Anyone have a hard time telling family about surgery?

[crystal649 13]

Hi there. I just finished my 6 month supervised diet and I’m just waiting to hear back from insurance so I can schedule for RNY.
So far I’ve had no issue telling people my plans. Everyone at work knows. I work at a psych hospital and we have a lot of potlucks and I just figured early on there would be a lot less pressure if I told my coworkers so they’d be understanding when I wasn’t eating or going for weekly beers after work anymore. All my friends know and are very excited for me. My immediate family knows and are very supportive however....
This passed weekend we had a huge family get together with family members I haven’t seen since my mother passed almost 2 years ago.
I found myself hiding that I was going to have surgery from them. I’m not really sure why I just couldn’t tell any of them and didn’t want anyone else to tell them either.
Has anyone else had this problem? I feel like it’s weird that I can be so open with everyone else but can’t tell my family.
~crystal

[vze4n4n8 22]

Do what u r comfortable with hell i havent talked to half my family about it like aunts etc i figure its not really any of their business

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[RapidFirePickle 119]

My father has a force of will that is something; he does anything he puts his mind to. He quit smoking cold turkey, and when he had an injury that required him to relearn how to walk, he went on to RUN half-marathons. Now that he is retires, he lost 40-50 pounds controlling his food and exercise, and he thinks my mom should be able to fix her weight easily because he could. My mother has been diabetic since her 20's, and she has hormonal issues that affect her ability to lose weight. I have my father's drive and my mother's metabolic issues. Even when I was training three hours a day (TaeKwonDo) and lost 60 pounds, my diabetes didn't change, and I even began to gain it back while I was still earning new belts and adding cardio kickboxing to the mix.

My father won't understand why I'm doing the surgery, and my mom is so sensitive about her health that she would be self-conscious about it. I will tell them if/when I think they need to know.

[sammi123 116]

I have only told two of my sisters, my boyfriend, my son, his wife and one other person. Then a good friend at work told me just week she was having weight loss surgery so i told her. lol

I am not gonna tell anyone else. People are judgmental. One of my sister's was very supportive, the other being no so much. It hurt my feelings and made me with i hadn't said anything. I figured this is my time and I am gonna treat it like it is:)