Looking for support

[stutj 1]

Hi everyone, im 4 weeks post op gastric bypass. I have lost 8 kg so far, but mostly due to not being able to eat either due to liquid diet or my recent ulcers

i feel fine now. But im afraid the honeymoon period is already over. Im no stranger to weight loss surgery this is my third...i just feel a type of exhaustion coming over me...i have lost 30 kg in the past...and now thinking about my 8 just seems like im such a long way off...especially since this time i started heavier than before. I dont have access to psych support..im wondering if at least i can find some people to talk to here...

...i still crave food...i had 12 pieces of sushi today...why am I tolerating this much food? I feel too heavy to exercise, my back and knees hurt...i just feel i did all this for nothing its a very dark day for me today i feel i will never reach my goal

[GreenTealael 25,372]

Today may be dark but tomorrow can be a little brighter. Take a little time every day to recognize what you hope to accomplish and how you will get there. Try to actively plan for your success.

The internet has a wealth of self help materials until you can establish a provider

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-older-dad/201208/building-happy-life-five-ways-change-your-self-defeating-habits

https://www.mindful.org/curb-self-defeating-habits/

https://spacioustherapy.com/eliminate-self-defeating-behaviors/

https://chopra.com/articles/simple-ways-to-improve-your-mood-in-5-minutes-or-less

http://theconversation.com/five-lifestyle-changes-to-enhance-your-mood-and-mental-health-102650

[catwoman7 11,213]

don't chase the "full" feeling. I can't even eat 12 pieces of sushi at almost five years out. Measure out what you're supposed to eat and just eat that, even if you're not "full" when you're finished. Besides, you've likely had more nerves cut with this surgery - it'll take awhile for them to regenerate.

[stutj 1]

Really? So why can i eat this much ...ive been trying to reset my brain but to be honest im not sure how to walk away from a meal not full. What do you mean nerve endings? When they heal i should be able to eat less?

[catwoman7 11,213]

3 minutes ago, stutj said:

Really? So why can i eat this much ...ive been trying to reset my brain but to be honest im not sure how to walk away from a meal not full. What do you mean nerve endings? When they heal i should be able to eat less?

no - I meant you'll feel restriction when the nerves are healed (and when you're eating solid food).

I'm afraid you'll have to learn how to walk away from a meal when you're not full or it's going to be a real bear to lose the weight. I get it - I deal with this every day. But for me it's either that or gain the weight back. This isn't easy!