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I have have my consultation for my surgery just feeling like i dont fully have support. Like last night was trying to talk with my kids about dinner and everything they were suggesting i was telling them i couldnt cause they wouldnt cause they wouldnt help me with keep me from gaining weight and then was laughing at me for trying to get healthy for them and myself. And make me wanna second guess myself if i should check my motives why i should be doing this or who is helping me doing it. Anyone else ever else go threw this

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That's tough if you have family at home counteracting your good decisions. Try to hang in there and make this decision for your own health and for yourself.

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I have have my consultation for my surgery just feeling like i dont fully have support. Like last night was trying to talk with my kids about dinner and everything they were suggesting i was telling them i couldnt cause they wouldnt cause they wouldnt help me with keep me from gaining weight and then was laughing at me for trying to get healthy for them and myself. And make me wanna second guess myself if i should check my motives why i should be doing this or who is helping me doing it. Anyone else ever else go threw this
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Hi, I can understand your frustration. You must remember to put yourself first. Most kids just don't have the support to give especially at the start of this journey.
This journey takes a mind shift. It is going to take a daily fight with yourself to get your goals. Don't set yourself up to have to fight with them too! This is a great place for support and other sights. Sometimes we have to learn to be selfish. This is your body and health.


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I agree with both previous posts! I am so sorry you are going through this right now; especially by family! That’s why I didn’t tell my parents or brothers...I know exactly how they would act. Thankfully my children understand, and have been helpful and encouraging! (My oldest 2 are in their 20’s though) It will be a transition for everyone. I hope their attitude changes soon for you! Maybe try talking to them again, and share your feelings. No matter what, focus all the more..this is for you! (((Hugs)))

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That's tough if you have family at home counteracting your good decisions. Try to hang in there and make this decision for your own health and for yourself.
Don't give up! The way they are acting, try to put it out of your mind, be strong and do what you have to do to get healthy. They will be amazed and proud of you once you get results.

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