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Hey everyone! I am 39 years old and I have been single for about two months after a six year long relationship. I have the VSG about a year and a half ago, losing about 65 pounds, dropping from 241 to 176. I would love to lose more but as hard as I have been trying, I think my body is just happy at this point.

Anyhow, like I said earlier, I was in a relationship for the past six years. We have a beautiful daughter, so she has been my focus and will continue to be so. It is hard to think about dating though. I am slightly self conscious about the extra skin I have, even though it is only on my arms. I have a good amount of money saved to have it removed, but my ex doesn’t believe in paying child support (even though he makes six figures), so that money will now be spent on an attorney. It really sucks, but it is what it is.

Anyhow, the thought of dating is so scary. I don’t even know where to start, lol! How do y’all meet new people?

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E harmony Tinder Ect, I know people will bash me , but with out social climate today just going up and saying "hi" to someone is a deathwish.

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3 hours ago, TexasMommy80 said:

Hey everyone! I am 39 years old and I have been single for about two months after a six year long relationship. I have the VSG about a year and a half ago, losing about 65 pounds, dropping from 241 to 176. I would love to lose more but as hard as I have been trying, I think my body is just happy at this point.

Anyhow, like I said earlier, I was in a relationship for the past six years. We have a beautiful daughter, so she has been my focus and will continue to be so. It is hard to think about dating though. I am slightly self conscious about the extra skin I have, even though it is only on my arms. I have a good amount of money saved to have it removed, but my ex doesn’t believe in paying child support (even though he makes six figures), so that money will now be spent on an attorney. It really sucks, but it is what it is.

Anyhow, the thought of dating is so scary. I don’t even know where to start, lol! How do y’all meet new people?

Drag him through court and make sure he pays for every day he's missed! Judges just hate men who don't pay support!!!

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HIs loss...you are one beautiful lady :-)

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Several of my friends are in wonderful marriages now after meeting on Eharmony. So I would recommend that. Tinder is good for a hook up but not something serious. My mom won't do Eharmony (she doesn't like some questions on the questionnaire. Basically they try to figure out if you have racial sensitivities to better match you. I don't see a problem with it, but she was offended.) and she has casually dated from Match, but never found anything serious. Hope that helps!

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Thanks y’all! I might try EHarmony or Match soon. 😀😀

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Work and in general referrals

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On 10/9/2019 at 7:51 PM, TexasMommy80 said:

Hey everyone! I am 39 years old and I have been single for about two months after a six year long relationship. I have the VSG about a year and a half ago, losing about 65 pounds, dropping from 241 to 176. I would love to lose more but as hard as I have been trying, I think my body is just happy at this point.

Anyhow, like I said earlier, I was in a relationship for the past six years. We have a beautiful daughter, so she has been my focus and will continue to be so. It is hard to think about dating though. I am slightly self conscious about the extra skin I have, even though it is only on my arms. I have a good amount of money saved to have it removed, but my ex doesn’t believe in paying child support (even though he makes six figures), so that money will now be spent on an attorney. It really sucks, but it is what it is.

Anyhow, the thought of dating is so scary. I don’t even know where to start, lol! How do y’all meet new people?

No advice on the meeting new people thing but it is fairly easy in Texas to go after your baby daddy for child support just using the attorney general's office....Texas is pretty hard on deadbeats so maybe you can get it without spending a lot on an attorney. Best of luck to you.

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