I hate it when people post just to post.....

[Gone4Now 4]

Hey...I hooked up with a guy from work!

I wouldn't keep the ring.

And, I wouldn't go on any more dates either, until I was done with the first guy.

Sorry, SMS, but what the heck's going on?

[smsmithart 4]

Thx ebony...I'm having scary thoughts now like what if he already thinks we are dating or something... I've had guy take me the wrong way before because I'm smiley and have perfected the art of of like I care what they are talking about while replaying gossip girl in my mind.. I had a patient tell me recently I thought we had a connection...uh no your sick and I'm just being nice..

[BethFromVA 5]

Hey...I hooked up with a guy from work!

I wouldn't keep the ring.

And, I wouldn't go on any more dates either, until I was done with the first guy.

Sorry, SMS, but what the heck's going on?

Yeah, what Glouc said. I think you're just asking for trouble so long as you are still living with/seeing the other guy.

And I married a guy from work.

[smsmithart 4]

Hey...I hooked up with a guy from work!

I wouldn't keep the ring.

And, I wouldn't go on any more dates either, until I was done with the first guy.

Sorry, SMS, but what the heck's going on?

I think my boobs must be playing jedi mind trick on the men at work...note to self stop wearing baby tees to work

[BethFromVA 5]

Thx ebony...I'm having scary thoughts now like what if he already thinks we are dating or something... I've had guy take me the wrong way before because I'm smiley and have perfected the art of of like I care what they are talking about while replaying gossip girl in my mind.. I had a patient tell me recently I thought we had a connection...uh no your sick and I'm just being nice..

Okay, but let's be real here for a second. You're going out on DATES, even if in your mind you're telling yourself that you're not.

Have you told BF where you're going and with whom? If not, then they are DATES. My husband knows anybody and everybody I hang with. I had a best friend that was a guy, and while my husband was in Kuwait for a year, this friend would stay over sometimes because he knew what a rough time I was going through, raising a teenager by myself while my husband was in a war zone.

Everybody knew that this guy was JUST a friend -- closer to me than a brother. He never once was concerned, and he knew everything that was going on.

If somebody goes out with somebody of another sex and wouldn't tell their partner about it, then that says that there is potentially more going on here.

You went out flying with one guy, to the beach with another... I think you are putting vibes out there and you are getting responses then wondering what the heck is going on.

For a guy to give you a ring -- well, that tells me he got some HUMONGOUS vibes, even if YOU don't realize you put them out there.

Look, there's nothing wrong with dating or even playing the field, if that's where you're at right now. But the fact that you are still "committed" to this other guy who, I'm sorry, is a LOSER. Dump HIM and then do whatever. But you can't have it both ways without it causing some major grief.

[Gone4Now 4]

I so hope you're joking!

I think (since you asked) that you really need to figure out what you want. It seems from an outsider like me that you are really enjoying the attention - and that's okay, just know that it *could* get you into trouble.

PJTP - I really don't want to be here today. My mind is NOT focused on work.

[smsmithart 4]

My bf knows about the flying and the beach...so I'm not sneaking or anything..

[Gone4Now 4]

Wow, Beth...I posted like 50 words in the time that it took you to type 1000.

But, well said...

[smsmithart 4]

Looks like I need to have a talk with the guys..soon as I figure out what I want. It does suck for my bf to be right about guys only being nice to me because they want to get naked.

[BethFromVA 5]

My bf knows about the flying and the beach...so I'm not sneaking or anything..

Okay, I wasn't sure.

But obviously you're putting something out there that people are responding to. Like I said, you are technically single, so that's okay... except for the BF thing.

[BethFromVA 5]

Looks like I need to have a talk with the guys..soon as I figure out what I want. It does suck for my bf to be right about guys only being nice to me because they want to get naked.

Maybe, maybe not. Maybe they are just truly charmed by you and like you for YOU. Don't disregard that possibility.

[BethFromVA 5]

Wow, Beth...I posted like 50 words in the time that it took you to type 1000.

But, well said...

Hehe, yeah, but some people are better at being more succinct than I am.

And I type about 90wpm.

[Gone4Now 4]

Looks like I need to have a talk with the guys..soon as I figure out what I want. It does suck for my bf to be right about guys only being nice to me because they want to get naked.

NOOO...Don't listen to that insecure butthead. Why would he even say that??? What an utter ASS for even saying that. Is that why HE'S with you? Is that all HE thinks you have to offer????

He's telling you that to keep you DOWN.

We're giving you advice to lift you UP.

I say dump the ASS, move out on your own and take care of you and your son. (What's your son see of your relationship w/current bf, by the way? Is he learning that behavior? I'd RUN, RUN, RUN from that jerk.)

Date every now and then and find the RIGHT ONE. He's out there.

[tapshoes 2]

There are plenty of men outside of work right?

Well, in my experience there are many males, but MEN...nope, few and far between (by my definition, a MAN has maturity of the brain not just the body)

Plain, was that you following me home from Walmart the other day? I warn you, there WILL be a restraining order if it continues. Unless... I like rubies. It's my birthstone.

:thumbup:

That may be how you looked at it, but apparently he didn't since he's giving you a ring. Guys don't do that without expecting something in return, whether it be a relationship or a booty call.

In my opinion, if you keep it he will think there is something more that he can expect from you.

Well said.

I did a kick-butt walk at work yesterday (added a big hill and some additional distance) and loved it!

I bought new pants in a smaller size and I'm loving that too! Appt with my band doc today - I think I've lost the pounds I gained before my last appointment plus a little more. We'll see what his scale says. I don't think I need more fill, I just need to work what I've got!:w00t:

That's great! New size, and great attitude!

I think my boobs must be playing jedi mind trick on the men at work...

LOL!

But obviously you're putting something out there that people are responding to. .

I agree.

[Gone4Now 4]

And I type about 90wpm. :thumbup:

Me, too! I just can't think that quickly.