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I am about 9 months post-op and down to my goal weight (actually below). I have worked hard to get to where I am. My family bought a cake for my birthday which is upcoming. I have not cheated with any Desserts ever!!!!!!!! Will it kill me to have a piece of cake? I know the answer to this but I feel super guilty even thinking about it. I can never go back to where I started. On one hand I know it won't kill me, on the other hand it's like I am relinquishing control.

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Results may vary, but I feel a sliver of cake would be okay. Now, mind you, adding sugar to your diet is a slippery slope. Is there another reason why you want a cake so badly? Is it the idea of tradition, or the fact that your family bought it for you and you don't want to let them down?

The reason why I mention this is because two ladies at my work who have had VSG do allow themselves to graze on the food in the office and have complained about gaining weight. But I also believe that moderation is a good tool alongside the VSG, so. . . it's really up to you. If you feel guilty enough about it, maybe see if you can find a birthday sweet treat that's a little better for you?

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Why not have a small piece of something on a special occasion?

I think it’s unrealistic to think of certain foods as “never” foods.

Should you justify eating whatever you want for a whole weekend because it’s your birthday? Probably not. Is enjoying one small dessert item throwing you down the worm hole back into an endless spiral of weight gain? Likely no.

Happy Birthday and Enjoy.

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2 hours ago, BuzzVSG said:

I am about 9 months post-op and down to my goal weight (actually below). I have worked hard to get to where I am. My family bought a cake for my birthday which is upcoming. I have not cheated with any Desserts ever!!!!!!!! Will it kill me to have a piece of cake? I know the answer to this but I feel super guilty even thinking about it. I can never go back to where I started. On one hand I know it won't kill me, on the other hand it's like I am relinquishing control.

Don't have to eat it but maybe indulge them by taking a slice!

One of my favorite movies is Constantine, and after visiting Hell he needs to eat (stay with me) so Angela takes him to this awful skeezy corner cop diner and orders terrible food to which he constantly picks at over an intense conversation but never actually eats.

After being through obesity Hell and back, you are still the hero.

Happy Birthday 🎈

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2 hours ago, batty_vsg said:

Results may vary, but I feel a sliver of cake would be okay. Now, mind you, adding sugar to your diet is a slippery slope. Is there another reason why you want a cake so badly? Is it the idea of tradition, or the fact that your family bought it for you and you don't want to let them down?

The reason why I mention this is because two ladies at my work who have had VSG do allow themselves to graze on the food in the office and have complained about gaining weight. But I also believe that moderation is a good tool alongside the VSG, so. . . it's really up to you. If you feel guilty enough about it, maybe see if you can find a birthday sweet treat that's a little better for you?

I actually don't want cake at all lol. It is tradition on my families part, and yes I don't want to let them down. I thought about getting fruit, but I think I might just have a few bites.

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52 minutes ago, GreenTealael said:

Don't have to eat it but maybe indulge them by taking a slice!

One of my favorite movies is Constantine, and after visiting Hell he needs to eat (stay with me) so Angela takes him to this awful skeezy corner cop diner and orders terrible food to which he constantly picks at over an intense conversation but never actually eats.

After being through obesity Hell and back, you are still the hero.

Happy Birthday 🎈

Thank you! I can always count on you for a fantastic response.

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