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It's not you, it's his reaction to your changes. Men, in general, don't like change. He fears that you're changing and your tastes will change about him and you'll leave him.

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On 1/12/2020 at 11:30 PM, mom2amrt said:

He controls all the money. So I have to ask before spending. We rarely go out as a couple, and the only time we are usually apart is when he goes to work or if I am runnjng a kid somewhere or taking care of his mother.

Ive asked him why he hates everytbing and he just says that it just isnt something he thinks i look good in.

When i ask what he would like me to wear, it always like a size or 2 larger than what Im currently wearing.

He sounds to me like a jealous controlling person who doesnt want you to be slimmer and feel good about yourself incase he loses you and you run off with someone else. He needs to sort himself out and stop being selfish.... if my partner behaves like this then Icant say I'd respond as polite as you.... good luck speaking to him and telling him, you need to put things straight because it sounds like hes bringing you down when you should be embracing the new healthier you xx

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Any update on this?

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1 hour ago, NYJenn said:

Any update on this?

Well hopefully he isnt controlling her phone and doesnt see this post either because he seems like he could manipulate this too.... how he sounds makes me worry about you x

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He is very controlling in all aspects of your life, it may not feel like it to you but this is an abusive relationship even though there isn't any violence.

Please reach out to a trusted family member or friend if you are able to or contact a women's help group in your area.

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