Sex after weight loss....

[blahblahblah 4]

My husband and I are both banded...we've lost a total of 183lbs....

So far, the change in bed is amazing.

Anyone else??? And what has improved? And what is worse???

[uniqueone 0]

Congratulations To Both Of You!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[DerickM 1]

ummm...I like sex...alot

doesn't mean I get it, I have standards after all. I have never been a one-night-stand kinda guy, except when the hormones take over. I have noticed certain things seem to be growing though, so that has most definitely made it more enjoyable for me and her (I hope).

[Gummiebear 0]

Thats funny u mentioned growing because Dr Oz. on Oprah said that for every 30 pounds a man loses they gain 1 inch of penis size. That has got to be some kind of insperation for the men lol.

As for me I am weird I guess because I just dont want much of anything to do with sex. It was that way before surgery and its that way now. I have absolutely no sex drive at all I feel bad for my hubby lol

[Mariposa Bella 3]

The sex was never bad, but it is outstanding now. The reason for that is that I'm comforable with myself. I don't want to be under a sheet with the lights off.

[losingjusme 12]

same answer as Mbella.

it was never bad, per se. but now ... ummm ... WOW. i think it's a confidence factor.

and smaller for more positions.

[Wheetsin 714]

Thats funny u mentioned growing because Dr Oz. on Oprah said that for every 30 pounds a man loses they gain 1 inch of penis size.

Oh come on.

Losing weight cannot make a penis grow larger. It can make the penis APPEAR larger.

If the above quote were accurate, my clitoris would be about 5.5" longer than it was before I had my band surgery. You'll just have to take my word for it when I say that's definitely not the case.

Look at Patrick Deuel. He lost almost 750 lbs. Let's say his pre-op penis size was your run-of-the-mill 6 inches. He would now have a 31" penis. That's like my leg.

[Wheetsin 714]

And what has improved? And what is worse???

We have always been a very amorous couple - the biggest improvement I can think of is that we can now do positions that we couldn't do when I had as much excess weight. Positions my husband really enjoys, so I always felt bad that I could no longer do them, physically. There are some positions that just aren't doable/realistic when you're very large.

What's worse - the only con I can think of is that some positions cause me pain in my port area. Positions *I* enjoyed, and now usually don't do because of the discomfort.

But I will take that ANY day, over the alternative.

[Daisalana 33]

The inches men 'gain', is the fat/skin recessing away from the penis, so they're not 'growing' they're just allowing more to be out of their body.

I think it's true, but won't say why for love of my dear husband who is gaining weight

Sex has always been good, but I'm up for it more. I feel sexier, and it's not so taxing. More positions I can balance, and it's easier to be bendy.

[Daisalana 33]

BUT.. I do have port pain from missionary sex now, if my legs are up. It pulls badly. I've learned some maneuvers to lessen the pain thanks to Wheet!

[losingjusme 12]

embarrassing confession ...

tummy/pannus too big for normal missionary...

[Jachut 487]

My DH has a big beer gut, and honestly, at my highest weight we were getting too fat to do it, lol. Not seriously but it was way more difficult than it is now.

My weight loss has improved things but if Doug could drop 20kg I think that would make a huge difference.

Unfortunately, I'd still rather have a cup of tea and read my book in peace.