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I hope it’s okay that I post this question here, even though I’m a woman. I was sleeved last year and my husband almost seven weeks ago. Since his surgery he’s had no complications except some leg pain, and his sexual desire is nonexistent now. Prior to surgery -even at his HW of 380- he had no problems.

He’s down to about 330 now and told me he hasn’t even been interested in masturbating. Everything I’ve read says his desire should be increasing and I’m really concerned. Have any of you experienced this issue? Did it resolve itself eventually? I’ve been avoiding addressing it in serious conversation because I don’t want to stress him out.

**edit** Sorry, I just saw the sticky that this room is for men only. Mods, feel free to remove my post (but I hope you don’t)

Edited by Bobcats

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Thanks for your question. I had a similar challenge. I would encourage your husband to have his testosterone level checked. Mine was extreamly low and within three weeks of starting treatment I began to get my desire back. Moreover, my overall energy improved and I started to loose belly fat. There are several treatments for low testerone but I found the injections the best. I tried jells and Patches because I didn't want to deal with the weekly needles but the injections worked best. My only regret I sent that I waited so long to get the treatment.

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I didn't get all horny again until after I got back on soft foods, then I was good. His body is probably still healing and in a bit of a shock. Get the T checked and then be patient....it'll all work out.

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Thank you both for your replies! I’ll give him a little more time to recover and then get the T checked if nothing changes.

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Yea I would say get the testosterone checked,or maybe he could have a Vitamin deficiency.My desire went through the roof !

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