Has anyone kept their surgery a secret?

[sideeye 1,440]

On 1/2/2020 at 11:17 AM, RobertaMSN said:

Note: This forum must stay positive and supportive of everyone's posts or I'm gone.

We all have our own standards for what we think is appropriate and that’s fine, but I can tell you that tone-moderating is an unproductive line of discussion that eats up entire threads on this site.

Assume good intent (tone is notoriously hard to detect via text), and if you think someone’s crossing the line, ignore them. If they’re truly breaking the rules, report them.

Edited January 4, 2020 by sideeye

[MaineDoc 31]

I haven't had surgery yet--still waiting for my date. Only my significant other knows and I plan to keep it that way. Unfortunately, the lay public still does not understand the disease of obesity. Even medical professionals don't understand. When I asked my PCP for a referral to the medical and surgical weight loss program, she was skeptical and said "what do you think this is going to do for you that you can't do for yourself?" I just don't think most people can appreciate the decision we're faced with: a) stay on a path of poor health with attendant medical complications or b) have someone cut into you and fundamentally alter your anatomy and physiology. It's not exactly like "b" is an "easy" choice but for those that don't understand, I guess it appears that way. It's funny, culturally, we don't perceive other elective surgeries as the easy way out. I can't imagine anybody passing judgment on someone who has knee replacement surgery and frankly in many ways, the more I learn about bariatric surgery, the more easily justifiable it is compared with many other surgeries.

[bossportsgal 136]

Your journey! No ones business. I kept it quiet going on three years.