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I got my surgery date finalized this week, and I’ve found myself in a mental funk.

Did anyone go through a sad time pre-surgery? I think the reality of having gotten to this point where I need surgery is probably the cause, but I honestly don’t know. I’m being distant with friends and family, and just want to crawl into bed... not like me at all.

Just curious if it’s normal, and if it’ll pass! Thanks :)

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I think it will pass. I had a couple of weeks of quiet introspection there...where suddenly things had just gotten TOO REAL all of a sudden.

Sort of like that Oh Shite! moment. What have I gotten myself into? Do I REALLY want to do this?

It gets very real....and so does your grief about losing food...and your fears of how you'll replace that coping mechanism.

food was huge in my life. The idea of losing it seemed really depressing. All of my happy memories had food in them....food I wasn't supposed to eat ever again.. What the hell do I do now? It's sobering. Messes with your identity a little, messes with your coping mechanisms, messes with how you socialize.

It's a big deal. People downplay it...but it really is a big deal to adjust to.

You'll get through this....and worse. Trust your saner self who started this big adventure. And keep smiling.

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I had probably a week worth of anxiety about the surgery and then the morning of...it sounds silly but I woke up with this clarity and no anxiety. Like yeah, this is what I need to do to better my life and change the direction my future is going. The pre-op diet definitely messed with my emotions--I was a hungry, irritable, headache-y you know what! So that didn't help either. But I also agree with Creek, the process of re-working your relationship with food is a head-spinner too. I didn't have a "food funeral" like some people do, which was helpful for me in the long term. Also post op I couldn't even think about real food until I got to that stage in recovery--it's a rollercoaster. But you just have to be along for the ride and work it!

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