Lies to tell people about what surgery I am having

[brittanyatwalsh 48]

On 6/11/2019 at 8:45 AM, Michael S said:

Thanks for your responses. I may go with gallbladder. I am just worrying more about recovery time. An injured firefighter is like an injured quarterback. You sit the bench ... you loose your spot.

What did you end up doing?

[brittanyatwalsh 48]

On 6/15/2019 at 11:02 AM, Sandra Nuelken said:

On the Keto diet, because basically you are and because of that your tolerance for carbs and sugar are really low. As for the days off due to surgery tell them it was something personal. I was a teacher and had the band over summer and said nothing except to a few friends, they were worried because I was dropping weight quickly. Then one day one the meanest girls in the class said, you know we notice are you dying or something? I assured her I wasn't.

Hey, teacher here too, sleeved over the summer!!! I've told my two best friends who also work in the district, and one of them actually took me for my surgery. Any ideas on what to say to the rest of them when August comes?

[Sandra Nuelken 419]

25 minutes ago, brittanyatwalsh said:

Hey, teacher here too, sleeved over the summer!!! I've told my two best friends who also work in the district, and one of them actually took me for my surgery. Any ideas on what to say to the rest of them when August comes?

I said I was doing a modified Keto diet, and I just wasn't hungry with it. I only had a few very funny happenings. Toward the end of the year, one of the students asked if I was dying as I kept getting smaller. Another thing that happened to me was my stomach was growling all of the time. During state testing when everyone was absolutely quietly working on their tests off would go my stomach for about 2 minutes. They were used to it so they tried to not laugh. When I told them I had to lose weight for health reasons they were very supportive, unusual for middle school students! Good luck!!! I'm now waiting for my insurance approval.

[brittanyatwalsh 48]

2 minutes ago, Sandra Nuelken said:

I said I was doing a modified Keto diet, and I just wasn't hungry with it. I only had a few very funny happenings. Toward the end of the year, one of the students asked if I was dying as I kept getting smaller. Another thing that happened to me was my stomach was growling all of the time. During state testing when everyone was absolutely quietly working on their tests off would go my stomach for about 2 minutes. They were used to it so they tried to not laugh. When I told them I had to lose weight for health reasons they were very supportive, unusual for middle school students! Good luck!!! I'm now waiting for my insurance approval.

So you haven't even had the surgery yet! I used the same excuse- Keto diet during my pre-op diet. How long have you been on a pre-op diet for? I find it so odd how long it takes for the approvals from insurance. I feel like mine was done in no time.

I'm not worried about the kids, I'm more concerned with the other staff members. I teach in a very toxic environment- A teacher might come to you being supportive but behind your back she will say very mean things.

[Sandra Nuelken 419]

1 minute ago, brittanyatwalsh said:

So you haven't even had the surgery yet! I used the same excuse- Keto diet during my pre-op diet. How long have you been on a pre-op diet for? I find it so odd how long it takes for the approvals from insurance. I feel like mine was done in no time.

I'm not worried about the kids, I'm more concerned with the other staff members. I teach in a very toxic environment- A teacher might come to you being supportive but behind your back she will say very mean things.

I had the lap band for 10 years, after many issues I had I removed a year ago. Then in March, I decided to return to freedom. I find the weight so hinders my ability to do what I want and it came back so fast after the band removal I started the process. It was over a 90-day "diet observation" with dieticians, which I knew more than them as I've done this for 9 years, then meeting with a nurse in food classes. A real eye roll as this nurse had not had the surgery and he was telling us how we would feel. The psych review now the wait. 3 weeks for insurance then schedule the surgery. I was a self-pay last time and only had to do the psych eval. I didn't want to pay again. You will find that as you are losing the weight some will be very supportive, then others jealous as we have all tried to lose but failed. The others will say you took the "easy" way out. I found after my journey then soon discovered it wasn't easy, and the started to look up to me for my decision. I think the hardest thing I had to adjust to was strangers would talk to me in stores, fat people are invisible and I never had strangers come up and start conversations. Good luck and ignore the haters. This is for you and not for them.

[brittanyatwalsh 48]

2 minutes ago, Sandra Nuelken said:

I had the lap band for 10 years, after many issues I had I removed a year ago. Then in March, I decided to return to freedom. I find the weight so hinders my ability to do what I want and it came back so fast after the band removal I started the process. It was over a 90-day "diet observation" with dieticians, which I knew more than them as I've done this for 9 years, then meeting with a nurse in food classes. A real eye roll as this nurse had not had the surgery and he was telling us how we would feel. The psych review now the wait. 3 weeks for insurance then schedule the surgery. I was a self-pay last time and only had to do the psych eval. I didn't want to pay again. You will find that as you are losing the weight some will be very supportive, then others jealous as we have all tried to lose but failed. The others will say you took the "easy" way out. I found after my journey then soon discovered it wasn't easy, and the started to look up to me for my decision. I think the hardest thing I had to adjust to was strangers would talk to me in stores, fat people are invisible and I never had strangers come up and start conversations. Good luck and ignore the haters. This is for you and not for them.

Wow, thanks for your inspiration. I was also banded - I was banded in 2005 and removed in 2018 due to a slippage. I told myself I wouldn't get another bariatric surgery but here I am with the sleeve! I had lost about 70lbs on the band initially then gained it all back plus some. When I had the band removed, I continued to gain more weight so that is why I decided to go forward with the sleeve. Hopefully this process goes by smooth and quickly. You'll have to let me know when you get a date set!

[Sandra Nuelken 419]

17 minutes ago, brittanyatwalsh said:

Wow, thanks for your inspiration. I was also banded - I was banded in 2005 and removed in 2018 due to a slippage. I told myself I wouldn't get another bariatric surgery but here I am with the sleeve! I had lost about 70lbs on the band initially then gained it all back plus some. When I had the band removed, I continued to gain more weight so that is why I decided to go forward with the sleeve. Hopefully this process goes by smooth and quickly. You'll have to let me know when you get a date set!

Wow, banded 2005 too with the old style band. I lost close to 100 and gained 20 back. Had a Tummy Tuck, almost died from clots. Then started to gain the weight back. Very slowly at first and when I went in for adjustments I kept getting sick, that was when they admitted it might have slipped, I had to ask to have it removed they never suggested it. My sister had the sleeve and went from size 18 to 10 and was doing great, but decided she wanted to eat her way and drank diet sodas from the beginning. Now she has put on weight and is working to get it off. Her surgery was 2006 or 7. I know I can eat the right way and I've not had a carbonated drink since 2005. I wasn't going to do the surgery but my knees can't take this weight and I don't want to spend the rest of my life sitting in a chair. We have a boat and I can't swim in the lake this year because I can't get up the ladder. So I'm ready for the big step because the rewards are worth it. I have my Protein Drinks stored up. Do you drink any clear Protein drinks? I'm not sure which is better, I can't do artificial sweeteners as I get headaches.

[brittanyatwalsh 48]

2 hours ago, Sandra Nuelken said:

Wow, banded 2005 too with the old style band. I lost close to 100 and gained 20 back. Had a Tummy Tuck, almost died from clots. Then started to gain the weight back. Very slowly at first and when I went in for adjustments I kept getting sick, that was when they admitted it might have slipped, I had to ask to have it removed they never suggested it. My sister had the sleeve and went from size 18 to 10 and was doing great, but decided she wanted to eat her way and drank diet sodas from the beginning. Now she has put on weight and is working to get it off. Her surgery was 2006 or 7. I know I can eat the right way and I've not had a carbonated drink since 2005. I wasn't going to do the surgery but my knees can't take this weight and I don't want to spend the rest of my life sitting in a chair. We have a boat and I can't swim in the lake this year because I can't get up the ladder. So I'm ready for the big step because the rewards are worth it. I have my Protein Drinks stored up. Do you drink any clear Protein drinks? I'm not sure which is better, I can't do artificial sweeteners as I get headaches.

I drink Premier Protein drinks - Pic attached. How is it possible to eat and drink soda from the get go? Didn't her stomach stretch? NO leaks? That's unbelievable.

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Some people just live a charmed life while others struggle and try their best to follow all the rules set down. But as the snake said after biting and injecting venom--
THAT'S LIFE IN THR JUNGLE, BABY!

[debra102364 148]

This was brought up in a 2015 forum....But I need an excuse. to tell my coworkers. If they found out I will loose my spot. I am a firefighter , so they will have no mercy.

I am wondering if doctor will tell them what I am having surgery on or speak to ones on my list while the ones, I don't want to know are present or have visitors come, the nurse or doctor may talk to me in front of them. Good luck keeping your secret.

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[LisaCh 13]

I just got mine done yesterday. Told everyone at work and most friends hernia repair. When i start losing weight i will tell them my doctor sent me to a nutritionist because the her hernia was weight related.

[ARMoma45 353]

On 6/19/2019 at 1:05 PM, Briswife15 said:

I didn't tell anyone what surgery I was having except for our department head. I just said "surgery" and left it at that. No one asked.

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LOL that would not work in my dept. They'd have me having some extreme crazy surgery lol. I work with a lot of nosy folks.

[Sandra Nuelken 419]

In the south, we can be passive-aggressive in a very disarming way. When people ask you if you're losing weight just say "why thank you what a nice thing to say." then nothing else. Just respond with kind words and no answers. Then when you are ready you can say something. I was down 70 pounds before I said something.

[Frustr8 7,886]

Yeah I do like the Passive-Agressive approach. Since I am a little farther North in the Midwest I would say similar to "If you will forgive me for not answering , I will forgive you for the poor taste in Asking in the First Place!" You really don't owe Anyone an Explanation!

[ypease 177]

I had a lot of nosy coworkers as well. And the gossip about the “unknown” no matter what it was about was outrageous! When I had a previous surgery, I didn’t tell anyone what it was for. The super asked me for auth to disclose to staff and I refused. I loved hearing the rumors about me! Some folks were very inventive in their attempts to get me to “spill”. I never did. Some folks got very angry and expressed their anger to me. I still kept silent.

One of my coworkers actually brought up the issue at a staff mtg. The super asked me to comment. I politely stated that a was overwhelmed with my coworkers concerns, however, my healthcare is a very personal issue and it should remain as such. And that it is never a demonstration of professionalism to share with anyone during working hrs, their personal issues, no matter what they may be. You’re right if you are thinking I was not a personal favorite from then on. However, no coworker ever wasted my time with useless gossip after that.