Food Funerals?

[dutchamy 18]

So I realize this is probably really wrong headed of me- but I keep thinking about the "Last time" - as in "This is the last time I can indulge". At Christmas I was thinking this will be the last time I eat short bread and pumpkin pie. This will be my last birthday cake. I may as well have wine and cheese and crackers tonight because soon I won't be able to eat this stuff anymore.

Has anyone else been struggling with this?

[Bryn910 519]

I was before my pre-op diet began but i didn’t go crazy with my food funeral as I thought I would lol. I just had Outback (entree/dessert) & the night before my pre-op I had McDonald’s which I thought I wanted but it was gross lol.

every person is different post op and everyone doesn’t eat the same (I am learning). It is important to stray away from your diet plan initially. I don’t miss the bad things I had before but I do find myself on Pinterest and Instagram looking at foods I can eat/prepare that are healthier for me.

My dietician also states that when in maintenance mode, I could attempt certain foods (like French fries & some bread) but in moderation. I think a lot of people (including myself) fear dumping syndrome but I also welcome it because temptation is hard but I want to succeed with the surgery and i feel like dumping is a pat on the butt saying get yourself back on track.

But hang in there. You may never know, you may not even crave these things after surgery and down the road.

[toodlerue 451]

I called It my “farewell to food tour”. There are some that I didn’t get to say goodbye to but that’s life.

[Creekimp13 5,840]

I did several food funerals. Must have this dessert/dish/cassarole/bread ONE LAST TIME....forever....until I die...etc..

Shocker....I'm six months out....and I've revisited nearly all my favorites that I'd "never eat again". LOL. Little teenie amounts....but it's incredibly satisfying now just to have a couple of bites and stick to my plan the rest of the day. I don't miss eating thousands of calories of the naughty foods I used to love. I can have a couple of bites. I can stay in control and feel good about it.

I love that! I feel like food and I have finally reached a compromise. And my regular diet is delicious and satisfying. I'm starting to very honestly prefer it. I don't feel loss or grief or like things I used to love are gone forever. We've just changed our relationship significantly....and set some serious boundaries.

Up to 75 calories a day....I'll let myself be bad with about anything I want. No deprivation.

That said....75 calories is often an extremely sneaky small amount and you have to be vigilant. Some folks think the temptation is counterproductive and unwise....and I can respect that.

But for me...To really feel like I've conquered food...to master it, and feel completely in control....I need to slay these dragons.

Mom's homemade poppy seed bread? I can have a one inch cube of you...and walk away. You don't control me.

I need that.

Some folks need banishment.

Whatever works:)

[dutchamy 18]

18 hours ago, toodlerue said:

I called It my “farewell to food tour”. There are some that I didn’t get to say goodbye to but that’s life.

I like that wording- Hopefully I will feel so much better about all the activities I will be able to do that I won't perseverate on the food I won't be eating. That's the plan, right?

[dutchamy 18]

19 hours ago, Bryn910 said:

I was before my pre-op diet began but i didn’t go crazy with my food funeral as I thought I would lol. I just had Outback (entree/dessert) & the night before my pre-op I had McDonald’s which I thought I wanted but it was gross lol.

every person is different post op and everyone doesn’t eat the same (I am learning). It is important to stray away from your diet plan initially. I don’t miss the bad things I had before but I do find myself on Pinterest and Instagram looking at foods I can eat/prepare that are healthier for me.

My dietician also states that when in maintenance mode, I could attempt certain foods (like French fries & some bread) but in moderation. I think a lot of people (including myself) fear dumping syndrome but I also welcome it because temptation is hard but I want to succeed with the surgery and i feel like dumping is a pat on the butt saying get yourself back on track.

But hang in there. You may never know, you may not even crave these things after surgery and down the road.

that's good advice! Thanks.

[dutchamy 18]

17 hours ago, Creekimp13 said:

I did several food funerals. Must have this dessert/dish/cassarole/bread ONE LAST TIME....forever....until I die...etc..

Shocker....I'm six months out....and I've revisited nearly all my favorites that I'd "never eat again". LOL. Little teenie amounts....but it's incredibly satisfying now just to have a couple of bites and stick to my plan the rest of the day. I don't miss eating thousands of calories of the naughty foods I used to love. I can have a couple of bites. I can stay in control and feel good about it.

I love that! I feel like food and I have finally reached a compromise. And my regular diet is delicious and satisfying. I'm starting to very honestly prefer it. I don't feel loss or grief or like things I used to love are gone forever. We've just changed our relationship significantly....and set some serious boundaries.

Up to 75 calories a day....I'll let myself be bad with about anything I want. No deprivation.

That said....75 calories is often an extremely sneaky small amount and you have to be vigilant. Some folks think the temptation is counterproductive and unwise....and I can respect that.

But for me...To really feel like I've conquered food...to master it, and feel completely in control....I need to slay these dragons.

Mom's homemade poppy seed bread? I can have a one inch cube of you...and walk away. You don't control me.

I need that.

Some folks need banishment.

Whatever works:)

That's interesting. I'm not sure which way I'll fall out on. I have a feeling I might just have to stay away from lots of things.

[Creekimp13 5,840]

1 minute ago, dutchamy said:

I have a feeling I might just have to stay away from lots of things.

You'r not alone. Lots of people feel this way.

[dutchamy 18]

I really do think I'm sort of addicted to food. I just need to get addicted to Water and exercise and I'll be great!