Down in the dumps, wls diet sucks!

[Tierra T Tij 56]

How do people going about dark sad feelings when doing the gastric bypass diet when you have zero friends or family who support you? I've been having this problem and it has been a struggle. I feel very alone and when I'm lonely and sad I want to eat but I know I cannot emotional eat. On top of that my wls surgery is May 15th so I cannot afford to do that. I feel like I've been feeling a million emotions at once. It's very hard for me these few weeks between not being able to eat much, only liking Water and ice and it hurts to swallow due to my bad allergies, I'm just miserable! I just feel like I wish I had more people to vent to about these feelings besides my bariatric journal or my psychologist. I notice when I talk out my emotions it's better instead of feeling them because they derail me tremendously.

[XYZXYZXYZ1955 675]

Wow, you have made fantastic progress already, congratulations. And come here to vent--that's certainly part of what this site is for. If it helps, take a look at some of the threads of before/after pictures--very encouraging!

Hang in there. The pre-op diet and the first month or so kind of suck, but it definitely gets better with time. Good luck!

[KimTriesRNY 1,853]

Just post. Visit a group in person if you can. Cruise some inspiring photos on Instagram.

Lots of feelings surface after surgery as well so it’s good you are trying to come up with ideas now.

[Danny Paul 761]

1 hour ago, Tierra T Tij said:

How do people going about dark sad feelings when doing the gastric bypass diet when you have zero friends or family who support you?

The sad fact is, many don't look at bariatric surgery like they do other surgeries. If someone told their friends or family that they were getting breast implants or other cosmetic surgery the overwhelming majority would not have a negative comment. If someone told their family and friends that they would be having surgery for a medical condition like removing their tonsils, still not many negative comments. Tell people you're having bariatric surgery to improve your health and the negativity starts to flow. Why? Because most people blame you for being obese. If only you can control yourself you'd wouldn't be so fat. If you took the initiative and exercised more, you wouldn't be so fat. What they fail to realize is over eating is a compulsion like drinking. No one would have a negative comment if they knew an alcoholic was having a liver transplant due to excessive drinking. No, most would say, hope this helps to get him/her to stop drinking and to be healthier.

We don't get the same empathy because it's automatically assumed it's our fault that we are compulsive eaters. Work hard toward your goal of better health. Do not let the negativity derail you. After your surgery you will lose weight and you will begin to get healthier. Just remember that's only the first part of your success. After surgery you will have a period of time where the weight will come off easy. The mechanical part with surgery is taken care of. Now, you must work on the mental part to find out why you are a compulsive eater. Once you do, you will probably have many years of weight loss success. Be strong you're nearly there. It's nice to have support but if you must go it alone do so because your health depends on it.

[toodlerue 452]

They will change their tune after they see how hard you have worked & how amazing you are going to look too!


Toodles,
Rue

[BostonWLKC 807]

Use this forum to connect with people... vent, get advice, commiserate (lol) or just talk. It really helps to have people who know what you’re going through and “get it!” Hang in there it does get amazingly better like a week after surgery. You’re almost there, surgery is near!

[Tierra T Tij 56]

Thank you all! I've just been resting now... I just got discharged from the hospital today 05/16/18 around 2:30pm my time which is Pacific Time. So I'm doing a bit better since this post.

[DaleCruse 756]

I'm glad you're feeling better.

It's not true that you have no one to support you. You have us. And believe me, we're a lot.

It's true that weight loss surgery sucks. But you know what sucks more? Not being able to walk up stairs. Not fitting in airplane seats. Not fitting in a restaurant booth. Not being able to be as physically intimate as we'd like to be. Not being able to walk into a store & buy clothes. Getting stared at. Having people make comments. To me, those are all way worse.

You are not alone. Good luck!

[Tierra T Tij 56]

You are right, those are valid points. I'd rather bare with this wls diet that is kind of lame sometimes than have to deal with my foot and back pains anymore. So I guess that's a trade off here.