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As I mentioned on another thread, my father asked me yesterday "How are you feeling? How is the weighloss coming along?" I told him that I haven't weighed. So with that, he went on to tell me about how the guy at work had it done, and he's loosing 3-4 pounds per week. Then added "But he's also on a diet".

In other words, the guy is on a restricted diet of some sort; possibly weight watchers, whatever - so he's loosing more (than I am). Almost an incinuation that if I did a diet plan; I could loose faster.

Dad has been my biggest supporter, but I'm really annoyed today, thinking about the conversation. What can I tell him to shut him up? I don't need a food police.

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I get the opposite from my mom. Anytime I'm in a rut and mad about the stalled loss, she tells me to be patient, this surgery is not intended to make you lose it quickly! And when I'm having issues with my fills, she's always there to tell me 'get an unfill'. BLAH! I wish she was as gung ho about it, heh.

Tell your dad that you don't wanna lose too quick so you don't get loose skin. Or tell him to mind his own business? :(

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Tell you dad you had surgery so that you didn't have to be on a diet. Tell him there is a big difference between changing the way you eat for life (your goal) and being on a diet with a tool.

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Tell you dad you had surgery so that you didn't have to be on a diet. Tell him there is a big difference between changing the way you eat for life (your goal) and being on a diet with a tool.

I like this choice best. Like I said; he's been my biggest 'fan' seeing me shrinking, etc. I could never 'respectfully' say to him Mind Your Own Business. Not like he was intentionally being disrespectful to me.

I'm just getting though the mental part of being with band. Never mind the added stress of going to Weight Watchers, etc. That would put me over the edge sometimes! lol

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Remind your dad that men loose faster than women, and patients that are say 150lbs over weight loose faster than patients that are only 80-100lbs over weight.

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Guys just like to fix things. He thinks he's being helpful. Don't take it personal. Sometimes they say things that seem kind of blunt and can seem rude to a woman. Maybe he thought you were complaining about "just" 1-2 lbs/wk. LOL Take it with a grain of salt and ignore him.

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