I hate it when people post just to post.....

[BethFromVA 5]

Beth - Why not just tell them that your daughter and grand-daughter are coming for a visit? If they are at all smart/polite they will realize the bedroom number is insufficient, and will volunteer to leave. If they do not pick up on that, then DH can talk with his friend privately....

They know she's coming... subtle didn't work. :tongue_smilie:

[ColoradoChick 33]

PJTP: I think I have too pull hubby aside and have him break the news to his friend that they need to get a hotel later on this week. This is a tough one.

Just got off the phone with my mom, and she is right: Kiddo is coming on Wednesday with my new grandbaby. I haven't seen kiddo in 3 1/2 years, and have never met the grandbaby.

This childhood friend of hubby's tentatively made plans to come out here a couple months ago, but honestly, until about Tuesday of this past week, we didn't know for sure if he was coming here or going to Las Vegas with his 16-year-old daughter. In the meantime, I made plans for kiddo to come since I am off and finally had some time I could commit to her.

We have a four bedroom, but only three of them have beds. Obviously he and his daughter are taking up two rooms. My mom said, "They ARE leaving when DD gets there, aren't they?" I said that that wasn't necessarily the plan.

They're leaving Wednesday by train to go to Times Square for New Years, and originally I thought they were going to get a hotel and stay there for a couple days and see some sights there too. Nope... I booked his train for him the other day and asked how long they were staying there, and they're literally turning right around and getting on a 3:00am train to come BACK this way.

My mom said that since this is our daughter and we haven't seen her in so long and have never met the baby, and since the plans with hubby's friend were up in the air for so long, we need to ask them to get a hotel come Wednesday. These are the people that were SUPPOSED to show up yesterday and came a day EARLY.

By Wednesday we will have entertained them about five days. I know they will spend a lot of time in DC, but at the rate this is going, they won't see much. Hubby and the friend went out to Hooters last night to see the pay-per-view fight and got home around 2am and sat outside and talked until 4:00. It is now noon and I am the only one up.

I know my mom is absolutely right. However, I'm at a loss as to how to break it to them that hey, you have to leave. :tongue_smilie:

Oh no! What an akward situation! I can offer a blow up queen size mattress!

[BethFromVA 5]

I love it!!! We need to have t-shirts made!

Hehehe, that's not a half-bad idea! We can order them ahead of time in size SMALL. :tongue_smilie:

[BethFromVA 5]

Oh no! What an akward situation! I can offer a blow up queen size mattress!

Yeah, I know...

We have a blow-up mattress, but my mom is right: This is our time to spend with our daughter and new grandbaby. Hubby and his friend haven't seen each other in probably over 11 years, which in itself is sad too, but this is our family. Had we been given better notice, we could have maybe done something different, but it was all pretty much left up in the air. I don't like how this thing went down at all. :tongue_smilie: Besides, I don't know that they plan on leaving DC until next SUNDAY, which means we will have had them here for NINE DAYS. I have never even had FAMILY over for nine days!

[Kat817 19]

Beth, I'd do something like ask if they minded if I got in that room for a few minutes, as I need to measure to see if the crib is going to go where I think it will or not, and to make sure the room is baby proofed. POINT BLANK it tells them the baby is going to be IN that room. If it is mentioned, and you cannot say simply "you gotta go" which I couldn't either, I would tell them, that you hate to do it, but you are going to have to move them to the other room on a couple of air mattresses, as your son in law has a bad back, or what ever!!!

But hopefully when they realize they ARE losing the room, they will adjust plans. I'd play it off like they should have realized it, or that I thought DH had mentioned it....whatever, but not act like it was a questionable thing, just that your kids WILL be in that room.

There is the old saying that Guests like Fish begin to stink after 3 days or something like that, that I am too lazy to look up for sure!!! LOL

Good Luck!

Kat

[BethFromVA 5]

Beth, I'd do something like ask if they minded if I got in that room for a few minutes, as I need to measure to see if the crib is going to go where I think it will or not, and to make sure the room is baby proofed. POINT BLANK it tells them the baby is going to be IN that room. If it is mentioned, and you cannot say simply "you gotta go" which I couldn't either, I would tell them, that you hate to do it, but you are going to have to move them to the other room on a couple of air mattresses, as your son in law has a bad back, or what ever!!!

But hopefully when they realize they ARE losing the room, they will adjust plans. I'd play it off like they should have realized it, or that I thought DH had mentioned it....whatever, but not act like it was a questionable thing, just that your kids WILL be in that room.

There is the old saying that Guests like Fish begin to stink after 3 days or something like that, that I am too lazy to look up for sure!!! LOL

Good Luck!

Kat

That is the right saying, Kat. My grandmother LIVED by it! :tongue_smilie:

And sadly, it's even more than wanting them to move to another room -- it's the whole "no quality time with my family with others here," sharing ONE bathroom that has a shower (the others have tubs), and we only have about 2200 SF of living space. Five adults and a baby in that little space is a lot.

I just don't want to be sitting around in some group setting while trying to re-bond with my daughter and new grandbaby. I'll figure out a nice way to politely bow out. The friend is a good guy, and I'm sure he'll understand if he's told point blank what's going on. I just don't like the unconfortable aspect of it.

And now to make things worse, hubby is coming down with what I am trying to get rid of.

[losingjusme 12]

ahhh Beth, what an awkward situation ... but, family comes first ... no matter what. i like the idea of taking measurements for the crib to make sure it fits, etc... that will let them know that that specific room is for the baby, not them.

the DH will have to talk to them. hope he's feeling better.

[ColoradoChick 33]

PJTP: Where is Ceradad? It is so hard to be a cop groupie when he isn't around!

[BethFromVA 5]

ahhh Beth, what an awkward situation ... but, family comes first ... no matter what. i like the idea of taking measurements for the crib to make sure it fits, etc... that will let them know that that specific room is for the baby, not them.

the DH will have to talk to them. hope he's feeling better.

Yeah, he's not feeling better... and I am sure he's none to happy at me for making him sick.

I had the talk with hubby because, frankly, it gets a tad worse. I figured they were driving out by Saturday. Nope, seems they planned to stay here in DC until NEXT TUESDAY! :tongue_smilie: I told hubby that just wasn't okay with me, especially since this was somewhat sprung on us at the last minute. He said, "But you knew three months ago he was coming here." I said, "No, I knew three months ago he MIGHT be coming here. Hell, even HE didn't know for sure if he was coming here or going to Las Vegas until Monday... he said so himself just this morning!"

'Course hubby is feeling cruddy and didn't want to hear my "excuses" of why I want them to get a hotel for the second half of their visit cuz he's just feeling grouchy. He said just to tell him what I want him to say and he'll do it.

Oh, and I love this: "You knew he had 17 days of vacation." Yeah, but ALL of it HERE?? I was hearing staying in New York for some time, etc. HELLO???

[tapshoes 2]

Update on fallen tree branch

The good news - as far as they can tell, the only damage is the fascia, eavestrough, and about 3 foot square of the roof.

The bad news - that's all they can see, as the branch was too big to be cut without risk of further damage. As the adjuster said - that's not a branch, that's a tree trunk! They have called in a boon truck for tomorrow to hold and lift the branch/trunk so they can see what damage is beneath it.

Stay tuned tomorrow, for another installment of the life of Tapshoes.

[losingjusme 12]

ahhh Tap... good news, but not great ... hope you get it resolved tomorrow.

[Gracey 7]

Susan - guess what add-on I downloaded!!

[MacMadame 81]

IME, people who make loose plans like that are rarely put out if you want them to change them. They'll just make some new plans.

[ColoradoChick 33]

PJTP: I love Facebook.< /p>

[BethFromVA 5]

PJTP: I GOT Facebook! I feel like I finally became one of the cool kids, even if my site is really lame right now.

Edited December 29, 2008 by BethFromVA