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It looks like due in large part to my inability to find a job in Atlanta, we will be moving back to SC in the next couple of weeks. I am going to take a job at the school I was working at before we moved, so I will immediately go back to work without having to suffer any more of the prejudice I have been subjected to in the big city. I knew fat prejudice existed, but had never experienced it before moving here, but that was just what I needed to convince me I really do need to go ahead and plan for surgery.

One good thing is that DH will be able to transfer within his company to that area and keep the same insurance, which is how we are paying for the surgery. But I am going to have to start over with the whole process once we get settled, so that part sucks. The nearest bariatric surgery center to where we are moving is over an hour away, but I know there are people on here who travel much further than that for this, so I'm not complaining. Just hurts to have to admit failing in our big move due to my being fat.:cry

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Oh Kathy,

Sometimes things happen for a reason that we havent fathomed yet, or wont know for years.Please dont beat yourself up over this, I hate the fact that people can be so ignorant and hateful, but that is their baggage to carry, not yours.

Will it take long for you to go through the process?Had you already started in Atlanta? I know what a pain in the butt it is to live a distance from your nearest centre, I ended up flying for a hour to see mine and it sucks.

Keep your chin up hon.

Nina x

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Well, it was really funny how it all happened really. I emailed a former co-worker and mentioned I have been unable to find a job and that DH and I were discussing moving back there. She emailed back and said there were 2 openings at the school, then the principal emailed and offered to rehire me. When DH asked his boss about a transfer, he was really expecting to have to take a demotion to be able to stay with the company. He called the Columbia office and they have a lateral position coming open in January they are offering him. Then, to top it off, his band was booked to play all weekend the weekend we planned to move, so DS and I were going to have to do most of the work ourselves. Last night, the club owner called and cancelled those dates. So all in all, it's kinda hard for me to think it's not meant to be, but the discrimination here still stings. Thanks for your kind words and I ma doing my best to find a bright side. :)

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