DetDet 34 Posted February 1, 2019 I just wanted to let anyone out there know if you are even thinking about counseling or therapy DO IT!!! If you have done it and it didnt feel comfortable it's okay try a different counselor or therapist. Don't give up. Its can be like finding the right pair of jeans. You have to find the right brand and size. The counselor/therapist just needs to have the right insight and personality for you. I will happily share my story. I couldn't see my weight loss and I've lost over 10 pant sizes!!! In counseling I have learned I look in the mirror and don't see my physical self. I see my mental self. Now I'm working on my difficulties and learned to look at my physical self. I see my weight loss!!! I feel more positive about everything!!! I have learned a lot about myself and how to cope. I am becoming a more happy, optimistic person. My weight will no longer be my escape route or defense mechanism!!!Again please go to counceling even if you have the slightest feeling or doubt in yourself in this WLS journey. We weren't born with a BMI of 30+. There are reasons and sometimes talking it out is EYE OPENING!!!Remember:You mental health is just as important as you physical health. Sent from my SM-G965U using BariatricPal mobile app 5 Healthy_life, Uterno, gabybab and 2 others reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
GIGI67 7 Posted February 1, 2019 Thank you for sharing! I have the same problem and always wondered if anyone else did...now I know....lol 4 ProudGrammy, DetDet, Healthy_life and 1 other reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
MsLee 3 Posted February 2, 2019 This was a great post. I am going through this right now. It's strange. I can see how large I was in pictures at my heaviest but when I look in the mirror, I don't see it except in my face. Of course, I see the change in my clothing but I still think I look very obese even though I have lost 85 lbs and only have 25 to go. I will look into counseling. Hope it will help turn the switch! Thanks for sharing! 3 Healthy_life, ProudGrammy and DetDet reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ummyasmin 1,603 Posted February 2, 2019 What a fabulous change! Well doneSent from my SM-G930F using BariatricPal mobile app 1 DetDet reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
gabybab 696 Posted February 2, 2019 Thank you for your post! I have surgery soon & you have reminded me I need to get a counselor. You look beautiful! 1 DetDet reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
DetDet 34 Posted February 2, 2019 Thank you for your post! I have surgery soon & you have reminded me I need to get a counselor. You look beautiful!Thank you [emoji4] definitely find one. It has helped tremendously. Just remember if you find a counselor that you don't mesh well that's okay. There are plenty more.Sent from my SM-G965U using BariatricPal mobile app 1 ProudGrammy reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
DetDet 34 Posted February 2, 2019 This was a great post. I am going through this right now. It's strange. I can see how large I was in pictures at my heaviest but when I look in the mirror, I don't see it except in my face. Of course, I see the change in my clothing but I still think I look very obese even though I have lost 85 lbs and only have 25 to go. I will look into counseling. Hope it will help turn the switch! Thanks for sharing! Yes! Know exactly what you mean! I hit -75lbs and didnt understand why I couldn't see it. Dropped pant/dress sizes. Started calling myself crazy. Counseling definitely helped me and I recommend it. We all have different battles and we need to continue the fight. Sent from my SM-G965U using BariatricPal mobile app Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
DetDet 34 Posted February 2, 2019 Thank you for sharing! I have the same problem and always wondered if anyone else did...now I know....lol Oh most certainly. I even started calling myself crazy bc I was the only one who didnt see it. Even with my clothes dragging.Sent from my SM-G965U using BariatricPal mobile app Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
VSG and me 4 Posted February 2, 2019 Thank you very much. I am a month post op from VSG and am depressed. I can see my 30 pd weight loss, but I feel numb. It feels like "so what". Not at all what I expected. I will get into counseling. 1 1 ProudGrammy and DetDet reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites