Supporting Cast

[KishaG 61]

I had no problems whatsoever telling people I was having the surgery done. Pretty much all of my friends and family are excited for me. Even my daughters gymnastics coaches are extremely supportive of my decision. They love seeing my updates, even a teacher I had in HS (I gradated in 1992!!) is following it and has told me she's one of my biggest "fans" My family is amazing, my husband was deployed on my surgery day so at age 45 my daddy drove me to the hospital and drove me home and my mom stayed with me for almost a week to take care of me. My 12 yo is so amazing and supportive over it, she loves to ask me how much I have lost and gives me high 5's etc. My 25yo is supportive as well however he is one who was always more worried about my smoking than my weight when he was growing up. For him I made sure he knew I was well taken care of here so he wouldn't even think about trying to take leave to come home for it.

I have only had one friend of mine who felt the need to tell me that she didn't think her bmi was high enough and even if it was "I couldn't handle the loose skin" why she felt the need to tell me that I don't know but that was the only not really supportive comment I have gotten she is one though who thinks she is perfectly healthy obese and it's not her fault she doesn't lose weight...so that could play into her reply too she just seems to take my having surgery personal. Whatev her opinions don't bother me in the least I did this to better myself and to stop worrying about the ticking time bomb to diabetes or heart problems.

I hope you are able to have a wonderful supporting cast. For me knowing I had so many rooting for me makes me feel amazing.

[Frustr8 7,886]

Kisha and Krimson Butterfly- Its the dog-honest thing. Now that I am 1/2 the size I once was , really-truly AM , down to 182 from HW of 365+, people are coming out of the WoodWork, "Oh I have been watching and supporting YOU all along!" I knew YOU could do it, should I have told YOU?"
Yeah it sure would have been nice, especially when I had my PICC line in and didn't know how long That Might Be!
Suddenly they want to support ME but where were they when I was scared to death to even undertake it at 72, with so many telling me "I was DESTROYING my health" Should be satisfied to do NOTHING and die OBESE" You'll die on the Operating Table Anyway!" I seem to recall only Tomkitten , my son, really cheering me ON. Even my PCP, the very one who forecast "Death Before 75 " and told me Surgeon #1 was right to drop me because I was over 70 and a BAD SURGICAL RISK! Incredibly he now is Peeved because I have lost weight so Fast, told me He only expected ME to drop 70% of my Excess Weight, That's a VSG amount- I'm an RNY Bypass- We Lose 75 to 85%- wouldn't YOU THINK a DOCTOR Should KNOW THAT?
Perhaps I should smile sweetly but inside I AM SEETHING- Seems like it's "A Little Too Late To Do the RIGHT thing NOW!" See I Had convinced myself it was
The Right Time- The Right Operation- Done in the Right Place- By the right surgeon- For the Right reasons- To the Right person- but from then on I should use every tool possible to ensure IT All Was Not in Vain. And I worked HARD, So Very HARD to prove I was just as good as people 1/2, even 1/3 MY Age . And Now Suddenly They WANT to join MY PARADE? I just can't fathom it All!

[KishaG 61]

8 minutes ago, Frustr8 said:

Kisha and Krimson Butterfly- Its the dog-honest thing. Now that I am 1/2 the size I once was , really-truly AM , down to 182 from HW of 365+, people are coming out of the WoodWork, "Oh I have been watching and supporting YOU all along!" I knew YOU could do it, should I have told YOU?"
Yeah it sure would have been nice, especially when I had my PICC line in and didn't know how long That Might Be!
Suddenly they want to support ME but where were they when I was scared to death to even undertake it at 72, with so many telling me "I was DESTROYING my health" Should be satisfied to do NOTHING and die OBESE" You'll die on the Operating Table Anyway!" I seem to recall only Tomkitten , my son, really cheering me ON. Even my PCP, the very one who forecast "Death Before 75 " and told me Surgeon #1 was right to drop me because I was over 70 and a BAD SURGICAL RISK! Incredibly he now is Peeved because I have lost weight so Fast, told me He only expected ME to drop 70% of my Excess Weight, That's a VSG amount- I'm an RNY Bypass- We Lose 75 to 85%- wouldn't YOU THINK a DOCTOR Should KNOW THAT?
Perhaps I should smile sweetly but inside I AM SEETHING- Seems like it's "A Little Too Late To Do the RIGHT thing NOW!" See I Had convinced myself it was
The Right Time- The Right Operation- Done in the Right Place- By the right surgeon- For the Right reasons- To the Right person- but from then on I should use every tool possible to ensure IT All Was Not in Vain. And I worked HARD, So Very HARD to prove I was just as good as people 1/2, even 1/3 MY Age . And Now Suddenly They WANT to join MY PARADE? I just can't fathom it All!

If you can manage to bite your tongue with those who actively rooted against you, you are a stronger person than I am.

How you were treated by people even if your PCM is horrible! I just don't understand how people can be like that.

It is amazing how hard you have fought for your health and I am so happy for you.

[Frustr8 7,886]

Thanks Darlin' It does Mean a Lot to ME. Oh I still struggle, maybe I always Will- But You Know, I STILLCAN DO IT AND I WILL! And I am exceedingly Proud of the Strong Person I now Know I Am!

[Krimsonbutterflies 661]

49 minutes ago, Frustr8 said:

Thanks Darlin' It does Mean a Lot to ME. Oh I still struggle, maybe I always Will- But You Know, I STILLCAN DO IT AND I WILL! And I am exceedingly Proud of the Strong Person I now Know I Am!

Strength is in silence sometimes. Victory is in your walk. Hold your head high and bask in the accomplishment of no longer being morbidly obese. You know that you are worthy of every reward that you are receiving from your choices and for advocating for your life 😘😘😘😘

[Krimsonbutterflies 661]

Update:

I'm listening to people talking about wls and obese people who have lost weight via surgery. I will sum it up with the saying, "Ignorance is bliss..." These people who'd benefit from addressing their own problems and weight issues, are very opinionated and undereducated regarding our community. This is hard enough for me on my own and getting my mental in sync, I refuse to invite unsolicited advice and views in on my personal journey. Supporting cast, isn't looking for extras or drama. We each approach and deal with our journey the best way for us..