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Almost all my dates with my husband for the past 13 years have centered around food. I had surgery 11 days ago and obviously can’t go to a restaurant so we have just been sitting home. Does anyone have any date ideas that don’t include food??

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Go hiking, walk instead of driving somewhere. Go to concerts, do you share musical tastes? Go fishing or something he enjoys and hopefully he will reciprocate. If not , YOU TRIED!

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Thanks for your reply. No quite up for hiking yet, but I will definitely put that on my list for the future. We do love live music - but usually when we go it’s to a bar. I would be fine with going to a bar and being the designated driver - but he thinks I won’t be happy if he’s drinking and I’m not (it wouldn’t bother me!)

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Say I really don't mind the no drinking and being with you bribes me more joy than booze ever could!

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brings not bribes, just being with you is so cool- You're my guy you know!

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Movies, mini golf, bowling, beach, romantic walk, escape room

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Movies, paint night, walks, sight seeing, museums, shopping, going to gym together.

Turn date nights into day dates. For my husband and I, our dates still very much revolve around food. I just eat differently. Your life doesn’t have to change, just the way you eat.

Have you and your hubby take little sheets of paper, you each write down some date ideas with a percentage of them being new things you’ve never experienced. Each week, you pick a piece of paper and plan to do it that week. It’s fun!

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I had surgery roughly a week before you did, and I've dragged my spouse out to walk with me most days since then. It's been good. We've had a chance to enjoy some local parks (I'm not above driving a couple of miles to go on a more interesting walk :)) and to talk to each other. Pick parks that you know have benches to start out. Being able to take breaks now and then has helped me a lot!

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Thanks so much for all your great ideas! I hadn’t thought much about this before my surgery (I was mostly focused on my “freaking out” and on what I would be eating/drinking at the different stages)! I do love the idea of “day dates” instead of at night because then we can do more active stuff - especially after I get the “all clear” from my surgeon. For now walking does seem like a good thing - as long as their are benches as CrankyMagpie suggested! Thanks again! You guys are the best!! ❤️❤️

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16 hours ago, CyndieRI said:

Almost all my dates with my husband for the past 13 years have centered around food. I had surgery 11 days ago and obviously can’t go to a restaurant so we have just been sitting home. Does anyone have any date ideas that don’t include food? ?

Tea

coffee

bookstores

mall walks

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