hot chocolate 2354 8 Posted December 18, 2019 Ok so.my sex drive has went up and I dont know what to do this is very personal I know is this because I am losing weight my emotions are all over the place I need answer's my husband is getting more irritated and I am over here mad slash crying omg I cant deal with this psychological ****Sent from my SM-N976V using BariatricPal mobile app 1 1 1 GreenTealael, Ostflicka and FluffyChix reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
AJ Tylo 1,399 Posted December 18, 2019 (edited) Called WLS Head games - But WTF your husband is upset because your sex drive is up.? Tell him he is idiot and enjoy the good time! It will pass i have seen this on here a bunch - on of the WLS guro females will be on shortly But you gave me a idea = Not making light of your situation just for others If there are any Single WLS females who have this sex drive problem - I am here to help - Feel free to come to me! Edited December 18, 2019 by AJ Tylo 1 4 CammyC, Bari_KS, GreenTealael and 2 others reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
FluffyChix 17,415 Posted December 18, 2019 1 hour ago, AJ Tylo said: Called WLS Head games - But WTF your husband is upset because your sex drive is up.? Tell him he is idiot and enjoy the good time! It will pass i have seen this on here a bunch - on of the WLS guro females will be on shortly But you gave me a idea = Not making light of your situation just for others If there are any Single WLS females who have this sex drive problem - I am here to help - Feel free to come to me! LOL. You perv. Ha So I'm not a WLS guru, but gosh, try to take deep breaths and or get out in fresh air and sunshine when the blues hit. I would start crying for no earthly reason and alternately I would have huge bursts of anger and frustration! Hormones are hell! I probably would have had a raise in sex drive if I wasn't an old bag! LOL. Hang in there. Everything will calm down and your hubs will then rethink things! 2 Healthy_life2 and GreenTealael reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JB1 37 Posted December 18, 2019 I am not the guru, just preop vsg for Monday. So I've read lots of forums that address the fact that hormones are stored in fat. This surgery disrupts all that. I have addressed this with my hubby and tried to prepare him for what's to come. Essentially I need a space to cry get mad or whatever and he should find a something to do without bothering me. His response was "so I get to watch a lot of uninterrupted football? Great" Since I've been thru major surgery a few times, I have found keeping yourself occupied, reading, going for walks and not taking what your temporarily feeling at the moment/hrs out on others makes a huge difference. We all know most men have a hard time figuring us out on our best days, let alone when were a hot mess🤣 Good luck and this too shall pass. 3 FluffyChix, Deedee12 and GreenTealael reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
momof3_angels 465 Posted January 16, 2020 LOL at your husband, mine would be in heaven. But... I have noticed after previous significant weight loss I experienced the same. I weighed less. I had more energy. And I felt better about my self image. All this turned into improved sex drive for me. I am sure there is more science behind it, but it can be as simple as what I described. I feel like I am approaching that again. Didn't have a sex drive for the longest time, but I am starting to feel like I am getting there again. I look great. I feel great. I have lots of energy. I feel that my sex drive is improving, but not completely there yet. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SleevedCanadian 7 Posted February 15, 2020 Wish I could relate. Been single my whole life and still a virgin at 46. 1 Ostflicka reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
alex76 184 Posted February 17, 2020 Wish I could relate. Been single my whole life and still a virgin at 46. Have you considered online dating? I consider myself shy, socially awkward, and a bit of an introvert. Bars and social scenes weren't for me. So, 12 years ago I tried online dating and I was lucky enough to meet a woman than I married 2 years later. I was 32 years old at that time. Next month we Celebrate our 10 year anniversary. I dated a few duds before I met her, but it was worth it in the end. Good luck!Sent from my SM-N960U using BariatricPal mobile app 1 trs5502 reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites