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Hi everyone,

I'm just in the final few steps of the pre-operation process, and I should have a surgery date soon. It's getting real, and I'm both excited and scared at the same time.

But what's bugging me right now is that everything in my life seems like it's in a holding pattern. I guess I feel like I can't concentrate on doing anything because I keep thinking about how out of shape and unhappy I am, and how I'll be happier once I can be more mobile and start exercising again. I'm NOT really depressed, just kind of... blah.

Has anyone else experienced a phase like this pre-operation?

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I’m pretty much in the same spot. I know it’s a process but I just want to move on!

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I’m pretty much in the same spot. I know it’s a process but I just want to move on!


Same here. This is a LOT harder than I ever imagined. Everything has seemed to get worse not better. But I’m hoping the body just takes time to heal, however half of the battle is the mental game and it’s just awful because you can’t escape it


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Yep, time is going slower. My family supports my decision, but they also have no interest in what all it entails. My kids asked some questions, mostly concerning how dangerous the surgery will be. They are 25, 24, and 17. Husband is most concerned about getting the hotel info so our route from the surgical center to the hotel can be planned in advance. I am not complaining, he was my gps before I had gps! I just type my random thoughts into my iPad and let strangers help me out. Pre-Op diet on the 28th, one more appointment on the 29th and then surgery 6/11/18. Are we there yet?


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And I have some friends treating me like an overdue pregnant lady.
Had 2 in the last week alone"OMG haven't you gone YET?"
All I can tell them I'm still waiting for a definite date. Maybe the "Didn't tell,anybody but my husband" people were right after all. I told EVERYBODY trumpeted it out loudly like an enraged elephant,and now it's back-firing on me!😟

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Frustr8,

Spending time reading your posts and poetry keeps me focused on someone else and helps speed the time along. If I am anxiously awaiting your surgery date, then I stop thinking about mine for a while. Even if I get done and you are still waiting, I am going to keep checking in. You have expressed how much you want this, and now I along with many others want it for you too!

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Danke liebling, and to think.my late husband, the Somewhat Lamented was so wrong. I spent years hearing,i was nobody without,him and that nobody would ever like me for myself. It is bad enough when you sell yourself but to have someone professes to be the only one who could ever,love you,that sounds and wounds deeply. But I am a survivor and I truly will succeed at this!😝🌈😝

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21 hours ago, hokeysmoke said:

Hi everyone,

I'm just in the final few steps of the pre-operation process, and I should have a surgery date soon. It's getting real, and I'm both excited and scared at the same time.

But what's bugging me right now is that everything in my life seems like it's in a holding pattern. I guess I feel like I can't concentrate on doing anything because I keep thinking about how out of shape and unhappy I am, and how I'll be happier once I can be more mobile and start exercising again. I'm NOT really depressed, just kind of... blah.

Has anyone else experienced a phase like this pre-operation?

I know exactly how you feel. It's like it's so nice out and everyone is out doing summer time things and I am just thinking....if only my surgery was over and I had already lost this weight I would be out there also....lol

I don't think it's anything out the norm and I don't think I would call it depression on my part. Just I know what is coming and what is going to be and I am just ready to join the rest of the living. If that makes sense.

I want to go to the river and kayak. (always wanted to do that) and lay in the sun. I want to hike and run in the yard with my grandbabies. It's just out of reach and I am so impatient!!

So yea, I know how you are feeling!!

Things will get better for all of us soon!!

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