Can't see it

[BayougirlMrsS 3,935]

Why do I still see a larger woman? Today i woke up at 141.4.... Loose size 6 slacks and i still feel not thin enough. What is wrong with my brain???? Most people would love to be a size 6..... I still see size 10-12.... I know, i should be grateful that i'm not the size 20+ i use to be.....

[Mom_of_Chaos 545]

Girl I’m right with you I went from a 22 to a 12 with lots more to go and still see the same person in the mirror it’s very common and it takes a while for you to mentally catch up

[ms.sss 15,726]

Keep taking pictures. Write down your measurements. When you start to forget how far you've come (and how awesome you look!), the pics and numbers are there to remind you ❤️

[lvidacovich 372]

I mean, not to be crass, but I see the pics on your profile and I see it! You look great! Might be body dysmorphia issues. I personally have the other issue - I see what I've lost and think I look great and don't see how I can lose another 70 pounds!

[Jack 855]

It took quite a while to realize I was no longer the biggest person in the room. Even now I have to confirm by checking size of the pants I wore to op day so long ago.

[GreenTealael 25,439]

I totally understand!

Here's what can absolutely help:

The right mirror & light (crucial)

Dance moves (to prove you are still that *****)

Theme music (Beyonce- Run the World/Lizzo-Juice)

Outfit & shoes you love (glamorous/ made right/ lacy/ shimmering/ well tailored/ elegant/ slimming)

+optional: hair & makeup & adoring lover 😅

We Body Dysmorphia folk have to Celebrate our bodies in their current and future states or we can forget how far we've come

[Healthy_life2 8,324]

Why do I still see a larger woman? Today i woke up at 141.4.... Loose size 6 slacks and i still feel not thin enough. What is wrong with my brain???? Most people would love to be a size 6..... I still see size 10-12.... I know, i should be grateful that i'm not the size 20+ i use to be.....

On days that I didn't see myself as smaller, I put on my size 24 pair of jeans and looked in the mirror. Hilarious to see them falling off. Size six is great, right? Enjoy it.

Seeing yourself correctly takes time. Its a strange experience.

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[BayougirlMrsS 3,935]

oK.... did what yall said.... Progress.... Thanks

Pants size 10 - 6 = down 2 sizes

Weight 173.5 - 141.4 = -32.3lbs

Bust 44" - 40" = -4" Under bust 34" - 31"= -3"

Right arm 12.5" - 11.5 = -1" Left arm 13" - 11.5 = -2.5"

Waist 37" - 32" = -5"

Hips 44" - 40" = -4"

Right Thigh 24.5" - 21.5 = -3" Left Thigh 24.25" - 22" = -2.25"

[okayestmom 232]

I still have issues with judging how much space I need. I think I can’t fit through an isle because someone is there, but I can! Or I get pissed that someone parked to close to me, but forget I don’t have to open my door all the way to get in my car.

[catwoman7 11,221]

it takes awhile for your brain to catch up. Just this morning I saw one of those "Facebook memory" photos of me that was originally posted three years ago. I thought to myself "wow - I wish I could get that low again - I looked pretty good at that weight". I checked my weight from that week (I keep weekly records), and I weighed exactly the same as I did this morning. Surprise! (I did eventually drop another 15 lbs or so - but I got too, too low. I didn't look very healthy. My current weight is much better for me, but I'm still feeling/thinking like I'm too heavy. Nope! Not if I still look like that picture! (which I do!))

[Jack 855]

a common term I've encountered over the years is "body dysmorphia" describing the problem many of us have had in our personal history, of being able to accurately assess our own notion of 'body reality' as related to size or configuration. It did take considerable time for me to actually recognize myself in the occasional group photo, as I no longer was the largest one in the pack.

There seems to be an emotional component of the 'old me' that doesn't let go any easier than the extra cheeseburgers around our waists.

[nenes78 528]

On 12/4/2019 at 12:11 PM, okayestmom said:

I still have issues with judging how much space I need. I think I can’t fit through an isle because someone is there, but I can! Or I get pissed that someone parked to close to me, but forget I don’t have to open my door all the way to get in my car.

I also do this and am 1 year 8 months out. One time at the market I was waiting for a couple to move and they looked at me oddly for not squeezing by, then I realized it and snuck on by and started laughing at myself.

[okayestmom 232]

I am not alone! It took my 3 years to stop reaching for my head gear (hat) after I got out of the army, so I figure at least 3 years at goal weight before special awareness becomes my norm. 🙃