I hate it when people post just to post.....

[BethFromVA 5]

PJTP- My ex husband is an ass. He wrote me an email today to let me know that he has decided to prorate his child support. Now I have to get my lawyer and have a nice big fight. What an ass. Why can't he just obey the child support order??? aaarrrrrrgggggg

Wait -- prorate it WHY? If you have an order, he can't change it. Also, if you have an order, if you haven't already, get it registered HERE. Then anything he wants to do with it he has to come here.

PM or call me if you prefer, though remember TBL is on tonight! YAY!

[Kat817 19]

If you already have an order in place, and you have to hire an attorney to deal with his idiocy over this, do not forget to ask for attorney and all related legal fees when you answer it!

We hold a lien on DH's ex's house because she refused to pay our legal fees over an issue. I love the comfort of having that!!!

Lulu hope all is well!

Kat

[plain 12]

Plain, if Ambien is the weakest sleep medication, what is the medication of choice by the MD for people who have chronic insomnia?

Ambien / Lunesta is the most-oft prescribed drug in my circle (among board-registered sleep docs). Weak doesn't = inferior. A lot of family practice or general practice docs prescribe antidepressant meds, anti-anxiety meds, antipsychotics, benzos, and / or antihistimines for sleep (those are all used off-label for sleep).

[ColoradoChick 33]

HE decided HE was going to prorate his child support obligations? Don't insult an ass by comparing it to your ex.

wtf? HE has that authority? i thought courts decided that not people who dont wanna pay the ordered amount...?

Wait -- prorate it WHY? If you have an order, he can't change it. Also, if you have an order, if you haven't already, get it registered HERE. Then anything he wants to do with it he has to come here. :ohmy:

PM or call me if you prefer, though remember TBL is on tonight! YAY!

Yes, he is ordered to pay me a certain amount on the 1st of each month. Feb. will be the last month he has to pay as my youngest will reach 19. He thinks that since her birthday is on the 8th of Feb he only has to pay for 8 days of support. I called my attorney and she said it is absurd.

Here is a breakdown of the emails

Ex- I just wanted to let you know that the final child support payment will be coming by check instead of automatic deposit. It should get there by the 1st no problem, but I thought you would appreciate the heads up.

Also want to make sure that you are tracking that it will be less since Chelsea turns 19 on the 8th of the month.

ME - Please direct me to the child support statute that allows you to prorate child support. I cannot find where your authority lies. Our order says you pay a monthly amount with no mention of prorating anything. Thanks.

Ex - So let me ask you, honestly, if you were the one paying would you be saying the same thing? I really don't understand you sometimes.

UNBELIEVABLE!! He thinks that I do not pay to support the children! He sees them 2 weeks per year - that is all. No weekends - holidays very very few and far between. He has them for two weeks and that is it. No homework help - no dr.s appoitments, no phone calls - nothing!! Nothing for 9 years!!!

thank you for letting me vent.

[BethFromVA 5]

Yes, he is ordered to pay me a certain amount on the 1st of each month. Feb. will be the last month he has to pay as my youngest will reach 19. He thinks that since her birthday is on the 8th of Feb he only has to pay for 8 days of support. I called my attorney and she said it is absurd.

Here is a breakdown of the emails

Ex- I just wanted to let you know that the final child support payment will be coming by check instead of automatic deposit. It should get there by the 1st no problem, but I thought you would appreciate the heads up.

Also want to make sure that you are tracking that it will be less since Chelsea turns 19 on the 8th of the month.

ME - Please direct me to the child support statute that allows you to prorate child support. I cannot find where your authority lies. Our order says you pay a monthly amount with no mention of prorating anything. Thanks.

Ex - So let me ask you, honestly, if you were the one paying would you be saying the same thing? I really don't understand you sometimes.

UNBELIEVABLE!! He thinks that I do not pay to support the children! He sees them 2 weeks per year - that is all. No weekends - holidays very very few and far between. He has them for two weeks and that is it. No homework help - no dr.s appoitments, no phone calls - nothing!! Nothing for 9 years!!!

thank you for letting me vent.

Becaus I work in the system, let me give you a heads up. He canNOT prorate the child support. Also, does your order exclusively terminate when she turns 18, or does it include further payments if she goes to school? Granted, I know she's not going full time, but just wondered.

The other thing is, if you file a rule to show cause on him for non-payment, it can screw him up since he is military. I would tell him to put on his big girl panties and pay the additional three weeks.

[Gracey 7]

Fanny - so exciting! I'm gonna be the downer and say just be careful with your finances but enjoy that cutie patootie!!!

And I broke not one, but 2 computers at work today and the "help"desk was useless in assisting me to fixing them.

Here's to hoping the rest of this week is better than the last week has been....!

M'dear, She - what in the world have you been doing to those poor computers?!?

In addition to the too tight band, I fricken rear-ended a car Monday on my way to work! It was nothing in the whole sense of things but it pissed me off nonetheless. I'm ready for February!

But did any of you hear about the woman who gave birth yesterday (Mon) to 8, yes 8 babies!!? She is out near LA.

I heard about her this morning! I cannot imagine! They don't want their names released. They thought she was carrying 7 and there was an extra surprise. Gah! 6 boys, 2 girls

i think you should have eaten more though ... after all, i did and im fine!! God made sure of it....

I ate 3 XL pizzas after my unfill Friday. Duh!

PJTP....Now we have a fat virus. If we sneeze or cough on some one they can become fat....Can we say lets OSTRISIZE fat people even more! I am sooo mad I could spit! On the Today show they had this woman dr. whom said 30% of fat people have this virus...70% of people are over wieght or obese. She said something about does it mean you will get it if coughed on. Yes and no......Now isn't this saying Stay Away From the FAT person?:ohmy:

Dangit y'all take out all the fun. I was hoping there'd be a pill for it!

Now, if you will all excuse me, I am off to find my dh's ex-wife who always refers to me as "the fat lady". Why, you ask? Because I feel a sneeze coming on!!

Hysterical!!! Go get her!

How is everyone? Me, well I have a Dr. Appt. on Thursday because I busted up my knee while jogging. It feels like its moving around in there and it hurts.

:glare:

Aww man, that sucks! I hope it's an easy fix. :thumbup:

HE decided HE was going to prorate his child support obligations? Don't insult an ass by comparing it to your ex.

Right? Methinks HE needs to have his ass kicked by the JUDGE!!! Has he lost his job or something?? Presuming not, I wish the judges would say, "yanno, I've already ruled on this. Just b/c you've pissed me off, you owe another 10%!!"

[ColoradoChick 33]

Becaus I work in the system, let me give you a heads up. He canNOT prorate the child support. Also, does your order exclusively terminate when she turns 18, or does it include further payments if she goes to school? Granted, I know she's not going full time, but just wondered.

The other thing is, if you file a rule to show cause on him for non-payment, it can screw him up since he is military. I would tell him to put on his big girl panties and pay the additional three weeks.

Our order is from Colorado and it is until she is 19 years old. My attorney says he has to pay the full amount of support each month she is 18 at the beginning of the month. There is no order for any college help at all since they do not do that in Colorado.

Right? Methinks HE needs to have his ass kicked by the JUDGE!!! Has he lost his job or something?? Presuming not, I wish the judges would say, "yanno, I've already ruled on this. Just b/c you've pissed me off, you owe another 10%!!"

He is a pilot in the military. He makes well over 100k per year.

He is just cheap. He tries to get out of helping wherever he can and has done so since the divorce.

[luluc 6]

Lulu hope all is well!

Kat

thanks ya'll - woke up from the happy meds w/my band & port in tact; infection healed... i can also workout again too (hernia healing well).

cc - i'm sorry your going through this!

[*slim* 2]

thanks ya'll - woke up from the happy meds w/my band & port in tact; infection healed... i can also workout again too (hernia healing well).

I am glad that all is ok.

[BethFromVA 5]

Our order is from Colorado and it is until she is 19 years old. My attorney says he has to pay the full amount of support each month she is 18 at the beginning of the month. There is no order for any college help at all since they do not do that in Colorado.

Sorry, I meant 19. I knew she was already 18.

Hehe, tell him to pay you in full at the wedding. Cash only. :ohmy:

[BethFromVA 5]

I am glad that all is ok.

Ditto!

Now, be a sport and share those meds. :ohmy:

[luluc 6]

Ditto!

Now, be a sport and share those meds. :thumbup:

.

omg- it was wonderful, i have no idea what the knock out cocktail was but i asked DH if he got a to go bottle.:ohmy:

woke up craving brownies:wink:

[Donna113 2]

thanks ya'll - woke up from the happy meds w/my band & port in tact; infection healed... i can also workout again too (hernia healing well).

cc - i'm sorry your going through this!

WooHoo!

[losingjusme 12]

cc - that is just crazy!

lulu - glad all is well!!

[plain 12]

Ex - So let me ask you, honestly, if you were the one paying would you be saying the same thing?

Me- So let me ask you, honestly, do you love your daughter? Because you sound more like a person eagerly awaiting the day a burden is lifted from their shoulders than a father who wants to do the minimum required to help his daughter.

He is a pilot in the military. He makes well over 100k per year.

He is just cheap. He tries to get out of helping wherever he can and has done so since the divorce.

Wow, he sounds like a great guy. I'm sure the kids eagerly await the 2 weeks / year they can spend with a kind dude like that.

For Christmas, I think a good gift for him would be a fancy leather "bomber"-type jacket with "Captain Dildo" stitched on the back.