Considering cancelling surgery

[erika702 16]

Im scheduled for surgery on sat im really considering cancelling, and try on my own one more time. I havent done the preop diet right have zero motivation. Im scared and anxiety is through the roof. Has anyone had more motivation after surgery? Any thoughts anyone else has thought and done surgery?

[Walter.Sobchak 978]

Do not cancel, that would be incredibly lame. I was scared before surgery and had thoughts about cancelling and I am so glad I didnt. I am down 100 pounds in 7 months and feeling much better. Life will be difficult after surgery as the surgery is not a cure all but just a tool to help you lose weight. Think about how many times you have tried to lose weight on your own, maybe you had success but did you have long term success? did you keep the weight off?

Being scared is understandable as it is major surgery, but it will be well worth it. It will not be easy but you can do it.

[beccaconaty87 52]

Im scheduled for surgery on sat im really considering cancelling, and try on my own one more time. I havent done the preop diet right have zero motivation. Im scared and anxiety is through the roof. Has anyone had more motivation after surgery? Any thoughts anyone else has thought and done surgery?

I didn't go through with surgery. Lost 40lbs on my own. Then slowly over this year gained it back. Now I'm redoing the 6th month insurance process. And I regret not following through the last time. What are your stats? Do you have high BP, diabetes, etc?? How old are you?

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[FluffyChix 17,415]

You will regain. But in my honest opinion, if you aren't 100% on board mentally? I wouldn't do it. Cuz in the end, I think it's the people who are do-or-die that keep it off without regain. And this is a golden shot. The surgery is the best it will ever be (effective) the first time around. Any revisions are much harder to lose weight with -- or so I hear.

[erika702 16]

Do not cancel, that would be incredibly lame. I was scared before surgery and had thoughts about cancelling and I am so glad I didnt. I am down 100 pounds in 7 months and feeling much better. Life will be difficult after surgery as the surgery is not a cure all but just a tool to help you lose weight. Think about how many times you have tried to lose weight on your own, maybe you had success but did you have long term success? did you keep the weight off?
Being scared is understandable as it is major surgery, but it will be well worth it. It will not be easy but you can do it.

Everytime i get on a diet once i stall i give up completely and go back to gaining weight over time. Thanks! Ill consider your comment.

[elforman 234]

Ask yourself these questions:

• Has anything really changed in my life since first deciding to have the surgery?
• Haven't I gained and lost and gained and lost many times over already?
• Do I really believe I can do it on my own this time when it's never worked in the past?

If you can answer those honestly and still think that surgery is not the right thing to do, then talk to your doctor. Don't call and say you want to cancel, just set up an appointment because you have questions. good luck and I hope you make the right decision for yourself.

Edited March 27, 2018 by elforman

[redhead_che 824]

I agree with FluffyChix--if a person isn't 100% on board mentally the surgery may not be as successful. I was 100% do or die, still am 4 months out. It's weight loss or bust!

I will add though--you mentioned not following the pre-op diet "right". I'm wondering if your surgeon would cancel it just because of that. My surgeon stated if I had any cheating at all my surgery would be cancelled due to the risk of injury to the liver if it was still enlarged. Might be worth calling their nurse line depending on how much you didn't follow the plan. That was one of the questions the nurse asked me on my pre-op call (2 days before surgery) was if I followed the diet.

[aNYCdb 310]

8 minutes ago, erika702 said:

Everytime i get on a diet once i stall i give up completely and go back to gaining weight over time. Thanks! Ill consider your comment.

To be honest I think this is probably the story of 95% of us. That's why we are did or want to do this surgery, because it will give us new tools to lose weight and keep it off so we can get off the lose then gain then lose then gain carousel. I understand that you may be nervous and people talk about the surgery as "life changing" probably add more pressure. At the end of the day though this is a relatively simple surgery with less than 1 out of 100 having any sort of serious complications, that will give you the ability to lose weight while longer term helping you keep it off. People talk about the risk of stretching their pouch and all that jazz, but at the end of the day that isn't the likely outcome because you will feel full (feeling hungry was always the reason I gained weight).

[FluffyChix 17,415]

8 minutes ago, aNYCdb said:

To be honest I think this is probably the story of 95% of us. That's why we are did or want to do this surgery, because it will give us new tools to lose weight and keep it off so we can get off the lose then gain then lose then gain carousel. I understand that you may be nervous and people talk about the surgery as "life changing" probably add more pressure. At the end of the day though this is a relatively simple surgery with less than 1 out of 100 having any sort of serious complications, that will give you the ability to lose weight while longer term helping you keep it off. People talk about the risk of stretching their pouch and all that jazz, but at the end of the day that isn't the likely outcome because you will feel full (feeling hungry was always the reason I gained weight).

This is so wrong. I think the statistics are that at 5 years more than 80% have regained on average of 50% of their weight. THAT's the real risk.

I don't know about you, but I just spent the last year of my life preparing mentally and physically to change my life forever and to cut away 90% of my tummy and resect 2m of my bowel in order to do this. I can assure EVERYONE and their brother, I did not do this to cavalierly cheat like crap on my 2week pre-op diet, and have a 50% of excess weight loss at 5 year. I can get those statistics with WW or IF and still have a normal anatomy that doesn't require strict adherence to a daily Vitamin regimen.

She readily admits that she's so blase about the surgery, that she has not fully "bought in" to the whole surgery thing...that either speaks to someone still so fat addicted, she doesn't want to re-organize her relationship with food, or is too emotionally immature to grasp the risks and long-term consequences of surgery. She would have a high risk of being one of the ones who come and tell us "I ate pizza as I was leaving the hospital."

Sorry...but dayum! Her post is very alarming. (Go ahead. I'm wearing asbestos granny panties today--so release the Krakken!)

Edited March 27, 2018 by FluffyChix

[aNYCdb 310]

9 minutes ago, FluffyChix said:

This is so wrong. I think the statistics are that at 5 years more than 80% have regained on average of 50% of their weight. THAT's the real risk.

I don't know about you, but I just spent the last year of my life preparing mentally and physically to change my life forever and to cut away 90% of my tummy and resect 2m of my bowel in order to do this. I can assure EVERYONE and their brother, I did not do this to cavalierly cheat like crap on my 2week pre-op diet, and have a 50% of excess weight loss at 5 year. I can get those statistics with WW or IF and still have a normal anatomy that doesn't require strict adherence to a daily Vitamin regimen.

She readily admits that she's so blase about the surgery, that she has not fully "bought in" to the whole surgery thing...that either speaks to someone still so fat addicted, she doesn't want to re-organize her relationship with food, or is too emotionally immature to grasp the risks and long-term consequences of surgery. She would have a high risk of being one of the ones who come and tell us "I ate pizza as I was leaving the hospital."

Sorry...but dayum! Her post is very alarming. (Go ahead. I'm wearing asbestos granny panties today--so let release the Krakken!)

Your statistics seem to back up what I was saying, that at 5 years out most patients have maintained the majority of their weight loss. I don't think any diet in the world can match that.

I would also add that my Father is one of those success as a failure stories. Growing up he was 350lbs had an RNY and dropped to 180 before slowly over the next 10 years going up to and settling at ~225. He's part of that 80% that failed in your book, but he is so much healthier than he ever was before.

As for the rest I'm not in any position to try to psychoanalyze the OP, but what she wrote sound more like she has been stressed out by the prospect of the surgery which has caused here less than ideal response.

Edited March 27, 2018 by aNYCdb

[erika702 16]

To be honest I think this is probably the story of 95% of us. That's why we are did or want to do this surgery, because it will give us new tools to lose weight and keep it off so we can get off the lose then gain then lose then gain carousel. I understand that you may be nervous and people talk about the surgery as "life changing" probably add more pressure. At the end of the day though this is a relatively simple surgery with less than 1 out of 100 having any sort of serious complications, that will give you the ability to lose weight while longer term helping you keep it off. People talk about the risk of stretching their pouch and all that jazz, but at the end of the day that isn't the likely outcome because you will feel full (feeling hungry was always the reason I gained weight).

Thankyou!!!! Thats my problem i dont mind eating healthy the problem is when i get hungry is when it all falls apart and i looked into the sleeve because its goin to help me feel full and not get hungry. Like everyone said its a tool not a miracle.

[FluffyChix 17,415]

I was hungry the day after surgery. What are you honestly gonna do then? You CAN'T eat or you will buggar your surgery. That is what I mean about being prepared. I "get" stressed. We're all stressed leading up to surgery. It's a scary stressful, NORMAL time.

But if you have any doubts of having the intestinal fortitude to muscle through after surgery to keep from injuring yourself until you are at least healed, then that's when I would call the ball, talk to your team, get counseling, and proceed after they tell you you're ready. Cuz you DON'T wanna be only 50% at 5 years. F that! You want to maintain for life, don't you? I know I do.

[erika702 16]

I was hungry the day after surgery. What are you honestly gonna do then? You CAN'T eat or you will buggar your surgery. That is what I mean about being prepared. I "get" stressed. We're all stressed leading up to surgery. It's a scary stressful, NORMAL time.
But if you have any doubts of having the intestinal fortitude to muscle through after surgery to keep from injuring yourself until you are at least healed, then that's when I would call the ball, talk to your team, get counseling, and proceed after they tell you you're ready. Cuz you DON'T wanna be only 50% at 5 years. F that! You want to maintain for life, don't you? I know I do.

Well thanks for the moral support.

[aNYCdb 310]

1 minute ago, erika702 said:

Well thanks for the moral support.

Everyone's journey is different and FluffyChix is comming from a place of concern. I'm not reading into your comments the same thing she is, but she's right that to get the most out of the surgery you need to be prepared to stick to the program to a certain extent. If you think you can do that then the gastric sleeve is going to be a huge help.

[FluffyChix 17,415]

59 minutes ago, erika702 said:

Im scheduled for surgery on sat im really considering cancelling, and try on my own one more time. I havent done the preop diet right have zero motivation. Im scared and anxiety is through the roof. Has anyone had more motivation after surgery? Any thoughts anyone else has thought and done surgery?

Do you have any idea how many people would give their left nut to have the opportunity you have right now?

I'm not making this stuff up. THIS ^^^^ is what I based my responses on. Sorry, but I don't do "martyr" posts. There was a reason I unleashed and told you the king's new clothes are his birthday suit.

This is tooooo serious a surgery to go in with this attitude.

Everyone and their brother has anxiety about the surgery. BFD! We deal with it and move on. But I don't know of many who actually adopted a laissez faire attitude to the pre-surgical diet (and I'm talking about the actual PRE-OP diet, not the pre-six month weight loss diet--we all have cheated during that and lived to tell about it--and moved forward through surgery. It's far too dangerous and irresponsible IMHO to not take the pre-op diet seriously.

Edited March 27, 2018 by FluffyChix