GradyCat 3,695 Posted January 13, 2020 It's not you, it's his reaction to your changes. Men, in general, don't like change. He fears that you're changing and your tastes will change about him and you'll leave him. 1 Steph x reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Steph x 7 Posted January 18, 2020 On 1/12/2020 at 11:30 PM, mom2amrt said: He controls all the money. So I have to ask before spending. We rarely go out as a couple, and the only time we are usually apart is when he goes to work or if I am runnjng a kid somewhere or taking care of his mother. Ive asked him why he hates everytbing and he just says that it just isnt something he thinks i look good in. When i ask what he would like me to wear, it always like a size or 2 larger than what Im currently wearing. He sounds to me like a jealous controlling person who doesnt want you to be slimmer and feel good about yourself incase he loses you and you run off with someone else. He needs to sort himself out and stop being selfish.... if my partner behaves like this then Icant say I'd respond as polite as you.... good luck speaking to him and telling him, you need to put things straight because it sounds like hes bringing you down when you should be embracing the new healthier you xx Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NYJenn 1,463 Posted January 18, 2020 Any update on this? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Steph x 7 Posted January 18, 2020 1 hour ago, NYJenn said: Any update on this? Well hopefully he isnt controlling her phone and doesnt see this post either because he seems like he could manipulate this too.... how he sounds makes me worry about you x 1 Slownstedy reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Hop_Scotch 1,632 Posted January 18, 2020 He is very controlling in all aspects of your life, it may not feel like it to you but this is an abusive relationship even though there isn't any violence. Please reach out to a trusted family member or friend if you are able to or contact a women's help group in your area. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SeattleLady 277 Posted January 19, 2020 Well, just seeing this on here? You sound miserable! However, if he will not change? Then you have to! Life is to short. You are both examples to your children. Is this how you want them to live? Sent from my SAMSUNG-SM-G935A using BariatricPal mobile app Share this post Link to post Share on other sites