Feeling depressed today

[Letsgetgoing2018 448]

Hi all. Six weeks post op from the sleeve and feeling. Depressed today. Was supposed to have dinner with family last night but it’s tonight. Italian restaurant. I’m still adjusting to this new way of life-not being able to eat whatever I want. I know where it got me-it’s just such a big adjustment. I feel sad and almost in mourning today. For my old life. Trying to shake it. Anyone else been there done that?

[Matt Z 4,139]

20 minutes ago, Letsgetgoing2018 said:

Hi all. Six weeks post op from the sleeve and feeling. Depressed today. Was supposed to have dinner with family last night but it’s tonight. Italian restaurant. I’m still adjusting to this new way of life-not being able to eat whatever I want. I know where it got me-it’s just such a big adjustment. I feel sad and almost in mourning today. For my old life. Trying to shake it. Anyone else been there done that?

This is only a phase. Soon enough you'll be able to eat out. Just with some minor adjustments. You'll back to feeling normal in no time. I 100% fully understand what you are feeling, I had plenty of the same thoughts and emotions thinking about how I'll never be able to do this or that. But you know what. It all worked out just fine. For the items I really can't keep eating because of the bypass, I've found alternatives that satiate those feelings. And some things I thought I never could have again... I have no issues with. I just don't consume them nearly as much as I have before.

Just remember all the reasons you wanted the surgery, remember that those "normal" things you used to love to do / eat... might not have been healthy at all. Change sucks. But oh boy is this change worth it! Stay strong, this too will pass.

[Letsgetgoing2018 448]

1 minute ago, Matt Z said:

This is only a phase. Soon enough you'll be able to eat out. Just with some minor adjustments. You'll back to feeling normal in no time. I 100% fully understand what you are feeling, I had plenty of the same thoughts and emotions thinking about how I'll never be able to do this or that. But you know what. It all worked out just fine. For the items I really can't keep eating because of the bypass, I've found alternatives that satiate those feelings. And some things I thought I never could have again... I have no issues with. I just don't consume them nearly as much as I have before.

Just remember all the reasons you wanted the surgery, remember that those "normal" things you used to love to do / eat... might not have been healthy at all. Change sucks. But oh boy is this change worth it! Stay strong, this too will pass.

Thank you so much for your thoughtful reply.

[GreenTealael 25,360]

Yes totally been there...

But what makes you think you can't have what you want?

Everyone is eating bread sticks, use that time to hydrate a bit then start your 30 min countdown to food

You what chicken parm? Order it with modifications (unbreaded light sauce ricotta cheese shaved parm cheese vegetables on the side)

What lasagna? Order it made with just layers of meat, ricotta,spinach.

Seafood. Perfect. Hold the Pasta add the vegetables.

Desert? you'll be too full anyways, but if not don't order your own , slightly taste someone else's (only if its not a trigger)

Special occasions, not everyday binges. Log everything stay accountable. Stay on track.

Challenge the chef to do his/her best gluten free work. Tell him/her your story

This is your life now fight for it

[Letsgetgoing2018 448]

Just now, GreenTealael said:

Yes totally been there...

But what makes you think you can't have what you want?

Everyone is eating bread sticks, use that time to hydrate a bit then start your 30 min countdown to food

You what chicken parm? Order it with modifications (unbreaded light sauce ricotta cheese shaved parm cheese vegetables on the side)

What lasagna? Order it made with just layers of meat, ricotta,spinach.

Seafood. Perfect. Hold the Pasta add the vegetables.

Desert? you'll be too full anyways, but if not don't order your own , slightly taste someone else's (only if its not a trigger)

Special occasions, not everyday binges. Log everything stay accountable. Stay on track.

Challenge the chef to do his/her best gluten free work. Tell him/her your story

This is your life now fight for it

Thanks! You give me hope! You’re right. I can have foods with modifications. Just have to be creative. Haven’t had any type of Pasta since surgery. Might try some tonight. Small portion.

[GreenTealael 25,360]

22 minutes ago, Letsgetgoing2018 said:

Thanks! You give me hope! You’re right. I can have foods with modifications. Just have to be creative. Haven’t had any type of Pasta since surgery. Might try some tonight. Small portion.

Make sure its on plan for you first (the worry is the formation of a dough ball obstruction when bread and Pasta is introduced too early/slowed weightloss from high carbs)

if not, no big deal check if they have alternatives like spiralized vegetables etc.

Stay close to plan above all for optimal success

And remember youre really there to hang out with your family

But you totally got this!!!

Enjoy tonight !!! you have an entire life of incredible moments coming up

Edited August 17, 2018 by GreenTealael

[Letsgetgoing2018 448]

7 minutes ago, GreenTealael said:

Make sure its on plan for you first (the worry is the formation of a dough ball obstruction when bread and Pasta is introduced too early/slowed weightloss from high carbs)

if not, no big deal check if they have alternatives like spiralized vegetables etc.

Stay close to plan above all for optimal success

And remember youre really there to hang out with your family

But you totally got this!!!

Enjoy tonight !!! you have an entire life of incredible moments coming up

Oh okay yes....thank you for the support! I really needed it tonight.

[GreenTealael 25,360]

1 minute ago, Letsgetgoing2018 said:

Oh okay yes....thank you for the support! I really needed it tonight.

Anytime!!! Don't forget to take pics of when you totally won your war over food!

[Letsgetgoing2018 448]

17 minutes ago, GreenTealael said:

Anytime!!! Don't forget to take pics of when you totally won your war over food!

Oh I won’t forget! Thanks!

[elmatador 167]

There is so much healthy and delicious food that you can order at an Italian restaurant! Seafood is easy, shellfish (shrimp and clams come to mind), broccoli rabe and spinach sides, meatballs even! Ask for them just to bring a half-serving and package the rest to take home if you’re anxious about seeming like you’re not eating a full serving, or just order off the appetizers. And soup! Don’t forget soup! So many great and healthy food choices. Go, enjoy both the food and your family, and be proud of yourself!

[Letsgetgoing2018 448]

3 minutes ago, elmatador said:

There is so much healthy and delicious food that you can order at an Italian restaurant! Seafood is easy, shellfish (shrimp and clams come to mind), broccoli rabe and spinach sides, meatballs even! Ask for them just to bring a half-serving and package the rest to take home if you’re anxious about seeming like you’re not eating a full serving, or just order off the appetizers. And soup! Don’t forget soup! So many great and healthy food choices. Go, enjoy both the food and your family, and be proud of yourself!

Thank you for the reply. I just have been so down. Need to focus more on my cup being half full. There are food I can eat. I just have to be creative. I’ll post after dinner to let you all know how I made out! Thanks again!

[Sosewsue61 3,185]

I don't do Pasta anymore, and really have just moved past it, the sauce is so good just with a meatball, or a shrimp dish, scallops, veal or chicken dish with a veg. Eat really slowly....enjoy the company. Become gourmet, only eat the best because it's only a few bites, take the rest home - anyone can have bread - but mmm veal scaloppini...

[Letsgetgoing2018 448]

3 hours ago, Sosewsue61 said:

I don't do Pasta anymore, and really have just moved past it, the sauce is so good just with a meatball, or a shrimp dish, scallops, veal or chicken dish with a veg. Eat really slowly....enjoy the company. Become gourmet, only eat the best because it's only a few bites, take the rest home - anyone can have bread - but mmm veal scaloppini...

Thanks for your reply. I wound up getting salmon with veges. I did well. Didn’t eat much at all-but what I did eat was great! I watched the family eat all the appetizers and I was good. Fried calamari-I used to finish off a whole plate! So it was manageable and doable. Feeling better about conquering these challenges. Thanks for all the replies!

[Frustr8 7,886]

Salmon with vegetables does sound good. Glad you stayed strong with all that luscious Italian cooking there. See it isn't always about the food, the family companionship is more important for us. I'm so very proud of YOU!👉😛👈

[Letsgetgoing2018 448]

39 minutes ago, Frustr8 said:

Salmon with vegetables does sound good. Glad you stayed strong with all that luscious Italian cooking there. See it isn't always about the food, the family companionship is more important for us. I'm so very proud of YOU!👉😛👈

Thank you!