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You can only offer so much advice; if someone chooses not to take it then plz do not complain about Your slow weight loss without expecting back lash...

We maynot be "qualified" dietitian but we HAVE actually lived with WLS and if we have done well it shows that we must know what we're talking about...

People have got to stop making excuses to eat bad food unless they want to go back to their unhealthy weight...

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3 hours ago, darcyjae said:


You're clearly conflating this person's situation with your own journey. You may be fine and dandy with eating candy floss or twinkies or whatever you like—and if you are, and you are satisfied with the progress you made.

So does everyone else. Everyone who thinks that this is not happening... think again. Our own stories or "journeys" influence our thinking a great deal, even though we might not like to hear that.

Sad thing is, that almost no one on this boards seems to believe that you don't always need to "try harder " or "eat less" . Also people don't seem to realize that "eating healthy" and "losing weight" are by far not the same thing. One can eat the unhealthiest diet on the planet and still lose weight if one is creating a calorie deficit. Again: see Twinkie Diet.

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Peace.

Yes. That's why I won't comment on the rest of your post.

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^^^ if you're going to continue to give bad advice and make excuses to eat crap you are not helping anybody!!!!!!

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Thank you for the advice. I do see the nutritionist tomorrow.. And will try to remember to start a food diary. I have been drinking an excessive amount of Gatorade and Powerade. But was told that was good to help me stay hydrated. Maybe cut out that and switch with more Water. All really good ideas. Thank you for no judgement. And great suggestions
Maybe try the sugar free Gatorade?

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I really love the zero Vitamin Water - sweetened with stevia.

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On 1/19/2020 at 10:22 PM, Seimmaj said:

Hello. I had a friend suggest this site to me. I'm 6 weeks out tomorrow and i have overall lost 11 lbs. From surgery til now.. The entire 6 weeks.. 11 lbs. The dr told me I was in the 1% that hasnt lost 20 lbs in the first 2 weeks. I follow the diet. I walk everywhere. I mostly eat just meats.. And vegetarian friendly alternatives. Last week my friend suggested i start measuring myself. I have lost 2 inches around the biggest part of my belly. But im not sure what to do anymore. I'm trying to keep on top of everything it just seems the more i try the less I lose. Does anyone out there have some much needed advice for me?

Hello Seimmaj,

Everyone so far seems to be obsessed with your Fluid intake, what it contains and etc and so forth, but no one has asked about your diet. You say you eat just meats, mostly. What kinds? If they're high in sodium you could be retaining Water. If they're high in fat content, maybe that is messing you up. I too, eat a lot of meat, but I make sure that it isn't brined before I cook it and that it doesn't have a lot of marbling in it.

Still, you are making progress and not everyone loses the same as everyone else. Maybe you are just a slow loser. If all your Vitamin levels are good, and you're following the diet that your surgical team have put you on, you will see results.

I've also read on here about stalls, and maybe that is what you are experiencing. Don't lose hope and don't lose your enthusiasm about this journey. No one ever told us that it would be easy, just that it would be worth it in the end. You'll get there. Trust the process and keep up the great work!

Please don't judge the people on these forums by just those who have commented in this thread. We are a very diverse group who are all on our own journeys. What works for one doesn't always work for the other. And most have everyone's best interests at heart. Stick around for a bit and check out some of the other threads.

Hope to see you around and hear more about your amazing journey.

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