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Hi everyone! Newbie there and my surgery is scheduled for April 11th! I was excited for the longest as I feel this is truly what I needed to help with my weight lost. However my mom and aunt are basically just asking me “you can’t just lose it by working out and eating right? It hurts my feelings because I’ve tried that with no true weight loss. In the past I have tried Lipo and quick weight loss options so I can see why she may be skeptical but I’ve done the research and doing better with my eating. Has anyone else had issues with support from family? Did you push back the surgery and try to do it by yourself and just ignored them?

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I actually haven't told my "family" yet. They live out of state. I am however going home this weekend so it will be interesting to see how it goes. My father is elderly so I did tell by brother I was having a procedure done in case something happened but I did not tell him what.

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19 minutes ago, Avery's Mom said:

I hope it all goes well

for you!! I’m a little discouraged but still plan on having the surgery

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I've been very fortunate and I haven't received any negative feedback for my decision, and I've told everyone about it who will listen lol. I hate that they're not supporting you. Our loved ones tend to worry about us, and I'm sure that's why they're saying the things that they're saying. You know why you're making this choice though, and you've researched it, so you know how it can help you. Best of luck to you. I think that you're family will come around the closer your date gets here!

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15 minutes ago, AlexE said:

you gotta do what you need to do for you. I don't expect any negative feedback but did not want them to worry. All fo my friends and work family have been super supportive. I hope you find your tribe who will support you. I highly recommend a support group. your dr can point you to them.

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53 minutes ago, FancyChristine15 said:

I've been very fortunate and I haven't received any negative feedback for my decision, and I've told everyone about it who will listen lol. I hate that they're not supporting you. Our loved ones tend to worry about us, and I'm sure that's why they're saying the things that they're saying. You know why you're making this choice though, and you've researched it, so you know how it can help you. Best of luck to you. I think that you're family will come around the closer your date gets here!

My mom has definitely said she will support me but every other day she says “you can’t just work out?” So I know she’s worried but I have down a ton of research and still going.

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