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My wonderful, wonderful 15 year YOUNG Andrew died January 3rd. I'm still having trouble

processing. This was a terrible, awful, avoidable accident. Andrew was video chatting with 4

other friends. The jist of the story is....kids were talking, laughing, daring each other about "silly"

things. Not sure of all specific details (we will never know)

They were all teasing/taunting/joking with each other - story involving a neck and a rope - how tight one

could pull , won't say any more details, use your imagination. One child saw most of what was going on screen.

He screamed, ran to his mother and then called 911. Police followed to look into the situation. My

daughter was confused about any possible problem with police/ went upstairs - found Andrew in bedroom

closet. This boy, grant? is devastated about what happened. He didn't want to go funeral/hasn't been

able to talk to my daughter yet. This must be a terrifying nightmare that he will never forget.

Andrew was/is such a terrific young man. Handsome, smart/funny. Any and all people were very lucky to have

known him. He lit up a room. He was/is a terrific son/brother/nephew/friend and of course my grand-son.

his sister, 18 year old Morgan - is handling things the best she can. She lost her younger brother!! How terrible is that!!

She has a large support group of friends. She cries so often - but luckily friends are there to hold her.! my "little" wonderful

11 yr young Ethan has more trouble wrapping around the situation. Understanding what was going on. He slowing is understanding

that his big brother will never come home,

my daughter has a large community of friends in her neighborhood, many people from temple - so much

necessary support. She has 4 long time friends from different states that came to support her. BTW - her temple

holds 300 people - standing room only. Shows how much my Andrew and his family are loved.

We are so sad, terrified about this tragedy. We will all always love our Andrew. Forever and ever. The problem

now is dealing with the aftermath. Losing Andrew - the brother, grandson - friend but for my daughter and

my son-in-law - their son - i can't imagine how they feel. - they have friends and family at their house, one

after another - so they haven't been alone. Next week, and after, two more friends will be their for her.

But eventually they will be all alone! Their lives will never be the same. they are seeing a therapist individually,

and the whole family. They also are looking into finding a group of parents who have lost etc etc

thank you letting me unburden myself on you all.

kathy

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I'm sorry for your loss. I can't imagine your grief. It reminds us all to embrace those that we hold dear.

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Oh my goodness. I can't imagine what you and your family are going through. I'm so very sorry for your loss.

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BIG HUGS! I am so sorry for your loss and the tragedy it has laid on everyone. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.

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No one, and I mean NO ONE should have to bury their child/grand child. I have two teens and can't imagine this happening to me. My sincere condolences. Praying for you to get through this pain as well best you can.

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Oh my heart is breaking for all of you. I can not imagine this horrific accident. My deepest condolences go out to you and your family. The words will never be enough to fix the hurt you're feeling.

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Oh my Lord, @proudgrammy!!! ((hugs)) I can't even imagine the extent of your pain (and that of the entire family). My prayers for His peace that surpasses all understanding is being said now. Prayers of comfort and of sure knowledge of his salvation and place in heaven!

I'm so sad for you all and please know I am here if you ever need or want to talk, cry, laugh, process, vent. Etc. My heart is breaking in unity with you. None of you are alone and I'm so glad you know this!

:57_cry:

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I am so sorry. I literally cannot imagine anything worse. Peace be with all of you.

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I have an inkling, last Friday was the 11th anniversary of my middle child and first-born son Kevin who died at the age of 31., 17 hours after he walked into our local ER under his own power. And yes, to bury a son or grandson, is a heartache you scarcely can survive. My arms ache to hold him, my ears to hear his voice and my eyes to see him alive and healthy and I know it shall never be again! 💦and a hug for you all.

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@proud grammy

Anything we can do to support you through this heartbreaking time, Please ask. Praying for you and your family.

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