Phx_Downsizing 2 Posted November 5, 2019 Greetings, I had the gastric sleeve on June 17th, and overall its going pretty well. I do have something that is becoming a bit of a problem. Since I can anonymity on here, I thought I'd ask. How is the sex drive guys? Mine is 1000 x increased. I begin every morning with some with my wife, I masturbate at least 2 x during the day, sometimes 3 (thank goodness I work from home), and at night we have sex. So on average that is 4x a day. Part of me is like this was better than when I was 16, 30 years ago. However, it is becoming a bit consuming. Anyone else have this issue? Is this normal? Does it last (I'm kind of hoping not to be honest)? Thanks. Sorry if it is TMI but it isn't something I really want to bring up with the nurse practitioner. 1 anniedebbie reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Phx_Downsizing 2 Posted November 5, 2019 Sorry, typo. I do NOT want to bring this up with the nurse. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
nenes78 528 Posted November 5, 2019 Its definitely up 🤣. Now I am better than when I was 19 (I was horrible at 16). Prior to surgery I was having issues getting and staying erect. Now I can last longer and then orgasm and keep going. I have had my wife ask "Did I get you?". Never in my life has that been asked by her before. First time she said that I was all smiles. 2 1 Deedee12, Sunshine2020 and Frustr8 reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Beatsalad 13 Posted November 6, 2019 The best part of the surgery, wife loves the loss and the gain;). I have more energy and desire. It also probably has to do with my overall improved health. No diabetes, high blood pressure, or sleep apnea. 1 1 1 Frustr8, defibvt and nenes78 reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
AZhiker 2,253 Posted November 6, 2019 3 hours ago, Phx_Downsizing said: Sorry, typo. I do NOT want to bring this up with the nurse. Maybe you should. I'm sure it's not the first time she's heard this. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Porthous 14 Posted November 6, 2019 I think we all have benefited from losing the weight and getting healthier. I know my sex drive increased, my stamina increased and I too was having some problems maintaining an erections. With that said I think you need to talk with your provider. Going 4x times sounds a bit in excess. I am wondering if you are replacing sex and orgasms with the happiness you got from eating food. When we eat food we love we get endorphins that are released to make us happy. Hence eating pint of ice cream when unhappy makes you happy. Now that you dont get that you could be using the hormonal release from orgasms to satisfy those needs. There could also be some hormonal imbalances going on. Fat releases estrogen so your body may have been compensating with releasing more testosterone to overcome the estrogen that the fat tissue was releasing. Now that you have lost weight body does not know to shut off testosterone. Just some thoughts 1 sillykitty reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kristieshannon 1,668 Posted November 7, 2019 RN here. There is a wide spectrum of “normal” as far as sexuality goes. As long as you and your wife are both happy, you are fine. Things will probably taper down a bit over time when the newness wears off. 2 anniedebbie and Losingit2018 reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
defibvt 348 Posted November 17, 2019 Well, I am not proud, sex has been good, since I had my sleeve in 2015. Initially sex drive took a 100+% increase, and my husband loved it!! (yes, I am gay, sorry, not to offend anyone) ( Now 4+ years out and 53 (okay nearly 54) )... I have peaked my interest in alternative "methods"... I am thinking electric stim options?? Yes, I can get hard, but damn the celebration CUMS late.... 1 EducatingtheMasses reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Losing for Jack 9 Posted November 19, 2019 I am curious as to how long it takes to get this "bump" from surgery. I am about 3-4 weeks post-op (bypass) and have not noticed any difference in drive yet. 1 lvidacovich reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
CalGuy64 66 Posted December 13, 2019 My sex drive went up drastically too. Three to four times a day is seems about right. 1 trs5502 reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Losebig 508 Posted December 14, 2019 Sex drive went up DRAMATICALLY and after a couple of years still is. At times I definitely use that VS food, which is fine as long as you're healthy. Fair warning after you lose the weight you may find yourself with a lot more opportunity for that too.... with or without your spouse, so be careful and smart and there's nothing wrong with 4x a day as long as its not hurting anyone Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
AJ Tylo 1,399 Posted January 2, 2020 Way up just got back From Cuba and took on a 20 year old for five days! No way before this surgery would i have had the confidence to do that 4 1 1 BayougirlMrsS, illailla, Dances with Carbs and 3 others reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
🌱VeGan❤️HeArT🌱 97 Posted January 2, 2020 1 hour ago, AJ Tylo said: Way up just got back From Cuba and took on a 20 year old for five days! No way before this surgery would i have had the confidence to do that Well that's disgusting...she could be your daughter. 1 2 krussedulle , anniedebbie and chattycat reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
AJ Tylo 1,399 Posted January 2, 2020 Different world in Cuba and we are in a mens area - She is much more older then a US 20 year old mentally and Trust me was not my idea. Not that i need to answer to you but that is how that country is! 2 1 minnesotan-guy, illailla and surbian reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
CoramDeo 39 Posted January 4, 2020 PLEASE ladies, look at what forum you are responding in!!!!! 1 minnesotan-guy reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites