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I splurged this week on new underwear, the first since surgery. I was careful to use my measurements to buy them and brought them home and washed them, as I always do before wearing them. I took the panties out and immediately said to myself, no way my big a** will fit these, to my surprise they fit. I did and said the same for the first lacey bra I've had in decades. It fit too. I need to be kinder to myself and not allow my head to talk to me like this. An exciting day and a big victory that I can't share with anyone but my husband, he's thrilled BTW. I suspect it will take some time for the head to catch up with the body. Now if I'm in an accident and rushed to the ER I will be known as the granny in sexy undies, and not granny panties!

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I asked myself that question the other day - We are about the same time post WLS and the other day I took my kids shirt - Due to the fact I am still looking like a homeless guy and have bought little clothing till i hit the bottom weight,

I went to my room and looked at the shirt and said no way going to be to tight, Put it on and it was actually a little loose.

Not that I answered you question but i want the same answer also!

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17 minutes ago, AJ Tylo said:

I asked myself that question the other day - We are about the same time post WLS and the other day I took my kids shirt - Due to the fact I am still looking like a homeless guy and have bought little clothing till i hit the bottom weight,

I went to my room and looked at the shirt and said no way going to be to tight, Put it on and it was actually a little loose.

Not that I answered you question but i want the same answer also!

You've done great! Time to get yourself a few things. I guess it will just take time, but it is a wonderful problem to work on!

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I am 1 year post op and have been at goal for 5 months. I have pretty much accepted my new body shape and size now, but it sure took a while. I found myself comparing my size to others at work who wore the same size scrubs - small. They looked so tiny and I had to realize that I did, too, if I was wearing the same size. :)

I still find myself with self doubt and insecurity in public, however. It is as if I still feel like the fattest girl in the room. I know I am not that girl anymore, but I still lack confidence. It will take more time to change that aspect of the mental damage done by decades of obesity.

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I'm about three weeks post op. I wore 46 inch pants the day of the operation. Now, I'm in 40s. I can fit into 38's but they're a bit snug. Looks like I'm buying new pants every two weeks. I've gone from XXXL to XL in sweats.

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