TERRIFIED of first dietitian apt tomorrow

[JayCat 3]

@NobodyYouKnow

I've avoided posting for a while because I was thoroughly disappointed and upset with my appointment -- I left in tears.

Half way through telling my dietary story the dietitian stopped me and, from my perspective, seemed to act like they'd heard the whole thing. Truth be told I had much more to say and felt like if they'd taken the time to really consider these things they'd then have gotten a much better picture of who I am and my particular struggles with food and how to progress from there.

But they didn't do that. The dietitian proceeded to tell me exactly what I couldn't eat, followed by counter-productive information specifying that I could eat the foods they'd just told me not to eat. They then proceeded to show my the size of plate I'd be eating off of after the surgery like it was a big revelation (smaller plate size is the FIRST thing you read about on the google result that comes first for googling bariatric surgery for me). This was followed by the dietitian stating incorrect information about muscle/fat metabolism in regards to long term fasting, and present to me a leaflet with the information detailed information on what they want me to eat.

However, the information presented to me was a 1000 kal diet big on the Protein. If I was able to stick to this diet long term I would not be getting surgery?? I have no problems with the types of food they want me to eat but am concerned with my ability to hold up the quantities long term WITHOUT surgery. I also note that while reading the leaflet to me, they kept on pointing out vegetarian options even though I'd previously mentioned I eat meat. Not a big deal, but it felt like twisting the knife a little because I knew already the dietician wasn't listening to me.

All in all, I don't have a /huge/ issue with what they have asked me to eat. But, I think if the result of an hour long consultation was going to be 'eat 1000kal of a 3:3:1 protien:carb:fat diet' irregardless of what I said, it could've been a 15 minute appointment instead. Instead I went in expecting to be listened to and considered instead of brushed over, ignored, and quite frankly, patronized (I already knew a lot about diet and what the post surgery diet would be like. None of the information was new to me.)

I would appreciate it if people were sensitive in replying to me I am still quite hurt by the consultation.

EDIT: to clarify though, I am doing exactly what they told me to do and have every intention of following it to the best of my abilities. I've come too far to get stopped in the road by a bad dietitian.

Edited June 12, 2018 by JayCat

[NobodyYouKnow 15]

Awww, I'm genuinely sorry to hear that you had a negative experience. As you tell it, it does sound like maybe they were just "covering the material" more than anything.

I'm glad to hear that you're pressing on anyway, though. Keep at it, you'll find your way.

[newmebithebypass 713]

I’m sorry you did not feel listened to was this a one on one or a class it differs in the states you run the gambit of classes to one on ones so here’s the thing dietitians are not drs they have sometimes at most a masters in nutrition so they don’t always go through sensitivity training