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I had surgery on 4/23/18 and I have only lost 36 pounds. I am not sure why i am losing so slow. Or is this a good amount in this time frame? A woman i worked with lost 50 pounds in the 1st month, and here i am riding the struggle bus. Any advice would be great. Also my weight is yo-yoing so bad, I gained 2 pounds one day and then it just sits there for days. Not sure how to kick start it anymore.

Start weight 248

Today weight 212.4

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I’m in the same boat. I had RNY 3/16/18 and I’m only down 35lbs. I’m not sure what’s going on.

Surgery Weight- 235
Current-200

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Happy to know i am not alone. Its just frustrating when you feel like you are doing everyrhing right and nothing is happening.

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Perhaps share a bit of your eating, Water and exercise so folks could suggest some help?

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I mainly do 3 Protein Shakes a day and 50-60oz of Water. Not doing much exerxise..could that be it

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27 minutes ago, niknik1986 said:

I had surgery on 4/23/18 and I have only lost 36 pounds. I am not sure why i am losing so slow. Or is this a good amount in this time frame? A woman i worked with lost 50 pounds in the 1st month, and here i am riding the struggle bus. Any advice would be great. Also my weight is yo-yoing so bad, I gained 2 pounds one day and then it just sits there for days. Not sure how to kick start it anymore.

Start weight 248

Today weight 212.4

The biggest thing, is to not compare yourself to others. No one loses the same way. Was your co-worker overweight because of a medical issue? Slow metabolism? Horrible eating? Your heritage also changes how your gain and lose weight. So the best thing, is to just focus on what you can control...

Go and find out what your BMR is (https://www.active.com/fitness/calculators/bmr) this lets you know what your baseline caloric burn per day is, then start tracking your calorie intake. At this point you **SHOULD** be exercising. You should have been walking daily since you got out of the hospital. If you aren't... start. Adding to your daily burn is going to help your drop weight.

Stalls happen. Often. When you transition to solids, raws, etc... when your body needs to "re-calibrate" due to you dropping weight... etc. Best advice is to just keep tracking your intakes and not to worry so much about weight loss. Weight is just 1 number and is NOT the whole picture.

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1 hour ago, Matt Z said:

The biggest thing, is to not compare yourself to others. No one loses the same way. Was your co-worker overweight because of a medical issue? Slow metabolism? Horrible eating? Your heritage also changes how your gain and lose weight. So the best thing, is to just focus on what you can control...

Go and find out what your BMR is (https://www.active.com/fitness/calculators/bmr) this lets you know what your baseline caloric burn per day is, then start tracking your calorie intake. At this point you **SHOULD** be exercising. You should have been walking daily since you got out of the hospital. If you aren't... start. Adding to your daily burn is going to help your drop weight.

Stalls happen. Often. When you transition to solids, raws, etc... when your body needs to "re-calibrate" due to you dropping weight... etc. Best advice is to just keep tracking your intakes and not to worry so much about weight loss. Weight is just 1 number and is NOT the whole picture.

Thank you so much!!makes sense

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1 hour ago, Matt Z said:

The biggest thing, is to not compare yourself to others. No one loses the same way. Was your co-worker overweight because of a medical issue? Slow metabolism? Horrible eating? Your heritage also changes how your gain and lose weight. So the best thing, is to just focus on what you can control...

Go and find out what your BMR is (https://www.active.com/fitness/calculators/bmr) this lets you know what your baseline caloric burn per day is, then start tracking your calorie intake. At this point you **SHOULD** be exercising. You should have been walking daily since you got out of the hospital. If you aren't... start. Adding to your daily burn is going to help your drop weight.

Stalls happen. Often. When you transition to solids, raws, etc... when your body needs to "re-calibrate" due to you dropping weight... etc. Best advice is to just keep tracking your intakes and not to worry so much about weight loss. Weight is just 1 number and is NOT the whole picture.

Thank you so much!!makes sense

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I stalled after week 4 for the entire month. In fact, I even gained 10 lbs. Eventually, the weight loss started back up again and I'm losing a pretty steady pace of around 5lbs a week. Losing weight really comes down to calories in, calories out. People try to make it more complicated than it has to be.

The amount of weight you loose at first also has a lot to do with how overweight you were to begin with. I was 375lbs, so I had quite a bit to loose and my initial weight loss would be much more than someone who only had to loose 50-100lbs.

Don't get discouraged. You're very likely eating more than you should, even if you don't recognize that. Your body may still be going through an adjustment period. If you're eating fewer calories than your BMR, you will lose. Also, be happy with a slower, progressive weight loss vs. a rapid weight loss. You may find that your skin has more time to recover and won't be so loose.

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I found two interesting slideshows on the site Matt recommended to calculate one's BMR.

https://www.active.com/fitness/articles/10-surprising-reasons-you-re-not-losing-weight

https://www.active.com/food-and-nutrition/articles/8-ways-to-eat-more-protein

Obviously, some of us haven't graduated to some of the foods suggested... yet. I'm not terribly disappointed in not being able to eat turkey Jerky anyway.

Edited by Missouri-Lee's Summit

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Hang in there. Definitely kick up your exercise as Matt suggested. I also wonder about the 3 shakes- is this something your Dr recommended? Maybe you’re eating too few calories at 3 months out? I’d ask your nutritionist to be sure

Good luck and hang in there

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My Dr told me at least 2 as meals to get my Protein. I probably do need more real food, i have cheated a couple of times and had some chips. Not many like 2-3. I will try to pick up the exercise and add more real food and see if that kicks anything up

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I know it’s duscouraging. I’ve been stalled the whole month of July and it’s so frustrating to see the weight stay the same or go up a few pounds. All we can do is trust in the process and follow our program. It’s easier said than done when you are faced with weeks of diligent work and no progress but stalls and different rates of loss are a fact of the weight loss process.

I do try to only compare my current progress to my past attempts as others have suggested. Comparing your rate of loss to someone else is counterproductive.

Best of luck and keep on chugging away. I’m doing the same.

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46 minutes ago, niknik1986 said:

My Dr told me at least 2 as meals to get my Protein. I probably do need more real food, i have cheated a couple of times and had some chips. Not many like 2-3. I will try to pick up the exercise and add more real food and see if that kicks anything up

We have similar starting weight, height and goals. Perhaps instead of looking at weight lost in pounds look at the percentage instead.

for example I have lost 29% of my excess weight. That is huge when you look at % as opposed to pounds.

My inches have dropped and my clothes are fitted not tight. All good things that the pounds don’t show

Your body is working hard, be kind and supportive to yourself as you would a friend

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