Dating after surgery and weight loss

[TaylorMade4One 105]

Interested in hearing if dating is easier, better or different after surgery and weight loss? Have you met a new boo? I'm all ears! 🤔

[Hop_Scotch 1,630]

I can't comment after surgery but I can after weight loss (which obviously I regained). I reached a weight I was happy at, not in the healthy weight range for BMI, but I was curvy and fitted a size 12 (Australian). Losing the weight gave me the confidence to put myself back out there, as it were. I put a profile on a dating site, had some contacts, didn't meet too many, but there was one who I was quite taken with...we were together for about nine years. That relationship finished up March last year. With the weight loss and improved self confidence, I was happy to wear fitted clothes in lovely colours not the baggy shapeless clothes in dark or dreary I tended to wear.

I know there are plenty of people with the confidence to put themselves out there regardless of what they weigh, not me, I practically become a recluse. For the period of time I kept most of the weight off I was quite confident and social. I wish I had that confidence, that self believe in myself regardless of what a number on the scales say.

I think confidence is an attractive trait and people respond to it in a positive way. With confidence we stand tall, we smile at strangers, most strangers (including service staff such as shop workers) reactive positively to people who smile, who don't slouch etc.

And to be fair to the opposite sex, there are plenty of men who love a confident (or not) woman regardless of what she weighs.

Sorry for waffle!

[GreenTealael 25,336]

On 4/30/2018 at 10:36 PM, TaylorMade4One said:

Interested in hearing if dating is easier, better or different after surgery and weight loss? Have you met a new boo? I'm all ears! 🤔

Im still single AF...

[TaylorMade4One 105]

Yes, I agree confidence is key at any size.

[TaylorMade4One 105]

Im still single AF...

Are you interested in dating?

I really thought I would hear some great love stories! [emoji2][emoji1]

[GreenTealael 25,336]

3 minutes ago, TaylorMade4One said:

Are you interested in dating?

I really thought I would hear some great love stories! [emoji2][emoji1]

I am interested but not in what dating currently is, i was born either 50 years too early or 50 years too late. i have antiquated ideas about relationships. I refuse the hook up culture.

SO...

Im single AF...

[readinggirl91 2]

I’m single AF too

[LaLaDee 519]

Single AF. Still overweight. Recently joined tinder but the men only seem to want hook ups.

[BigViffer 3,544]

Speaking as a happily married man, I have found that post op I am far more active and involved in activities. With that increased exposure, flirting and being asked out happens incredibly frequently. It is to the point that my kids have even started piping up and telling the women that I am married. Just bluntly blurting "He's married." if they see anything they consider flirtatious.

It always seems to happen when I am most oblivious or I am doing something not generally associated with looking for attention. At the gym, taking the kids shopping, asking for help in a store, asking directions... just average mundane daily activities. How you carry yourself makes a huge impact on people.

@LaLaDee your profile pic is beautiful, I'm betting you are getting flirted with and may not be realizing it yet.

[LaLaDee 519]

8 hours ago, BigViffer said:

Speaking as a happily married man, I have found that post op I am far more active and involved in activities. With that increased exposure, flirting and being asked out happens incredibly frequently. It is to the point that my kids have even started piping up and telling the women that I am married. Just bluntly blurting "He's married." if they see anything they consider flirtatious.

It always seems to happen when I am most oblivious or I am doing something not generally associated with looking for attention. At the gym, taking the kids shopping, asking for help in a store, asking directions... just average mundane daily activities. How you carry yourself makes a huge impact on people.

@LaLaDee your profile pic is beautiful, I'm betting you are getting flirted with and may not be realizing it yet.

Thanks. Lol. You’re such a great guy! No wonder the ladies are flirting with you!

[redhead_che 824]

I just had a break up about a month ago with the guy that I was with pre and post surgery, but I've already thought about dating again. I think it will be a lot different as a sleeved person, mostly logistics wise--I'm already thinking about suggesting coffee dates over food dates, or dates that involve no food at all! I look a lot better on the outside, but inside I'm still super shy and introverted, so it's probably going to be just as difficult

[MsFACSTeach 2]

Looking forward to hearing some stories in his as well. Single AF and holding out hope.

[Frustr8 7,886]

Bat your eyes flirtingly, purr in a soft bedroom type voice, "You show me yours and I'll show you mine" and it will be like Fireworks exploding over the Sydney Opera House! Good ON and for YOU! 😜

[Frustr8 7,886]

Another thought to brighten your Sunday and future.
There is nothing wrong with enjoying a man's atention. The real problem comes when 9 months later it results in contractions!👩👶👨