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I’m 2 1/2 months out. 63 lbs down. I’m in a battle with finding different foods that won’t make me sick and that agrees with my new pouch. My boyfriend just does NOT understand my issues because he knows someone who was sleeved and he was able to eat anything and not be affected by it. I’m sooo different. Anyone been through this? Feeling alone at this point.

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Why is your boyfriend comparing the two of you? Everyone's WLS journey is different? Try not to compare yourself to anyone else's progress or journey. Hang in there.

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Congratulations on your loss. And what GradyCat said.

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i haven’t had surgery yet, but so far i’ve read of all kinds of different food issues that people have experienced post surgery ... and those that haven’t ... it’s your journey and everyone experiences things different. You are doing great with the weight loss but i hope you find things that agree with you more soon ... maybe if he read a few other experiences that show differences to his friend it could help? hard knowing on that

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I didn't have sleeve surgery, I had MGB and I can eat anything now. BUT there is no way I could eat most of the stuff I can have now at 2.5 months out. It took me a good 6 months to work up to it. At 2.5 months, I was still on soft foods and slowly introducing more solids but it had to be solids that I could basically liquify with my chewing. I didn't tolerate a lot that wasn't liquid for awhile.

It takes time. It is really important that you give your pouch time to heal. I think you will prevent it from being so sensitive later down the road if you give it time to heal properly and not try to eat things it isn't ready for.

Listen to your body, and take it slow. Everyone has a different journey but your body will tell you when it is ready for something new.

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Everyone is different. My mother in law had the bypass done and she tolerates foods differently than I do. Good luck though, and don't get discouraged. There are plenty of others with your problem and this place is a good spot to talk with others about the surgery.

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