How I can eat healthy when my girlfriend doesn't?

[GreenTealael 25,407]

Tealael you are very smart girl, your advices are very helpful

Lol just a few failed relationships, and I hate to see anyone else's end if it can be saved

VSG2017 HW 249 SW 238 CW 167

[TakingABreak 2,733]

18 minutes ago, Matt Z said:

Do you think that's fair or caring to you? You might love her, sure, but if she's not going to bother to change even a little for you, while you need her to... well. That's 100% on you man.

@Offingapp

I'm going to disagree with Matt on this.

My husband gave up A LOT for me throughout years of unhealthy and spiraling behaviors. I haven't asked him, nor want him to change for me. I did this so that he would no longer have to make sacrifices due to me anymore. This surgery is about *you*, not anyone else. I'm not saying it's right that she stuffs her face with cake in front of you. Perhaps you guys can compromise on the location of goodies, so it doesn't stare you in the face every time you go into your pantry. You can ask your GF to go into another room when she indulges in a tempting snack. But I wouldn't say that she needs to change for you. I never knew how much my husband compromised until I lost over a 100lbs and realized what he used to do for me, and what he gave up for me.

Now, on the reverse side of this... people will say... "I want my family to benefit from these changes and be healthier".... well, we can make these changes for our children. But our spouses are grown men and women. We can cook better for our families. We can shop better. We can inspire and set good examples for them. We can't always change them.

Just another input in a very complicated situation. I wish you luck.

[GreenTealael 25,407]

A lot of people don't seem to understand food addiction (I don't), etc. I think that is the real problem. They believe will power will get you through. Not making excuses for anyone here at all but, if it was a drug/alcohol addiction, rehab and resources would be available and expected to be used to get well . No one would expect the girlfriend to use/drink in the next room. The advice would be totally different. You would be asked if you are attending support groups, seeing your sponsor, staying away from negative influences etc...

we need to start treat this like the problem it really is

VSG2017 HW 249 SW 238 CW 167