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Did you feel you needed help at home after surgery?

I dont plan plan on bringing a companion with me to surgery, and I wasn’t planning on having anyone stay with me to “look after” me. Did anyone do this and feel they needed help?

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I didn’t really need help after surgery. I did stay with my mom the first 2 weeks after but I didn’t need her help with anything. When I went back home my husband took over walking the dog since he pulls on the leash and I was still sore and weak.

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I had the house cleaned to within an inch of its life before surgery, and stocked up on stuff like toilet paper, paper towels, bottled Water, cat food and litter, etc. I had paper plates and plastic cutlery to use to cut down on dish washing. I have one of those robot vacuums, and knew she I could run her every day anyway. The rest of the family were on frozen dinners and take out for a while after - I didn't really care what they were eating, tbh, and they didn't starve. My husband had to do all the fetching and carrying for 2 weeks until I was cleared to drive - that was the toughest part actually, as he just assumed that I'd take the kids to all their appointments and activities because apparently I'm the default parent.

I barked orders at my daughters from the sofa a lot (12 and 11) - and if all else failed I would get up and painstakingly start to do things myself, and then the guilt would kick in and they'd do whatever needed done (esp laundry).

We muddled through - but prep was the key. I pre-bought everything I possibly could to stock up, and spent about a month before surgery de-cluttering the house to minimise the amount of cleaning that would need to be done.

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Yes, but I'm 54 and depending on your age and capabilities you will do fine.

My daughter stayed with me and helped cook for my husband, do laundry etc.

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No more than usual, Tomkitten and I did just fine. He did my fetching and toting, but since I already have shoulder restrictions anyway, he was pretty cheerful about it, he knows when you add things up it balances out, what he can't do I do in return.

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I didn’t need help, but it was nice to have.

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I've needed a bit of help to walk up the stairs to our front door the day I came home and to retrieve things fallen on the floor, but really everything else I could manage on my own from the outset. That said, I had prepped pretty well for my family and it's kind of nice being pampered a bit.

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My mom came for the surgery and helped take care of my daughters so my husband didn't have to take 3 days off work while I was in the hospital. But once she got me home I didn't need assistance and she left early with my blessing.

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my husband was home that first week and it was great having him there to get things for me, etc, but I probably could have managed on my own if I had to. Other than it being sort of a struggle to get in and out of bed the first couple of days (very sore abs!), I got around OK and felt fine.

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I live alone. Stocked up on the things I thought I needed afterwards and did just fine. My brother provided transportation to and from surgery and would of helped if I had needed it but I was fine on my own. Never took pain meds so I drove pretty quickly. Anything I didn't feel like doing (housework, laundry) waited until I felt like it! I just concentrated on recovery and all went well!

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I didn't need help.

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My surgery is tomorrow and I have my husband, children, and mom. My insurance company offered to send a nurse if I wanted.

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