I hate it when people post just to post.....

[luluc 6]

I just chased my tylenol with a butterfinger. Boy do I love headaches and PMS.

i am an IDIOT. i just threw down what i thought was tylenol; no tylenol PM.....so i should be out cold here in a few:blink:

This is a big deal...so many couples I've talked to don't have joint accounts, or don't seem to be able to integrate their finances...it speaks well of your DH and of you! :tt1:

i think it's extremely important for a couple to decide who "wants" control over the finances - i don't think it can be both (personal experience). DH deals w/that stuff - i have no desire, other than what to do in an emergency.

Whew, that was long, sorry. I just wanted everyone to see, there can sometimes be a bit of a different spin on someone who makes a "mistake" while being in a committed relationship.

hope you & DH work through things.

sms - somone else mentioned it but the best example you can set for your son is to see you in a healthy / loving relationship or no relationship at all. i'm NO fan of cheating, karma has a way of showing his ugly head to even up the score in my mind.

ok - not going to even do coffee, wait for the PM to kick and enjoy a wed morning nap:)

[babygrl1234 6]

Lulu I so debated on buying the PM at the hospital pharmacy an hour ago. But I thought it might not help me make it through my work day. Enjoy your nap!

[DivaStyleCoach 89]

I found out that eight years ago, when he was in Texas for his son's graduation from boot camp, my husband had sex with his ex-wife one time. I know, it was eight years ago, but to me, it feels like it was yesterday.

Oh Susan, my heart aches for you...no matter how long ago it was, it's never easy to get past.

During that time, I "met" someone online. We never met in person, but did talk on the phone a couple of times. He was helping me with this. He confessed to falling in love with me, even though it went against everything he believed in. I developed a huge emotional connection to him.

Sounds like he was trying to be a good friend and maybe hoping there would be more...maybe he was what you needed at the time...

I finally just screamed at him that for once and for all I just wanted the truth. He looked me straight in the eye and said, "I f***ed my ex wife in Texas".

I bet that was the hardest thing he ever had to do...and I applaud him for being honest and you for being willing to hear it.

I also had to deal with his ex and one of his daughters calling me all day Friday gloating about it.

Ya want us to "drop by" and teach 'em a lesson? :tt1:

Friday night, hubby and I stayed up until 4:00 am. We talked, I screamed, cried, and maybe smacked him once. :w00t: He did everything right. He accepted responsibility, he answered my every question, he allowed me to express whatever emotion I needed to.

Kudos to your DH - that couldn't have been easy for either of you.

While still confused and feeling he could have made a different choice, I believe he truly does love me and regret what he did.

That makes all the difference in the world...

She said as usual she won and she was going to succeed in ending our marriage.

This is when I wish Mob Wars wasn't a game and I could just roll out to her house and blow it off the freaking map - for every woman who had to deal with a crazy / demented / bi*chy ex-wife (like I did as well).

But, she went on to tell me she felt sorry for me because he couldn't even "keep it up" and she had to finish herself off. I took great pleasure in telling her that has never been a problem with him and I and viagra will not be making any profits from my husband.

Ha, freakin Ha! Serves the heifer right...

Now, you know. It has been rough. But, while I still miss my "online" friend, I know it is not good for me and I have to continue to have no contact with him.

Wise move, girlfriend...again I applaud you.

I have ten years invested in my marriage and I do truly believe that my husband loves me with all his heart. I see the pain in his face from what he did to me, but I also see the love there. He has been doing everything right to help me get through this. We are in the healing process now, and I think we are going to be okay and our marriage may be even stronger as a result. We no longer have this "lie" between us and it is a relief to both of us. He also knows about my friend and is very understanding of that as well.

I just wanted everyone to see, there can sometimes be a bit of a different spin on someone who makes a "mistake" while being in a committed relationship.

Hugs to you, Susan, and to your DH. I have not been through what you have, but I understand your pain and wish you and your DH all good things. I applaud you for sharing your story and the resolution. So many times we hear about the bad stuff and never about someone who works through the challenges and makes their marriage stronger as a result.

You are an inspiration to me...I've had my challenges with my DH and we too chose to work it out and make our relationship stronger rather than seperate.

Thank you.

[Gone4Now 4]

And have I mentioned lately how much I heart the ignore feature on here? I have had a PG free week and it has been just lovely.

I had someone blocked for about a week once. It's a great way to just take a breather without leaving LBT. I eventually unblocked her, but sometimes regret that.

I'm too nosy to block anyone. I actually want to read stuff. I did remove myself from the Octopussy thread because I couldn't take it.

But, for religion - I am a Christian and I can go to church for happier/lighter sermons than her dribble. I really don't get it. I know she thinks she's doing "God's work" but when you're turning people away, it's NOT. DH's mom is VERY religious, but she's also very understanding. I'd never stand in her kitchen and say something like, "God sucks" or offend her in any way...but w/PG, I WANT TO.

Okay - Now I'm off to do 12 hail Mary's or something like that....

[gone 4 ever 6]

Hello BBK. Glad to see you on here! :biggrin:How ya doing? I know you FB all the time but I deleted my account with them.

Susan. Sounds like you are handling things very well. Keep doing what is right in your heart.:tt1:

MS..Yea I am old fashioned, drop one then go for the gold! :w00t:

[babygrl1234 6]

I had someone blocked for about a week once. It's a great way to just take a breather without leaving LBT. I eventually unblocked her, but sometimes regret that.

I'm too nosy to block anyone. I actually want to read stuff. I did remove myself from the Octopussy thread because I couldn't take it.

But, for religion - I am a Christian and I can go to church for happier/lighter sermons than her dribble. I really don't get it. I know she thinks she's doing "God's work" but when you're turning people away, it's NOT. DH's mom is VERY religious, but she's also very understanding. I'd never stand in her kitchen and say something like, "God sucks" or offend her in any way...but w/PG, I WANT TO.

Okay - Now I'm off to do 12 hail Mary's or something like that....

Yeah I am nosey too. Especially when the God warrior posts right after me. I know she is spewing crap. But I am afriad I am going to get myself booted from here if I go off on the hoebag again.

Edited March 25, 2009 by babygrl1234

[Brandy~ 2]

When my grandfather passed away, my grandmother didn't even know where the bills were kept, or the checks, who the bank was - nothing. And my mom had to go and do her bills for her.

I was 14-15 at the time and I KNEW I'd never be in that position.

I'm not great with money. I had some and lost it, and now I'm paycheck to paycheck until I can get back up there. DH knows all of that, and I know his financial history. He has a crazy ex-wife who stayed home from work and ran up bills on the Home Shopping Channel, opened credit cards in "their" name and after the divorce, he got stuck with the bills.

We know each others financial history and we own a house and cars etc. That's the only debt though... He pays the credit cards off each month. I just wouldn't know who to contact for life insurance, retirements, monthly bills etc. I know the bank he uses... Maybe I should see if he put the info in his will.

Bad time to tell him I am leaving my 1/2 to my Bull dog :tt1:

[luluc 6]

Yeah I am nosey too. Especially when the God warrior posts right after me..

it passes. on wk 3 of that one blocked & lost all curiosity of what she says "next". her new thread is actually a great one for debate - even more so when i don't get to read what she has to say!!

[Gone4Now 4]

We know each others financial history and we own a house and cars etc. That's the only debt though... He pays the credit cards off each month. I just wouldn't know who to contact for life insurance, retirements, monthly bills etc. I know the bank he uses... Maybe I should see if he put the info in his will.

Bad time to tell him I am leaving my 1/2 to my Bull dog :tt1:

LOL - yeah, I've joked about leaving stuff to the dogs when DD is acting up.

We also have passwords in a file at home, stealthily named: LOG IN INFO, so if one is out of commission then the other knows who/what/how to access accounts.

One thing neither of us has changed is our wills. He's leaving everything to his dad, and all my stuff goes to my ex-bf. I know he'd look after DD, and do a better job of it than I do! But, even so...I'm thinking we need to change all that pretty soon. :w00t:

it passes. on wk 3 of that one blocked & lost all curiosity of what she says "next". her new thread is actually a great one for debate - even more so when i don't get to read what she has to say!!

So, she's like carbs...after a couple weeks you don't even miss it.

[luluc 6]

So, she's like carbs...after a couple weeks you don't even miss it.

brilliant analogy

[babygrl1234 6]

I don't know....I like carbs a lot more than i like her.

[tapshoes 2]

I've never been in a dirty Starbucks bathroom anywhere in the country.

Unfortunately, I have experienced a few Starbucks that left a LOT to be desired in the cleanliness department.

I think you need to have your temperature checked... Do you that type of ironing on your own? Please tell me you send it out to the cleaners.

Nope. it's bad enough I have to send the suits periodically.

What industry do you work in where you still have to wear pumps!?! Yukkers!

Um, Tap, dear.....all that cold weather has warped your brain!!!

Hee hee!

Men and women MUST wear suits; men must wear ties as well. No open toed shoes or bare arms for the women. I am all for dressing professionally, but the CEO and Chair of the Board have gone just a tad too far IMO. I think it is a reaction to the previous CEO's 'business casual' dress code that had women in micro-mini's, decolletage exposing halters, and men in cut-offs and tank tops.... not good when VIPs come for meetings etc.

While I am not commenting on SMS's lovelife, I did wanna say that if your thought makes you "really old and old fashioned" then I'm right there wichya!

Ditto!

Most of my interviews involve me rotating a hula-hoop in my speedos. You're welcome for the mental image.

Newfs are the sweetest. dogs. ever.

With respect to Shakespeare, will all my morning coffee drown that image from my mind???

And yes, Newfoundland dogs are gorgeous...drooly, but sweet natured. I though always feel sorry for them when they aren't in a cool marine climate - as they are a northern Water dog.

Not really a problem per se, but Glouc and Beth go to bed around 4:15 (since they're....you know...old and stuff) and they really need more time to digest / clean dentures, etc.

Snort!

, I think one should always end one relationship before embarking on another IMO.If that makes me old fashioned...oh well.

Yep...

Me too....

Hey BBK; glad to see you back. You have been missed.

Re: finances. DH and I have separate accounts. Whoever has the money to pay a bill, pays it. I don't know what money he has or he, me. Having both been in a relationship where there were joint accounts, when the breakups came, we both got burned. So we agreed, separate accounts - it has worked for us.

Susan - I am so sorry to hear of your troubles; and glad to hear that you are working on things.

DH sounds like he was denying stuff to protect you. While his judgement 8 years ago wasn't very good, it seems like the two of you can work through this. I wish you the very best!

Well said.

Think I'm now caught up...

Morning all. Late today as I had an eye appointment - ewww....I don't know how opthamologists can be opthamologists. ICK ICK ICK I don't do eyes!! I don't wear mascara because that's just getting too close to those gelatinous blobs.. Getting drops in was ...interesting for her!

[*susan* 1,709]

Taps, I was wondering where you were. We are usually the first to post in the mornings.

I cannot block people. Even if I wasn't an administrator, I love reading all the controversy.

Thanks for all the words of support everyone. Ebony, I love your point of view on things!!!

Babygrl, I have stopped having any contact with the man I was talking to online. I do believe he is what I needed at that time. I did tell my husband about him. I also admitted to him that I miss him. But, I know I can't have my cake and eat it too either. I have to choose between one or the other. BBK has given me some great advice along the way and has really been there for me. I appreciate that knowing she has been battling her own demons right now. Anyways, even though I miss the online guy and our talks, I know, right now, I cannot talk to him. I choose my marriage of ten years, the man I love and the man that I know loves me. I told my online friend I believe it is better for him as well, as he is 13 years younger than me. I told him I wish him nothing but happiness and hope he finds someone that is right for him in the final email I sent him.

Edited March 25, 2009 by *Susan*

[*susan* 1,709]

Oh, on a side note, for all your bacon lovers, this weekend is BaconFest in Atlanta. Bacon, beer and bands!! What more could you possibly ask for???

[*slim* 2]

Me too....

Hey!!!!!!! I am sorry you have a headache, but wow, so great to see you!