Please mind your business

[GreenTealael 25,336]

I don't usually rant but I can't help it this time,
This Saturday someone older ,whom I respect , approached me to try to pry information out of me on if I had WLS.

First I'm super private about all aspects of my life so the fact that I didn't tell them should be a hint that I didn't want to have the conversation.

Second this person is Morbidly Obese and battling diabetes etc and could benefit from this surgery but I say nothing as it is not my place to play prophet for WLS.

Third they tried to counsel me on weight loss now and what not to do, i.e. Not to lose anymore weight, don't understand why I did it, etc...

HOW DO YOU EVEN DEAL WITH THIS?!??

[KimTriesRNY 1,853]

I’m not sure why people feel it’s okay to comment or approach others on what may or may not have been medical procedures.

I have gotten to the point now where people at work comment every single day on my weight loss. There’s just no hiding it. Being nurses I do wonder if some of them suspect if I had surgery but no one has been rude enough to come right out and ask.

I would just respond to the person that you are under medical supervision and you prefer to discuss your medical care with your physician. It sounds rude but sometimes you just have to set boundaries with people.

If this person was an expert on weight loss they likely wouldn’t still be morbidly obese their self.

It’s an uncomfortable situation for sure. I’ve had a few very obese people ask what I’m doing, and I’ve been tempted to tell them but the information is out there for everyone, just as it was for me.

[Pearldrop 164]

I’m so sorry this happened. It sounds like this person wants to understand what you had done, from a parental advice giver, but to tell you what you should do rather than as a supportive person. Some people are a bit clueless!

Im keeping my WLS private as well, when people start to notice my response will be that ive changed my eating habits and have returned to the gym.

As to the ‘don’t loose anymore’ comments I’d do the smile and nod response, it’s hard for people to comment when you do this. I know I’m going to have to deal with this when I go home at Christmas from well meaning but clueless family/friends so I hope I do the smile and nod 😀 and ask them about themselves to change the subject

[foxcblue 21]

You guys are so nice! Your responses let me know how much maturing I still have to do. I’ve been working on just ending those conversations - by any means necessary. I’ll do better.

[Sleeved36 356]

It is hard to give people the benefit of the doubt when they are prying into your personal business.

My husband and I married young and chose to wait 10 years b4 having children. People said lots of stupid things to me over the years prying about fertility issues and my desire to have children.

Examples:

I couldn't want kids that bad since I didn't have them right away. And since I didnt want them I was going to be a bad mother.

I was getting too old and needed to have kids soon. This was said to me at 27. (had 1st at 32 and 2nd at 35, not exactly ancient)

Then the million questions about who had failing parts, was it my uterus or my husband's balls?

This got old enough that I would pretend to get emotional and tell people it was probably never going to happen for me. This definately worked, succeeded in making them think twice about asking me or anyone else.

I pick and choose who I tell about my surgery. Thankfully some of my more intrusive relatives live far away. The real bonus is none of them saw me at my high weight, so crossing my fingers that my look won't be a shock to them.

Oh, and I love my kids. Waiting to have them allowed us additional financial security and life experiences.

[Frustr8 7,886]

And like WLS At the Right time
For the Right Reason
And for the Right couple
With the Right life commitment.

[foxcblue 21]

3 hours ago, Sleeved36 said:

People said lots of stupid things to me over the years prying about fertility issues and my desire to have children.

I did have fertility issues - I was able to get pregnant, but had multiple miscarriages. “Well intentioned” people said some of the most awful things or asked the most hurtful questions, having no clue of their impact. After my fifth miscarriage, and someone telling me, “Well, maybe God’s just telling you that you don’t need to have anymore children” the DAY I came home from the hospital with empty arms, I decided that I didn’t have to be “nice” when people inserted themselves into my life uninvited. I thankfully WAS able to have another child. People just don’t think before they speak.

[Sleeved36 356]

I had a miscarriage between my kids and also did not appreciate people asking when I was going to have another.

WTF am I supposed to say? "I tried, but it died and had to be surgically removed. Thanks for asking"

[Creekimp13 5,840]

I have an obnoxious gossipy aunt who loves to milk people for this kinda crap so she can spin it and spread it....so I don't mind having some fun with her.

I just tell her outrageously creative lies.

She isn't interested in anything factual. She doesn't really care or want to empathize. She wants tabloid entertainment for neighborhood publication.....so I let her have some.

How did I lose so much weight?

My new crack addiction.

Witchcraft

Eating only watermelon for thirty days.

Dedicating my life to the service of David Miscavige

Mail order tapeworms from Brazil.

Pancreatic cancer.

A new deadly gluten allergy.

Playing Dance Dance Revolution

Fat cryotherapy

She gives me a hateful look, I get a chuckle, and next time maybe she picks a different target for her shenanigans.

[GreenTealael 25,336]

On 6/20/2018 at 6:50 PM, Sleeved36 said:

I had a miscarriage between my kids and also did not appreciate people asking when I was going to have another.

WTF am I supposed to say? "I tried, but it died and had to be surgically removed. Thanks for asking"

People really are inconsiderate. Sorry

[GreenTealael 25,336]

On 06/22/2018 at 01:39, Creekimp13 said:

I have an obnoxious gossipy aunt who loves to milk people for this kinda crap so she can spin it and spread it....so I don't mind having some fun with her.

I just tell her outrageously creative lies.

She isn't interested in anything factual. She doesn't really care or want to empathize. She wants tabloid entertainment for neighborhood publication.....so I let her have some.

How did I lose so much weight?

My new crack addiction.

Witchcraft

Eating only watermelon for thirty days.

Dedicating my life to the service of David Miscavige

Mail order tapeworms from Brazil.

Pancreatic cancer.

A new deadly gluten allergy.

Playing Dance Dance Revolution

Fat cryotherapy

She gives me a hateful look, I get a chuckle, and next time maybe she picks a different target for her shenanigans.

I should use Dance Dance Revolution as my excuse from now on... Lol

[foxcblue 21]

12 hours ago, Creekimp13 said:

I have an obnoxious gossipy aunt who loves to milk people for this kinda crap so she can spin it and spread it....so I don't mind having some fun with her.

I just tell her outrageously creative lies.

She isn't interested in anything factual. She doesn't really care or want to empathize. She wants tabloid entertainment for neighborhood publication.....so I let her have some.

How did I lose so much weight?

My new crack addiction.

Witchcraft

Eating only watermelon for thirty days.

Dedicating my life to the service of David Miscavige

Mail order tapeworms from Brazil.

Pancreatic cancer.

A new deadly gluten allergy.

Playing Dance Dance Revolution

Fat cryotherapy

She gives me a hateful look, I get a chuckle, and next time maybe she picks a different target for her shenanigans.

I do believe I heart you. You’ll pardon me, I hope, if I borrow those. All of ‘em.

HAAHAHAHAAAHAHHAAAAHAAHAAHAA!

[newmebithebypass 713]

I’m definitely stealing witchcraft

[Frustr8 7,886]

Where is Marie Laveau and a good voodoo doll when you need one?🎑

[BostonWLKC 807]

On 06/22/2018 at 01:39, Creekimp13 said:

I have an obnoxious gossipy aunt who loves to milk people for this kinda crap so she can spin it and spread it....so I don't mind having some fun with her.

I just tell her outrageously creative lies.

She isn't interested in anything factual. She doesn't really care or want to empathize. She wants tabloid entertainment for neighborhood publication.....so I let her have some.

How did I lose so much weight?

My new crack addiction.

Witchcraft

Eating only watermelon for thirty days.

Dedicating my life to the service of David Miscavige

Mail order tapeworms from Brazil.

Pancreatic cancer.

A new deadly gluten allergy.

Playing Dance Dance Revolution

Fat cryotherapy

She gives me a hateful look, I get a chuckle, and next time maybe she picks a different target for her shenanigans.

My favorite lol
Immediately switching to this one 😂