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Im am now several pounds under my orginal total weight goal. Seriously I never thought Id be this thin. So I want to go further. Pushed the goal back

Even though I havent beeen this thin since 6th grade, I still look in the mirror and think ugh..look how fat you are. Im not fat..I need to lose like 3 lbs before my BMI says Im healthy. but i see myself in the mirro ugh. I too worry if I will ever be able to love my body, or if all the years of self loathing has bcomes a habit. I look at myself in the mirror and tell myself, :egh, not bad for what you are working with!" Im a size 10... I worry I might need to go see a shrink for help with this..I dont want to obsess with being skinny either. I want to get down to a size I am comfortable with that is healthy and live my life, without being attached to a scale!..why does that seem too much to ask?!

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I, too, am expericing this "phenomenon". I am below my doctor's goal in just over a year. My BMI has gone from 46.8 to 24.4...but I still see myself differently than everyone else does. I do pick apart everything about my body. At my Psyc evaluation, the good Dr. told me this was going to happen. Boy, was she right. I, too, am tettering back and forth on the PS question. I can empathize with you.

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Perhaps part of this 'phenomenon' is that the band makes this all possible. At Weight Watchers this may have been about as far as I could have previously gone, 24.4 BMI, but with the band, I know I can aim for the middle of the BMI or even lower.

175 for me is the heaviest weight in the 'normal weight' range for BMI. But if I want, I can aim for lower. The band makes this all possible and for that, I am eternally grateful.

Paulax, 3 pounds from goal, but with a bit of tummy fat yet to get rid of.

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You're right Paula, what I've found is that moving from the high end to the lower end of your healthy weight range can really make the difference between simply being "not fat" to having a really stunning figure!

I am prepared to accept what flaws my body has but the lumps and bumps and the muffin top etc that I have at the top end of my weight range does not have to be there.

I dont really think there's anything hypercritical about that. Its good enough or really good. Some people are good enough type people, I'm not.

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You're right Paula, what I've found is that moving from the high end to the lower end of your healthy weight range can really make the difference between simply being "not fat" to having a really stunning figure!

I am prepared to accept what flaws my body has but the lumps and bumps and the muffin top etc that I have at the top end of my weight range does not have to be there.

I dont really think there's anything hypercritical about that. Its good enough or really good. Some people are good enough type people, I'm not.

Thanks my dear. And it is YOU who taught me this. Being almost my height. I really am not a big boned gal. Yes, I did look OK at 200, I look great at 178, but as I get lower, each pound really makes a HUGE difference in tweaking things.

hugs my dear fellow Tall Girl.

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