I'm so upset, I'm a slow loser

[Panda333 276]

Just have to vent. I had my surgery on Oct 1, 2019. I weight 285 then. Today I only weigh 255. everyone on the board seems to lose 10 lbs a week and it's been almost 3 months I've only lost 30. In total since starting this journey I've lost is 52 which I should be happy. I was doing okay then when I went to the follow up the nurse practitioner said I need to eat more food and to eat 1000 calories a day. I'ts been hard but I've been forcing myself too. maybe that's whey i'm lot losing as fast. The funny thing was I was following "their" program which was getting me to 400 calories a day with the Protein, and liquid diets. This is my biggest fear. I had the surgery, messed up my insides and I'm just failing at this. I have my 3 month follow up on Monday and will see. I should have lost 90 by now.

Edited December 27, 2019 by Panda333

[Losingit2018 1,170]

It may seem like everyone on this board loses fast but I assure you that is not the case.

Some may lose faster than others but I doubt most average out 10 pounds per week. Initial weight may go quickly but it also slows way down after the first month. From my experience.

15 pounds per month is not bad at all! Hang in there and keep doing what you are doing. Slow and steady wins the race.

Edited December 27, 2019 by Losingit2018

[🌱VeGan❤️HeArT🌱 97]

That’s not a bad thing...This is a journey not a race. Good point your skin has a chance to recoup and bounce back. Your losing weight, so your definitely not failing! Keep doing you!!! You got this!!!

[jinnjuice527 23]

I'm losing slow too, on average 2 to 3 lbs a week and I'm 4 weeks out on Monday. I actually lost more on my pre op diet the week before surgery. How ever I'm still down almost 25 lbs in a month thats way more than I've been able to lose in ages. I average about 600 calories a day some times more some times less and I wonder if maybe I'm not eating enough either. Hang in there you're doing great

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[Isabelmonster 62]

Girl rant on we are all here to help honestly like @Losingit2018 and @Tinesia said it’s not a race tbh yes it’s pain not to lose the weight but atleast you are seeing progress. Plus just think of it this way gives your skin time to snap back and less sagging skin!!! So when you least expect it it just might be a blessing.

[Briswife15 890]

I lose about 10 pounds a month at the most. Be patient, and go easy on yourself. It'll happen!

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[kimberlymi 113]

First don’t stress. Everyone loses at there own pace.
are you exercising a minimum of 30 minutes of cardio or more daily?

Wow at 3 months 1000 calories A day would have killed me. Heck I have not reached that yet and I am 10 months RNY post op. My daily average is 750 to 800 calories, Protein 75 -80g, Water 95 -110 oz,

I exercise 2 + hours daily swimming laps, step aerobics. Yoga I don’t count because I do it just before bed a great relaxation tool I learned.

[mgrand 81]

I have averaged 10 pounds of weight loss a month but spent a good 2 months going up and down 10 pounds. So you are definitely not alone.

[AZhiker 2,253]

Please don't compare yourself to anyone else. Slower loss is not a bad thing. Your skin will not be as saggy, and your mind will have an easier time adjusting to the new body. Body dysmorphia with rapid loss can be very challenging. This is a journey, not a race. The goal is to learn new eating habits, new exercise habits, and to build a lifestyle that will last forever. Listen to your own body. If a 1,000 calories is too much, then cut back. You might like to try Alternate Day caloric restriction. It can help with faster loss, and is actually not hard. Eat 500 calories at least 2 days a week. Then eat normally on the other days. Some people alternate the low calorie days every other day for a while. This strategy sort of tricks your metabolism and avoids going into the starvation mode. Keep exercising and build in some weight training. (I do my weights at home - not a gym. They are really light weights, but its the reps and consistency that matters.) Building muscle mass increases metabolism. Please do not get discouraged. Start setting some goals for yourself that are not weight related - like walking or weights or stair climbing. Or getting more sleep or reaching out to social contacts regularly or reading a new book that stretches your mind or learning a new relaxtion technique. These are all healthy lifestyle goals that we need to work on, and all of them also help with weight loss, either directly or indirectly.

[New&Improved 1,780]

Yeah 1000cal too much yet I'm 2 months out I get max 500cal a day

Edited December 28, 2019 by Superman84

[Krimsonbutterflies 661]

Think if you are losing 10 lbs a month, that's a 100 lbs in 10 months and a 120 lbs in 12 months. Your skin should be in great shape with the elasticity and snap back in shape due to the gradual loss. Stay hydrated, exercise,, get some collagen and Protein. I think you are of the fortunate group.

[New&Improved 1,780]

Skin elasticity comes down numerous things like age genetics etc

[Losingit2018 1,170]

11 minutes ago, Superman84 said:

Skin elasticity comes down numerous things like age genetics etc

I agree. I am a slow loser and still have plenty of saggy, baggy skin.

[Panda333 276]

Thanks everyone, I guess I needed my pity party, lol. You have made me feel better!!

[Fatboyslim1 204]

Congrats on all the loss so far! I beleive the first 50# +/- are the fastest, and the fact that you lost so much before surgery speaks volumes about your dedication. The rest will prob be 3-4# per week.

ive been losing 1 lb per day for the first 24 days and met with my team yesterday. They said it should begin to slow down to about 1/2 # +/- and the whole process should take about 6 months to lost 70+/-# while developing good long term habits.

They also said its time to start exercisin. Drat !