government will be stepping in since many will be in the same predicament, you will have some extra time to get some assistance before worrying about finding a new place to live.

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We are with you - don't give up. Take each day as it comes... don't look too far in to the future. This WILL pass. Things WILL get better. If there is anything we can do to help, please reach out to us. Sending big hugs.

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Are you eligible for unemployment and have you applied? Are you able to work and do you want job ideas? I'm from State College, PA and can research resources. Please let us know what you need. This virus is getting everyone down. Just making myself get up and walking my dogs in the rain gave me a boost today.

I lost 100K+ in the market, but I believe a lot of it will come back. As for the rest, it was overinflated and due for a correction. It sucks, but it's not something we can really do much about now, except trying not to sell and lock in your losses.

Can I help? You sound so down. The suicide hotline number is 1-800-273-8255. Please call them if you are feeling suicidal. I'm worried about you. Let me know how you are doing.

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Do not sell - Just be patient! Markets go up and down! Live simple and get thru this! We are all here for you and this is rough times. Let this go thru and then let the market rebound- It will take about 13 months!

Money does not buy your life! You can live and be happy by living simple and as for Job get one you love!

All of us here got your back - Life sucks but you gotta enjoy what you have left in it!

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losing everything .. so lost now... job gone ... saved retirement gone,.... surgery cancelled ... not much now ... cant pay bills or see a way to catch up ... just want to fall asleep and never wake up ... what will become of us

Slow down. Take it one day at a time. Life is still a head. Why give up now? Somebody needs you including yourself. Peace

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Say prayers, God answers. :) From one of my friends who works in health care, posted this online. I didn't want to call the number and tie up the line, but can't absolutely confirm this is true:

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